Elysian

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  1. All of the things mentioned like yoga, meditation, shadow work, are just aspects of a larger mechanism. The reason why you are noticing some behavior improvements is because these activities raise your vibration, i.e. vibrational healing. You haven't noticed the significant results you were looking for because you don't understand that the major underlying mechanism of spirituality is vibration and vibrational healing. Spirituality is about letting go of what you are not, so you can recognize your self for what you are. When you do something like shadow work, what's actually happening is you face lower vibrational wounds you have, and by facing them you release them. When you release lower vibrations, you have a higher vibration, a higher resonate frequency. When you operate at a higher resonate frequency, your behavior changes to suit it. The changes in behavior outlined in SD are really just the effects of raising one's vibration. If you want to see improvement in your ability to feel love, joy, and serenity, focus on vibrational healing instead of shooting randomly in the dark hoping you hit something enlightening. Enlightenment comes naturally to a higher vibrational being by the way, because you can't help but realize it after entering a certain vibrational range. Which means aiming for enlightenment when you are at a low vibration is futile, or at least extremely difficult. It's like a child that's learning long division attempting algebra, it's just beyond you. It's because you haven't done the necessary healing to understand existence on a deeper level. Healing completely is the first step of spirituality, and if you do that you will be ahead of almost every human being on the planet, as in less than .1% of the population.
  2. Unconditional love. We wouldn't exist without it.
  3. For the reasons I stated below it.
  4. Unconditional love is so much more than that. You're only describing recognizing the innate beauty and divinity in all things. Not to downplay that, being moved to the point of having tears of love and ecstacy is one of the most rewarding aspects of being human. Imagine the person who means the most in the world to you. Someone that you want in your life until your last day. Then you discover that their suffering in some way, like most human beings are. You have the means to heal enough of their suffering for them to live a more enjoyable life, but if you share that love/healing with them, they're likely to cut you out of their life permanently. And you don't think twice, you immediately do it, because you recognize it's what's best for them. Even though it hurts you deeply to trigger their pain like that, even though they'll think the worst of you, even though you would feel so grateful to have them in your life, you still do it without hesitation. That is unconditonal love. When you'd sacrifice your own happiness for the higher desire of their eventual happiness, that will be had with other beings who will never show them the degree of love you did. And after all of that, you still feel blessed to have been able to play such a role in their journey. That's just one small sliver of unconditonal love.
  5. Why would you talk about yourself with such disdain and hatred?
  6. You fall mostly in the vibrational range known as Orange in SD. Skeptical, neurotic like every stage below Coral, discounting the unknown, and highly resistant to unconditional love. I tried to explain things as best as I could in a way that someone within your vibrational range could understand, but you wanted to talk about things beyond the understanding of your current vibration. And I could only explain so much, so I apologize for any confusion you might feel in what was being discussed. Just know that the world is more magical than you could possibly imagine. And if you want to get a taste of the paradise known as existence, go on a deeper journey to discover who and what you truly are. Spirituality is the peeling away of everything you think you are and know, so the true beauty of unconditional love can obliterate all illusions. Sounds pretty exciting if you ask me.
  7. The ego usually enters denial when it's the most comfortable option. When you're comfortable, you're likely not to grow. Perfect environment for an ego to blossom, good to know how rooted you are in delusion.
  8. I've seen your message and will be replying to you, even though telepathy doesn't apply to what happened here. It was a reading of intention via communication, if we're getting specific. I've had a lot on my plate the past couple days, but felt called to dig heavily into a few threads before replying to messages. I do apologize for not replying sooner, and I will be in touch. Just to illuminate how I discuss with people, I find it most effective to dive deeply into conversations with a few people rather than shallowly with many. This has great applications with healing, but has downsides with me not being able to respond to everyone when I become busy in other areas of my life. I'll reach out in the next hour or so.
  9. I live my life in dedication to the service of others, so no need to make assumptions on what I embody and don't. I've only embodied Divinity here in this thread. Even though you're not at a level of awareness to comprehend what took place here and how healing it was, it doesn't mean that time was wasted. You've only typed this because of a wound of your own about not living up to your own expectations. I've been their myself, and I feel your pain more than you know. I was always my own harshest critic, my own worst enemy for most of my life. Most of my wounds were centered around me being overcritical of myself, never showing myself the compassion I would show others. I suggest spending some time contemplating this tendency to be too hard on yourself. I have a feeling one of your core wounds is related to this.
  10. You're projecting on to me how you would be being in my position, from an egoic perspective, because you're still functioning with an ego. My ego flew the nest when the last of Kundalini energy left, since it interestingly enough resides in your Kundalini energy. And for months before that I had already halted all egoic desire, and ego was just along for the ride. What is left could be called different things, in different ways. The most honest and descriptive way I could put what I mean when I say "I", is individualized intuition that functions as a unique expression of unconditional love. I am an individual, but not in an egoic sense. I reincarnated here with the purpose of adding my own unique flavor of the Divine love that we all are, with all energetic blockages clear, leaving only pure authenticity. I don't act based on any selfishness. My mind, which isn't the egoic mind, but the intuitive/cosmic mind that Ken Wilber describes, is only use to move me towards helping others in the ways that resonate with me the most. I only take care of my self with self love, which isn't something you actually start feeling until you feel unconditional love for others. And I only do so because if I'm not at optimal health, then it will hinder the healing I can offer others. The things beings normally do selfishly even though they consider them self care aren't even done by me without selfless intention, so your assumptions are misguided. 'You've set yourself up as "the savior". I think you have some good insights but I believe that your motives are misguided. What makes you think you are in a place to be "healing" others? Sounds like ego.' The reality is this all was just one big egoic judgment. I've never given the impression my motives were impure, you've only projected your impurity of intention on to me. What is so repelling about me that makes you think I'm not in a place to be a healer? That I'm not holding someone's hand as they walk through the fires of purification? Do you even know what it means to be a healer? The thing that most people don't realize is that once you develop past a certain point spiritually, reaching a certain level of vibration, you are automatically a healer by nature. That means every being that elevates their vibration beyond a certain point is literally healing others just by being in their presence. When you operate from a place of pure intention, pure unconditional love, your interactions with lower vibrational beings become healing without any effort on your part. It's one of the most key mechanisms of this universe, and is how things inevitably move towards love and unity. Not to mention most people who reach these higher vibrations, choose to dedicate themselves to a life of service in whatever way that resonates with them the most, because they have no greater desire than to help elevate consciousness. Healers are forged by beings who commit fully to their own healing. I don't need 3 letter credentials to be myself. I have suffered immensely this lifetime, and because of that I know how others feel when they suffer. Because I'm deeply empathic I have the desire to help people through their hard times because I know what it's like to be there. It's not a savior complex, I just love deeply, and if I'm going to turn away from someone's suffering when they need me the most, what in the hell am I even doing here anyway? It's unhealthy to try and call someone out on possibly not overcoming something you haven't overcome yourself, so focus on dealing with your own ego before claiming someone else check theirs. If you still have one functioning at that controlling level like you do, then you don't even know what it means or looks like to not have your ego calling the shots, much less non-existent.
  11. @TheAvatarState This is just an online forum, but this hasn't been a typical interaction in any sense. You are absolutely correct, many people would not be able to take this intensity of healing this long without walking away, much less begin to really open up sincerely. I really appreciate you keeping an open mind and trying to open your heart. I'm currently using this method of healing, the tough love approach, because it's usually the most effective for doing serious amounts of healing. Depending on what the individual can handle, I adjust the intensity accordingly. Unfortunately the more resistant someone is, the tougher I have to be, and that's usually what people need in this era. I would much rather use a more gentle approach, but that requires someone to open up more and become more receptive. You've probably noticed that since you've done so this conversation has become much less difficult. And I can assure you, there is no sort of complex or condescension on my part. I'm no better than anyone else, nor am I more capable than anyone else. I've suffered very intensely, had many wounds, and am in no place to judge anyone. There is no ego here to judge, so just know every word I use is done so out of love and for the betterment of all involved. Just imagine love to be what you need not what you want. And what everyone needs the most of in this world is healing. The only way to heal is to dig through our pain so we can move beyond it. It doesn't always hurt when something is healed, but it often does. Whatever method is most effective at doing that, and getting through it as painless and quickly as possible, is the way I implement my love. There's no other agenda here than to help you become the shining example of Divinity you came here to be. I know what it's like to not have anyone to talk to about spirituality, and all of these complex aspects of the human experience. If you want need someone to talk to about spirituality I'm more than willing to be a part of your journey if you want to be a part of mine. I use this way of interaction to heal others as long as they can tolerate it. Even if we only go back and forth a couple times it likely ends up being the most healing experience of their life, but it's not the only reason I do it. If someone can move past their ego, and at least take the chance to open up to a possibly extremely healing experience, after getting triggered and rubbed the wrong way like above, then it means that they are genuinely ready to finish their journey down the path of healing. Because if they can take this kind of heat, this fiery love, then they can handle the rapid elevation in vibration like I can offer. That's because it's a lot easier of an ascension from here on out, if someone is open to taking my hand. I have methods of elevating your vibration that are easy, and much less difficult to work through. You can think of this as an initiation on the healer's path, if you want to continue that is. I've developed a model and practice that's much more effective than SD, and would bring you into unconditional love rapidly, if that's what you truly want. Just message me if you want to continue talking. I'm not sorry I was so rough, but I am sorry that it was bothering you like it did. It really hurts me to be that hard on people, even if it's what they need.
  12. I didn't assume anything, you just don't understand how powerful and revealing your words and intentions are. You didn't feel what you think love is, because you don't actually know what unconditional love looks like. It takes a lot of inner work to even recognize unconditional love, it puts into perspective how long of a journey it is to actually feel it for someone else. A jab at me loving, it's a nice touch. When loving others isn't considered the most important thing someone could be doing with their life, as if being a loving person means you can't practice self love. The world has much further to grow spiritually, if this is what is found on one of the largest spiritual public forums. As long as you're willing to let me continue to heal you by responding to me, I'm more than willing to hand it out, even if you don't know what genuine healing looks like. I'll tell you one thing, the most effective forms of healing rub the ego raw in the worst way.
  13. Unconditional love isn't what you want, it's what you need. Do you think I like triggering you, bringing up pain, being abrasive? It hurts me more deeply than you could possibly imagine to bring someone's suffering into their awareness, even if they are only partially aware of how much pain was actually addressed. I just know that they will suffer less in the long term by healing, and so I take on the pain of hurting someone I love for their sake. And you don't even care, you haven't even done the spiritual work to even be aware of how you truly feel. You thought I was giving you advice, when all I did was show you the deepest love there is, which healed you in so many ways you can't even possibly imagine. But go on, respond to me with irritation and disdain. Jesus was such a great man, or whoever that figure actually depicted. He loved so deeply, that they crucified him just for showing his compassion. And he still loved them as they lashed out, how incredible is that? "Forgive them Father, they know not what they do." I'm grateful for the chance to elevate you anyway, we need people to be more loving and kind in this world, even if they don't recognize that yet.
  14. I function beyond ego and move by intuition, when you say I you mean the ego. When I say I, I mean individualized intuition. Or you could also say, an unimpeded vehicle for unconditional love. Authenticity is about following the root of your desires, but the root of your desires is something that came from before this lifetime. Inauthenticity is becoming what the world shapes you to be, and spirituality is the process of removing the layers of inauthenticity to become the perfect vehicle for your true nature, which is an individualized expression of unconditonal love. If life isn't effortless, then you're living inauthentically and still likely have a lot of healing to do. If you genuinely don't wake up when you "need" to, and this isn't just a hypothetical (hypotheticals are unhealthy by the way, rest yourself in reality not the ego), it's not a sign of authenticity. What it's a sign of is that you've set a schedule that isn't aligned with the time your body naturally would wake up on it's own. Careful attaching meaning to something beyond what it is, that's the ego's game. What it would mean though is you are exhibiting some sort of behavior that has led to you being in a position that doesn't resonate with your body's circadian rhythm, which is very unhealthy. If you do this to yourself maybe it's time to take a step back and reassess what really matters most to you. Whether or not this behavior is inauthentic would depend on whether at the deepest level you valued this activity that disrupts your circadian rhythm more than your optimal health and well being. As far as "being a monkey who gets up on time", I merely was explaining the way conditioning is learned. The reason that is a popular saying is because we do learn like other primates, at least when we are still operating with an ego. But if you were beyond ego this would all be clear to you. The reason you found my use of comparing you to a monkey triggering, is because of egoic wounds you have, insecurities. Because a higher vibrational being was interacting with you to bring this out through a temporary elevation in your vibration, this was actually a very healing experience for you, healing a few different wounds actually. By the time you've read this far there have already been many other wounds that have been healed, because the various triggerings of your lower vibrational emotions, ie. inauthentic aspects of yourself, lead to emotional releases. Normally these being triggered by someone of a similar vibration as yourself or lower wouldn't have been healing at all, it could've even been harmful. But gratefully since you're having this interaction with me, a higher vibrational being, it's actually permanently elevated your vibration by removing some of youe lower vibrational material. Your welcome. Even that "Your welcome" was triggering, it's been a very healing day for you.
  15. Conditioning in terms of beings is accruing inauthentic behavior patterns by either consciously or subconsciously recognizing some utility by doing so. Monkey see monkey do. Behavior isn't conditioning if you are doing it from a place of pure authenticity. And if you haven't completely healed yourself in all ways then you don't even know what that true nature looks like.
  16. @TheAvatarState I can read your energy through the screen, the intentions of beings is clearly communicated through all of their forms of communication, including nonverbal, throughout their entire lifetime. For beings with the ability to step outside of time, they can go back and see the intentions you've had every moment of your life, which I can. No assumptions have been made here, other than the ones you've made, which are many. Why even mention the "void" when you don't really know what you're talking about. There are beings who understand not only this universe, but how this universe was created, and the entire multiverse. You're blocked not from my wisdom, but the wisdom of the entire universe. As are all beings who haven't done the proper vibrational/spiritual work to shed their egoic wounds, and then the ego in it's entirety. You talk about love, ego, and infinity without having ever truly been able to comprehend all three. Not only that, but you've been explaining it with authority while not being able to comprehend it in any meaningful way. That's because you've been talking about genuine aspects of existence within the limitations of intellectual understanding, using only the processing power of a primate's brain. The thing is, the infinite depth of love is beyond words, but for one who understands it through direct experience, they can explain it to others in a way that is close enough to help guide them towards that love. Which is what I've been doing the whole time, but you've been resistant because of your egoic wounds. Love isn't just some concept, just some facet among many, love is literally all there is in this universe. What do you think the point of existence Is? And there is a point by the way. The universe moves from perfect unity, perfect unconditional love, outwards into disorder and chaos, so that it can experience the inevitable return back to unity. The driving force for this entire progression, for this push towards unity, is love, that is love. The lower your vibration, the less aware a being is of love and it's depth. The further you raise your vibration, the further access you have to knowing what love is. But most importantly the further you raise your vibration, the more effortlessly love can move through you. Love can't flow unimpeded with ego and all of it's baggage running amuck. I haven't felt much love come from you since this conversation started, which is why I don't understand why you try to explain what it is and what it isn't instead of listen to someone who is obviously more in touch with it than you. It only hurts yourself and everyone who has to interact with you when you resist love that is offered to you. Unconditional love is so much different than the way they portray it in the movies or fairytales. Unconditional love is the most beautiful emotion we will ever experience, but it can also be extremely painful. It's because healing, true healing, never feels good. But when you love someone unconditionally, like I do you right now, and you see how much pain their in, how much suffering they're currently experiencing, you would do anything to change it. You would even put that person through intense suffering so that they can heal, even though it breaks your heart into a million pieces to see them in pain. It's because true unconditional love isn't about what someone wants, it's about what they need. That's the difference between the conditional love expressed by most humans and the kind of love I've been showing you this whole time. You've thought I've been combative this whole time, but you've just been projecting your own anger and frustration onto me. Your wounds haven't allowed you to see how desperately I've been trying to pull you out of the haze your in. Things have been worded in a way by me that are completely objective and free of any low vibrational emotion, but to someone who is wounded and holding on to fear based emotions, it would definitely appear to be the opposite. It's because fear is resistance to love, and love is what I've been showing you this whole time. It only feels abrasive because we needed to scrub off some of what you aren't to reveal some of what you are. We've been nonstop triggering wounds of yours so they can be released and never bother you again. Psychedelics are only one form of healing, and you've just been exposed to another. This has been the most healing experience of your life, whether you recognize it or not. Try to remain more open minded next time someone is offering you help, you never know when love will come knocking at your door. Take care.
  17. I addressed what you've incorrectly stated for your benefit and the benefit of all who read it. I've also simultaneously triggered insecurities in you through my higher vibration and unconditional love for you, your welcome. Even the sentence you just finished reading triggered another emotional wound, your welcome for that too. Remember, triggered wounds when in the presence of/interacting with someone of a higher vibration becomes healing. If you care to understand more about what the OP asked in his question, read my first post. I don't use egoic imagination, so no need to project onto me. Models point towards the nature of existence. Depending on the depth of unconditional love the creator of the model has, and the time invested into creating/improving the model, they can be greatly beneficial and accurate when it comes to helping illuminate the underlying mechanisms of this universe. This, in terms of vibrational understanding, also helps accelerate spiritual growth, so no need to discount their utility. You only hurt yourself and others in the process.
  18. The vibrational range known as Turquoise is much different than the one known as Yellow. What is called Green is much more similar to Yellow, than Yellow to Turquoise. There's even a larger gap between low Turquoise and High Turquoise than Yellow to low Turquoise. At what is called Turquoise you begin feeling deeper love, and this increases throughout Turquoise. But completely pure, unconditional love, isn't fully felt until high Coral, and until then there are still energetic blockages that prevent the individual from experiencing unconditional love in it's totality. No psychedelic is linked to the low vibrations/stages of human beings, that's why they raise our vibration. Because they are of such high vibration that we are elevated in their presence. Psychedelics are also not the fastest or most direct path to healing, just one of many healing modalities.
  19. To understand psychedelics it's very useful to understand how all healing works, because for most individuals, they are still using psychedelics while they are in the process of healing, which makes the psychedelics a healing instrument. Healing happens as a byproduct of raising the resonant frequency of an individual, or more simply put the vibration that they typically operate from, their base vibration. When one's vibration is raised to a vibration higher than their resonant frequency, the lower vibrational wounds they've accrued over their lifetime that are too out of resonance with the new, higher vibration are pushed out of the energetic field. What this means is that times when you were wounded, like feeling abandoned, abused, stricken with overwhelming grief, that vibrationally too low compared to your current vibration, they literally cannot exist anymore in one's energetic field. When this happens these old wounds will naturally come up into your awareness and be triggered by the events currently going on in your life. When they are, and they are felt consciously, that is when healing takes place. To heal vibrationally means to face your pain, so you can then let it go. That's literally the way wounds exist and how they are fully healed. All true forms of healing work by introducing higher vibrations to the energetic field in some way that forces lower vibrations out of it. And even if the elevation in vibration is temporary, removing wounds/energetic blockages permanently increases one's own vibration/resonate frequency. This means that even if your vibration was only temporarily increased by the healing mechanism, any energetic blockages that have been cleared by the healing leave your resonate frequency slightly higher, so when you come back down from the temporary increase in vibration you don't actually come back down to your previous vibration. You go back down to the new slightly elevated vibration because of your healing. This is how psychedelics work for someone who's still healing (which is almost every person currently alive). The way that the psychedelic healing mechanism works is by forcing someone very rapidly, usually within seconds, minutes, or at most a few hours into a completely new, higher vibration than they are currently operating in, temporarily. What happens when we enter a higher vibration? We begin healing. Healing comes in the form of realizations, of insecurities getting triggered, or through projecting your pain onto someone else. Since psychedelics rather forcefully throw you into a temporary higher vibration, instead of slowly, permanently increasing your vibration like most forms of healing, what usually happens is a massive rush of realizations/insecurities being triggered/lashing out all at once. This is because you are getting access to a massive amount of healing all at once. The biggest downfall for psychedelics is that you can only heal so much in a certain amount of time. There is a limit on how much healing can happen within minutes or hours. This means that most of what you experienced will not actually be useful. The experience will be healing, but only partially. This is why people come back down saying they had so many insights and opportunities to heal but they weren't able to hold on to barely any of it. Now that's not to say psychedelics aren't healing, because they are. It's just that it's one of the toughest forms of healing that can only offer so much healing in such a small amount of time. There are other forms of healing that do the same thing, but slowly over days or months, that only permanently increase your vibration instead of a combination of temporary elevation with a slight permanent increase in vibration. And those other forms of healing are also much easier on the mind and body, just something to consider. This video describes fairly high vibrational material in a way that the egoic mind can understand on a basic level, and might help put vibration into perspective.
  20. To understand psychedelics it's very useful to understand how all healing works, because for most individuals, they are still using psychedelics while they are in the process of healing, which makes the psychedelics a healing instrument. Healing happens as a byproduct of raising the resonant frequency of an individual, or more simply put the vibration that they typically operate from, their base vibration. When one's vibration is raised to a vibration higher than their resonant frequency, the lower vibrational wounds they've accrued over their lifetime that are too out of resonance with the new, higher vibration are pushed out of the energetic field. What this means is that times when you were wounded, like feeling abandoned, abused, stricken with overwhelming grief, that vibrationally too low compared to your current vibration, they literally cannot exist anymore in one's energetic field. When this happens these old wounds will naturally come up into your awareness and be triggered by the events currently going on in your life. When they are, and they are felt consciously, that is when healing takes place. To heal vibrationally means to face your pain, so you can then let it go. That's literally the way wounds exist and how they are fully healed. All true forms of healing work by introducing higher vibrations to the energetic field in some way that forces lower vibrations out of it. And even if the elevation in vibration is temporary, removing wounds/energetic blockages permanently increases one's own vibration/resonate frequency. This means that even if your vibration was only temporarily increased by the healing mechanism, any energetic blockages that have been cleared by the healing leave your resonate frequency slightly higher, so when you come back down from the temporary increase in vibration you don't actually come back down to your previous vibration. You go back down to the new slightly elevated vibration because of your healing. This is how psychedelics work for someone who's still healing (which is almost every person currently alive). The way that the psychedelic healing mechanism works is by forcing someone very rapidly, usually within seconds, minutes, or at most a few hours into a completely new, higher vibration than they are currently operating in, temporarily. What happens when we enter a higher vibration? We begin healing. Healing comes in the form of realizations, of insecurities getting triggered, or through projecting your pain onto someone else. Since psychedelics rather forcefully throw you into a temporary higher vibration, instead of slowly, permanently increasing your vibration like most forms of healing, what usually happens is a massive rush of realizations/insecurities being triggered/lashing out all at once. This is because you are getting access to a massive amount of healing all at once. The biggest downfall for psychedelics is that you can only heal so much in a certain amount of time. There is a limit on how much healing can happen within minutes or hours. This means that most of what you experienced will not actually be useful. The experience will be healing, but only partially. This is why people come back down saying they had so many insights and opportunities to heal but they weren't able to hold on to barely any of it. Now that's not to say psychedelics aren't healing, because they are. It's just that it's one of the toughest forms of healing that can only offer so much healing in such a small amount of time. There are other forms of healing that do the same thing, but slowly over days or months, that only permanently increase your vibration instead of a combination of temporary elevation with a slight permanent increase in vibration. And those other forms of healing are also much easier on the mind and body, just something to consider. All the different stages of Spiral Dynamics represent, are different vibrational ranges. They are ranges of vibration one's current resonate frequency could reside within that are similar enough to group them into a range of vibration known as a stage in the SD model. At different stages, at different vibrational ranges, there are different aspects of the individual that need to be healed. This varies at every stage, even into high Coral, regardless of the healing mechanism. But for individuals that are at lower vibrational ranges, like those at the stages known as Blue and below, they likely won't be open to psychedelic healing. So when trying to heal someone from this state it's much more effective to use healing methods that resonate as safe, like sound therapy, for example. Which is even useful into what is called high Coral in SD. This video gives a brief explanation of vibration. And although much of the content is extremely high vibrational understanding, it's presented in a way to make basic sense to the egoic mind.
  21. Forget enlightenment, what about fully healing as an individual before even contemplating romantic involvement? Enlightenment comes naturally after doing the proper healing/vibrational work, so anyone going directly for enlightenment before this is wasting their time. They're trying to have a high vibrational realization from a low vibrational view point. Just know that until you do the healing that you absolutely need, you are bringing all of your unhealthy, neurotic, and unloving tendencies into your relationship with every person, not even including romantic relationships. You likely can't abstain from every relationship while you heal, and even if you could for most that would be unhealthy, but it's a choice to enter a romantic relationship. You don't need a romantic partner, if you haven't healed you don't even know who you would authentically want as a partner. And the people who usually get hurt the most by unhealthy individuals are the one's closest to them. Which means the closer you bring somebody to you, the more intimate you become without doing the proper vibrational work, the more you're going to hurt the people you care about. Focus on being who the world desperately needs you to be instead of egoic desires, like having someone join in your suffering.