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Now see its really simple. Everything eventually condenses to direct experience and rest is speculation. All you want as a man is pickup and a relationship and better understanding of female nature Now For pickup, you simply follow Leo's advice, you don't need any YouTube channel or course unless you are eager to pay for it and it's easily available in your area. For pickup without any course, you simply follow Leo's advice that he is always giving. GO OUT, SOCIALIZE, APPROACH. This is a simple advice that Leo always gives and which a lot of men don't follow and waste their time discussing rather than actually doing things. For understanding female nature, all you need is a female in your life. Once you master approaching women in real life and spend too much time with too many women, you gradually learn a lot about female nature purely through direct experience. You won't need any false YouTube guru who probably has never dated and is simply invested in fooling men and making money, because stuff like this attracts men so much, they are ready to pay lots of money for it, you won't need that or any course or book or coach. The thing is no matter how much you read on a forum and discuss or watch or listen to these things, nothing comes closer to direct experience, you're simply wasting your time discussing too much about women without having a woman.. It is pointless. A pure waste of time. What you need is to get out of the box and test the waters yourself. Go out, socialize, improve your skills in the direct process, move to a city where you can meet many people, once you are confident you definitely get at least one woman after many trials and then you can use that opportunity to build a relationship and even if it fails, your experience will teach you how to avoid the same mistakes in future relationships and how to be better at understanding the woman you would be with. The bottom line is that relationships can't be created through courses, books and programs. You have to actually do it and be it. You have to have a relationship to know what a relationship feels and looks like and understand and experience its ups and downs. You cannot understand war or the challenges of a war by simply reading or hearing/discussing about it. You will need to actually experience a war to really know what its like be in a war situation. Relationships are hard work. It's not sitting and eating corn. Relationships are both good and bad, a blessing as well as a curse. Relationships can make or break. They are not fairy tales. To create relationships you need tons of willpower and bravery and Openness. You can't start relationships with hesitation or avoidance or fear. Then you won't fall in love.. You need boldness to fall in love and completely trust another person Also relationships are a lot of hard work and challenge. No bed of roses. I have been through multiple relationships. It's a lot of work to be there for someone.. It's like a responsibility or a job. Most people just shy away from it. They only want the rosy part of a relationship, but not the work part. So yes, you cannot be sitting at home on a couch or computer and expecting a relationship to magically happen You will need to work very hard for it happen in your life. And even if you work hard, you will go through multiple failures and dejections and disappointments that will make you upset or hurt. But this is a test.. It will test your resilience. So it's not necessary that your first relationship will magically turn out to be successful. Maybe your third or fourth relationship will become successful after a lot of trial and error if you fortunately find a compatible person. Most people in relationships struggle a lot. Very few lucky people have a successful first relationship. For most people their second or next relationship turns out to be better because by then they learn how to spot a compatible person. Till then they keep struggling. Getting a partner/woman is just the first step of the ladder. The next step is to preserve and maintain the relationship. Its like maintaining a garden. If you don't, the garden will be destroyed. So a lot of the men on here who discuss excessively about pickup actually don't have much experience and are not willing to try in real life. It's easy to talk online.. But it takes serious hard work to go there and meet many people and do practical things. It's basically what life is. You can't dream life or discuss life. You have to live it.

There is no halo effect here. Is it so hard to appreciate a person. Just because they are a public figure and a Hollywood actor doesn't automatically make them a bad person. Pitt has never been involved in any sort of scam or behavior that can be considered morally wrong. Give credit where credit is due and don't judge so quick. Just because someone looks good doesn't mean they have to have a bad heart. That's a scarcity mindset.

Brad Pitt has an amazing personality, inner peace, money and he seems to be a good guy. And his looks are a 10. He can charm any woman. So he has looks, charm and a good heart, what else can a woman want. Plus Brad Pitt is so calm while being an actor. You don't have to be a spiritual guru to be spiritual.. There is a spiritual beauty in common folks too. if Brad Pitt is so good while being constantly surrounded by fame, then imagine how spiritual he would be if he practiced like Eckhart Tolle, Pitt would surpass Tolle easily. Don't just see what a person has already achieved but also what they can possibly achieve or their hidden potential.

I won't debate you.

I don't have a problem myself because I already have relationship.. The advice I gave was meant for people who think average looks aren't good enough. And what I wanted to tell them that it's perfectly fine to look average. Not every person has to look great. So as long as they are in the bracket of good looks or even average looks they are fine People do worry about looks a lot.. It does impact their confidence. At the same time, one cannot give false confidence to someone because look matter. It's best to be honest

You're the one who is attacking me with your questions. Because I'm not interested in talking to you. . People will have different opinions

Because most people don't have great looks and if I said that the best should be looking great, then that would be a bad message for those who look average because they would think they have no chance if they don't look the best, so I said that it's the best to look average, what I mean is it's completely okay to be average because nothing to be worried about it, and as long as the person has a charming personality then it's a bonus.

I don't need to answer your questions because I don't like how you talk to me.

This is a confusing question and there are a lot of things involved in this. Too many elements. First is gender roles. These are divided. The woman can also ask the question "why does she have to give birth and raise children and not the man?" maybe the man compensates for the biological role that the woman plays on her own. Also woman don't need men as much as men need women. You can see this in the dating pattern itself. Women need more resources. This is obvious because they have responsibilities of raising kids and that's a big job in itself, in a way she is raising the children of the partner because she could choose to raise anyone's children if her desire is to only be a mother. Of course she has to choose a more reliable partner for her children. And during child bearing as well as while raising kids, it's not very hard o understand that women will have problems in handling both responsibilities of making money as well as raising children. The other question is what is a man going to do if he is not even going to be a provider. A woman does not wait for a man to give her emotional support. Because with motherhood she needs a strong shoulder not to cry on, but to handle responsibilities.. She needs resources. Even in nature, a female animal chooses a male who is more resourceful. This is to ensure survival of the species.. If you look at nature, in the biological context, the male has the responsibility of protecting the female animals and the young ones. This is how gender roles were created. A woman also invests her time and resources in creating the family. Women who make money also invest their money into their families. It won't be fair for her to contribute everything in creating a family whereas a man doesn't do anything, his role in raising children is very minimal because most family responsibilities are handled by women. So the least that a man can do is provide for his family and this also includes the woman. Now to say that women can do everything on their own and make the same money as men is actually an unfair argument Because if you take historic context, then women were never given the opportunity to make money. It was men who made money. Women were never given the empowerment and resources to make money on their own. So it's kinda unfair to expect that suddenly out of the blue, all women will have the ability to work as men or make money like men. When it comes to money, the power and the social structure or hierarchy is designed in such a way that men tend to have more wealth than women. It's only in modern times that you see women making money but not on the same level as men. This could be because of the fact that women are not empowered enough or it could be that the society is designed in such a way that it is tilted in the favor of men when it comes to accumulating wealth. Often women get discriminated in jobs or workplace and the pay ratio is always higher for men.. Now you can always argue and say that men work harder. But you cannot compare the ability of a woman to the ability of a man. Maybe from the female perspective, whatever she is putting in is equal hard work given her capacity. There is also a historical context as to why we have lower expectations from women and higher expectations from men. In the end this is not about male versus female or man versus woman but more about creating a society that gets contribution from both gender. Women contribute in their own ways and if this contribution can be supported and complemented then that's what needs to be done. In a way if you say it's not fair for a man to support a woman then in another way its also not fair for a woman to be giving birth and raising kids on their own just because it's biology. Women can also complain how men don't have to bear children. The thing is that women can't complain because it's biology. It's always much easier for men to complain. In some context, traditional gender roles actually favor men more than women. If I look at my situation in my country, i feel like it's a man who benefits from the traditional gender role. Because he only has to give a minimal amount to his family and the woman survives on a minimal amount whereas in return she bears him children, raises the kids, takes care of his home, sacrifices her career in order to create his family and does not have any skills or options to make money and is completely dependent on the favors of the husband. Meanwhile the husband gets a career, a woman, sex, a family that is children, emotional support, money and everything that he can get in life. It's the woman who suffers. Because the kids grow up and have their own lives and after the husbands death she has nothing left for herself in terms of emotional and financial support since the daddy money has to be divided among the kids. In a way she sacrifices her life for basic survival with the man which she can do anyway by just doing some odd job. Take my example. I make my own money. Hence I don't feel the need for marriage. Because traditionally in my country women married only for survival. Now I see a ton of young girls my age around me. They make money and they don't want to marry. They know what their mothers went through and they don't want to go through the same thing.. That's why guys around me are finding it very difficult to get a woman to marry. The reason is feminism. Women in my country are now ready to work because it's safer to work now than before and they feel more empowered. At the same time they don't feel they need a man anymore because they see marriage as a traditional system that they don't want to be a part of. If they can survive on their own, they don't need a man anymore. However a lot of men resent this because that way they don't get women. Oppressive societies were beneficial to men because there was a way to pressure women into marrying them Now there is no such pressure. So women are free and not wanting to marry. If this situation continues let's say for another 200 years, it is not women who will suffer, because they will enjoy single status as well as motherhood if they want it but men will find difficult to get women In a way men would resent the independence and freedom of a woman because they won't have a way to control her or a way to establish a neediness in women If a woman wants emotional support she can rely on her girl friends. Or family If she wants sex, she can use a man as a sperm machine. In order to get sex and romance, a woman doesn't need to be bounded by traditional roles of wife and motherhood. She can simply fuck a guy. She can refuse marrying him. Men won't be happy with such a system because they not only want the woman but they also want kids and marriage and a sense of ownership. So in a way, the traditional system of gender roles was actually meant to benefit men at the expense of dependency of women It's men who chase women. It's not the other way around. Men won't be happy with a system where a woman is totally sexually independent and has many male companions for sex. Because men want a sense of ownership. Women also want it but they can have it when they want it. The rejection primarily comes from a woman. Women see men as an option to choose from whereas men see women as an opportunity they don't want to miss. Therefore in a way the traditional system actually benefits men and they would rather want to be the provider than have it the other way around. If women get all the power in terms of resources, the opportunities for men will further decline Maybe that's the reason patriarchy existed in the first place

It's better if you don't read my posts because I don't like to argue with you. Find someone else to argue with

This is a confusing question and there are a lot of things involved in this. Too many elements. First is gender roles. These are divided. The woman can also ask the question "why does she have to give birth and raise children and not the man?" maybe the man compensates for the biological role that the woman plays on her own. Also woman don't need men as much as men need women. You can see this in the dating pattern itself. Women need more resources. This is obvious because they have responsibilities of raising kids and that's a big job in itself, in a way she is raising the children of the partner because she could choose to raise anyone's children if her desire is to only be a mother. Of course she has to choose a more reliable partner for her children. And during child bearing as well as while raising kids, it's not very hard o understand that women will have problems in handling both responsibilities of making money as well as raising children. The other question is what is a man going to do if he is not even going to be a provider. A woman does not wait for a man to give her emotional support. Because with motherhood she needs a strong shoulder not to cry on, but to handle responsibilities.. She needs resources. Even in nature, a female animal chooses a male who is more resourceful. This is to ensure survival of the species.. If you look at nature, in the biological context, the male has the responsibility of protecting the female animals and the young ones. This is how gender roles were created. A woman also invests her time and resources in creating the family. Women who make money also invest their money into their families. It won't be fair for her to contribute everything in creating a family whereas a man doesn't do anything, his role in raising children is very minimal because most family responsibilities are handled by women. So the least that a man can do is provide for his family and this also includes the woman. Now to say that women can do everything on their own and make the same money as men is actually an unfair argument Because if you take historic context, then women were never given the opportunity to make money. It was men who made money. Women were never given the empowerment and resources to make money on their own. So it's kinda unfair to expect that suddenly out of the blue, all women will have the ability to work as men or make money like men. When it comes to money, the power and the social structure or hierarchy is designed in such a way that men tend to have more wealth than women. It's only in modern times that you see women making money but not on the same level as men. This could be because of the fact that women are not empowered enough or it could be that the society is designed in such a way that it is tilted in the favor of men when it comes to accumulating wealth. Often women get discriminated in jobs or workplace and the pay ratio is always higher for men.. Now you can always argue and say that men work harder. But you cannot compare the ability of a woman to the ability of a man. Maybe from the female perspective, whatever she is putting in is equal hard work given her capacity. There is also a historical context as to why we have lower expectations from women and higher expectations from men. In the end this is not about male versus female or man versus woman but more about creating a society that gets contribution from both gender. Women contribute in their own ways and if this contribution can be supported and complemented then that's what needs to be done. In a way if you say it's not fair for a man to support a woman then in another way its also not fair for a woman to be giving birth and raising kids on their own just because it's biology. Women can also complain how men don't have to bear children. The thing is that women can't complain because it's biology. It's always much easier for men to complain. In some context, traditional gender roles actually favor men more than women. If I look at my situation in my country, i feel like it's a man who benefits from the traditional gender role. Because he only has to give a minimal amount to his family and the woman survives on a minimal amount whereas in return she bears him children, raises the kids, takes care of his home, sacrifices her career in order to create his family and does not have any skills or options to make money and is completely dependent on the favors of the husband. Meanwhile the husband gets a career, a woman, sex, a family that is children, emotional support, money and everything that he can get in life. It's the woman who suffers. Because the kids grow up and have their own lives and after the husbands death she has nothing left for herself in terms of emotional and financial support since the daddy money has to be divided among the kids. In a way she sacrifices her life for basic survival with the man which she can do anyway by just doing some odd job. Take my example. I make my own money. Hence I don't feel the need for marriage. Because traditionally in my country women married only for survival. Now I see a ton of young girls my age around me. They make money and they don't want to marry. They know what their mothers went through and they don't want to go through the same thing.. That's why guys around me are finding it very difficult to get a woman to marry. The reason is feminism. Women in my country are now ready to work because it's safer to work now than before and they feel more empowered. At the same time they don't feel they need a man anymore because they see marriage as a traditional system that they don't want to be a part of. If they can survive on their own, they don't need a man anymore. However a lot of men resent this because that way they don't get women. Oppressive societies were beneficial to men because there was a way to pressure women into marrying them Now there is no such pressure. So women are free and not wanting to marry. If this situation continues let's say for another 200 years, it is not women who will suffer, because they will enjoy single status as well as motherhood if they want it but men will find difficult to get women In a way men would resent the independence and freedom of a woman because they won't have a way to control her or a way to establish a neediness in women If a woman wants emotional support she can rely on her girl friends. Or family If she wants sex, she can use a man as a sperm machine. In order to get sex and romance, a woman doesn't need to be bounded by traditional roles of wife and motherhood. She can simply fuck a guy. She can refuse marrying him. Men won't be happy with such a system because they not only want the woman but they also want kids and marriage and a sense of ownership. So in a way, the traditional system of gender roles was actually meant to benefit men at the expense of dependency of women It's men who chase women. It's not the other way around. Men won't be happy with a system where a woman is totally sexually independent and has many male companions for sex. Because men want a sense of ownership. Women also want it but they can have it when they want it. The rejection primarily comes from a woman. Women see men as an option to choose from whereas men see women as an opportunity they don't want to miss. Therefore in a way the traditional system actually benefits men and they would rather want to be the provider than have it the other way around. If women get all the power in terms of resources, the opportunities for men will further decline Maybe that's the reason patriarchy existed in the first place

The history of Earth covers approximately 4 billion years (4,567,000,000 years), from Earth's formation out of the solar nebula to the present. Earth formed as part of the birth of the solar system: what eventually became the solar system initially existed as a large, rotating cloud of dust and gas. Fossils of anatomically modern humans from date from the Middle Paleolithic at about 200,000 years ago such as the Omo remains of Ethiopia, and the fossils of Herto sometimes classified as Homo sapiens idaltu also from Ethiopia. About 1.9 million years ago, Homo erectus evolved. This human ancestor not only walked fully upright, but had much larger brains than Homo habilis: nearly twice as large, on average. Homo erectus became the first direct human ancestor to leave Africa, and the first to display evidence of using fire.

Would the ancient Egyptians think that we are too crazy to open their tombs just to get a look at their art? Would they think we are crazy to be so obsessed with their culture? Would they think we are crazy to work so hard and make museums out of their civilization? Maybe if they existed today they would have handed their artifacts for free to anyone. There is so much art in that little room. Omg. I wonder what spirits still linger in there

I wanted to write more about natural Essence, delusion and Deception.

This reading list seems good

Overall Axis: Your overall tendency towards left-wing or right-wing beliefs. Overall Left: You tend towards left-wing beliefs. Overall Right: You tend towards right-wing beliefs. Metaphysical Axis: How you view reality and the universe. Naturalist: The universe is physical - we can discount spirituality. Transcendental: There is a universal divinity that transcends the physical world. Teleological Axis: How you view the progression of societies. Progressive: Society naturally progresses in a positive manner. Entropic: Society tends to degenerate and corrupt. Sociological Axis: Howe you view social institutions and traditions. Deconstructive: Socially constructed institutions and traditions cannot be trusted. Traditional: Socially constructed institutions and traditions ought to be upheld. Structural Axis: How you view the anthropological structure of society. Equality: Society should be structured in an egalitarian manner. Hierarchy: Society should be structured in a hierarchical manner. Psychological Axis: How you view man's nature and role in society. Liberation: Individuals should be free from societal control. Control: Society must exert control over the individual in order to survive. https://dichotomytests.com/test.html?id=5 Political test result. Economics (left vs right): everyones should be provided with the minimal amount of resource to live a happy actualized life, those who are more ambitious/smarter/talented deserves their higher rewards. Metaphysical: Trancendental (duh) Teleological: Society progresses positively through ups and downs , never straight progress or regress/decay Scociological: We need better tradition, not no tradition. A tradition of Love, God, progress and wisdom should be upheld, a tradition of dogma and devilry should be questioned and deconstructed. A good tradition recognizes and point out evil, openminded enough to realize it's own short coming to evolve and adapt to whatever situation it finds itself in. Structural: There should be strong, big and unified government. In such goverment, everybody is forced to be passionated about life and strive for the best version of themselves. Through an ultra-personalized education system, it's impossible for a person to be selfish, devilish and uninspired. There should be a clear and defined classes, assigned to different tasks and people in that class are inevitably passionated about and ace at. In such society, you have no choice but to serve the higher Good because you are so selfless. Psychological: Man by nature is selfish, devilish and hateful. But, by nuturing and try to bring out their protentials, man can achieve unconditional Love and infinite wisdom. If a person is disabled somehow, they will be modified to achieve higher states of being. In such society, it's impossible to not to be self-actualized/trancended. A government so authoritarian that it's libertarian.

When we engage in fruitless endeavours we expose ourselves to wrong paths, and we deprive ourselves of wisdom and understanding. When we fight and create vacuum through a chain reaction of events and circumstances that don't serve our greater purpose as a collective, we are just deceiving ourselves. It's a lot of self deception.. A yarn of self deception in which we get tangled. And we are unable to unravel the yarn because we have been too deep into the rabbit hole of infinite distraction.. Delusion is when you create a castle in the air and actually believe it to be true. And you resist to the confrontation with facts. Delusion is difficult to get rid of because it's so firmly rooted in security and survival that breaking a delusion is almost like breaking a person because their entire existence and purpose and motivation depended on this delusion. Self deception is similar to delusion but the difference is that in self deception, the goal is either to deceive someone else and get deceived in the process or to not be able to accept the nature of reality out of fear.. We forget who we are. We forget our purpose. We don't live in our natural Essence. We follow false goals. We are wrapped in delusion and deception. The situations and the way they play out deceive us. They are a trick. The universe is open to love and growth. To grace and empathy. Yet we give into our weaknesses and fall for our shadows. When we engage in fruitless endeavours we expose ourselves to wrong paths, and we deprive ourselves of wisdom and understanding. When we fight and create vacuum through a chain reaction of events and circumstances that don't serve our greater purpose as a collective, we are just deceiving ourselves. It's a lot of self deception.. A yarn of self deception in which we get tangled. And we are unable to unravel the yarn because we have been too deep into the rabbit hole of infinite distraction.. We are like hamsters on a wheel and we don't know where we are going. We just keep going with our neuroses guiding us into infinite distraction. There's lot of Gaslighting that happens in society. And we internally do not process or understand this. It's a mind game. Our greatest endeavor should be to break illusions..

Looks are extremely important in dating when it comes to both gender. This is unfortunate but it also shows a side of humanity that we hide as a shadow. Humans are shallow as a species. Women invest in their looks to look pretty, if looks weren't important to women, they wouldn't do it. If looks weren't important to men, they wouldn't be discussing about how to get hot girls all the time. This goes to show that both gender place importance and value on looks. Because we are shallow but we just don't want to say it. This is unfortunate and probably it shouldn't be this way but then many things in life are unfair. It's how humanity is. Boring people could be good hearted people but nobody wants to date them because most consider them boring. This is the nature of reality It would be dishonest to say that looks don't matter. It matters to both men and women.. If you create a profile of a male who looks attractive on a dating site, he will get several responses from females. Now if you create a profile of a male who looks bald and aged and with no attractive features in his face, then he is less likely to get views or approaches from women. This is just facts. This is because biologically the face is important. Many people when they think about sex, only think of sexual parts. The face is also sexual if you look at it. There are certain faces and facial expressions that create natural arousal... Because you have oral sex and kissing with the face. You probably don't want to kiss a person who looks ugly. But you would want to kiss a person whose face is attractive to you. This is natural biological instinct. Some people might get weirded out or grossed out by certain faces.. Beauty is important in both men and women. It's important to accept this basic truth. But there is a caveat.. You can't simply gloat on your looks and refuse to do anything about your personality.. If you are born with great looks, you are quite lucky in the dating circuit. Now here's the caveat. You could easily throw all this luck out the window if your personality is messed up. Nobody likes to deal with that. So putting it together, both looks and personality are important. So now the other way around is also possible. It's called compromise. Often we come across a person who has a great personality, they are charming and very comfortable and warm. They are nice to be around. They are attractive merely by their presence. They have learned skills to attract people by being funny and warm. So even if they look not so attractive, they have other things going for them and someone who is deeply attracted to their personality will compromise on the looks. That's why looks are very important but they are just 1 facet. 1 aspect. They are not everything. Looks are good for a good first impression but as the relationship goes deeper, the personality will also matter. The woman won't stick around if the man has a shitty personality. So you can get a woman but can't keep her if you are only banking on your looks and doing nothing to improve your flaws or weaknesses.. But to think that looks are never important is actually being a bit dishonest. You wouldn't feel like enjoying sex and romance with a person who looks stereotypically ugly. Of course the words ugly and beautiful differ person to person. But every person, guy or a girl, has a certain image in their mind that they consider beautiful and a certain image that they consider ugly. The best is to have an average look combined with a great personality. It's okay if you don't have the best looks. You are good enough even as an average. Most average looking guys and girls succeed at dating using their personality to charm the opposite sex. We wouldn't have so many kids on planet earth if only the most beautiful people had a fair chance at dating. Even the average looking ones stand a fair chance. The problem only occurs when you are far below the average. Then you need to put in drastic efforts in attracting a mate.. So don't be discouraged if you're average looking, because it's more than enough. Complement your looks with a great attitude and personality and you're good to go. But always understand that looks are important.

Looks are extremely important in dating when it comes to both gender. This is unfortunate but it also shows a side of humanity that we hide as a shadow. Humans are shallow as a species. Women invest in their looks to look pretty, if looks weren't important to women, they wouldn't do it. If looks weren't important to men, they wouldn't be discussing about how to get hot girls all the time. This goes to show that both gender place importance and value on looks. Because we are shallow but we just don't want to say it. This is unfortunate and probably it shouldn't be this way but then many things in life are unfair. It's how humanity is. Boring people could be good hearted people but nobody wants to date them because most consider them boring. This is the nature of reality It would be dishonest to say that looks don't matter. It matters to both men and women.. If you create a profile of a male who looks attractive on a dating site, he will get several responses from females. Now if you create a profile of a male who looks bald and aged and with no attractive features in his face, then he is less likely to get views or approaches from women. This is just facts. This is because biologically the face is important. Many people when they think about sex, only think of sexual parts. The face is also sexual if you look at it. There are certain faces and facial expressions that create natural arousal... Because you have oral sex and kissing with the face. You probably don't want to kiss a person who looks ugly. But you would want to kiss a person whose face is attractive to you. This is natural biological instinct. Some people might get weirded out or grossed out by certain faces.. Beauty is important in both men and women. It's important to accept this basic truth. But there is a caveat.. You can't simply gloat on your looks and refuse to do anything about your personality.. If you are born with great looks, you are quite lucky in the dating circuit. Now here's the caveat. You could easily throw all this luck out the window if your personality is messed up. Nobody likes to deal with that. So putting it together, both looks and personality are important. So now the other way around is also possible. It's called compromise. Often we come across a person who has a great personality, they are charming and very comfortable and warm. They are nice to be around. They are attractive merely by their presence. They have learned skills to attract people by being funny and warm. So even if they look not so attractive, they have other things going for them and someone who is deeply attracted to their personality will compromise on the looks. That's why looks are very important but they are just 1 facet. 1 aspect. They are not everything. Looks are good for a good first impression but as the relationship goes deeper, the personality will also matter. The woman won't stick around if the man has a shitty personality. So you can get a woman but can't keep her if you are only banking on your looks and doing nothing to improve your flaws or weaknesses.. But to think that looks are never important is actually being a bit dishonest. You wouldn't feel like enjoying sex and romance with a person who looks stereotypically ugly. Of course the words ugly and beautiful differ person to person. But every person, guy or a girl, has a certain image in their mind that they consider beautiful and a certain image that they consider ugly. The best is to have an average look combined with a great personality. It's okay if you don't have the best looks. You are good enough even as an average. Most average looking guys and girls succeed at dating using their personality to charm the opposite sex. We wouldn't have so many kids on planet earth if only the most beautiful people had a fair chance at dating. Even the average looking ones stand a fair chance. The problem only occurs when you are far below the average. Then you need to put in drastic efforts in attracting a mate.. So don't be discouraged if you're average looking, because it's more than enough. Complement your looks with a great attitude and personality and you're good to go. But always understand that looks are important.

Natural Essence and Delusion and Deception. Why the devil wins. We forget who we are. We forget our purpose. We don't live in our natural Essence. We follow false goals. We are wrapped in delusion and deception. The situations and the way they play out deceive us. They are a trick. The universe is open to love and growth. To grace and empathy. Yet we give into our weaknesses and fall for our shadows. When we engage in fruitless endeavours we expose ourselves to wrong paths, and we deprive ourselves of wisdom and understanding. When we fight and create vacuum through a chain reaction of events and circumstances that don't serve our greater purpose as a collective, we are just deceiving ourselves. It's a lot of self deception.. A yarn of self deception in which we get tangled. And we are unable to unravel the yarn because we have been too deep into the rabbit hole of infinite distraction.. We are like hamsters on a wheel and we don't know where we are going. We just keep going with our neuroses guiding us into infinite distraction. Because we are deluded into believing things that have no real worth. We don't see what's worthwhile, we always miss it. What we are actually doing is nothing but self deception. We are not deceiving the universe but ourselves. Too much information can also be a distraction if it doesn't serve a purpose. Deception is when you are deceived by an external entity or source.. Self deception is when we make ourselves believe that something is true out of denial even when it is not true.. We deceive ourselves. We believe in the false. It's also a denial of reality. Self deception can occur for sometime and be gotten rid of if we consciously begin to understand the nature of reality. Whereas delusion is a form of psychosis that goes much deeper than self deception and is of a more permanent nature. A lot of narcissistic people suffer from delusions or grand delusions.. Delusion is when you create a castle in the air and actually believe it to be true. And you resist to the confrontation with facts. Delusion is difficult to get rid of because it's so firmly rooted in security and survival that breaking a delusion is almost like breaking a person because their entire existence and purpose and motivation depended on this delusion. Self deception is similar to delusion but the difference is that in self deception, the goal is either to deceive someone else and get deceived in the process or to not be able to accept the nature of reality out of fear.. So delusion can be encouraged by greed whereas deception could be encouraged by fear. Both greed and fear are emotions rooted in survival and both are required in moderation to survive and when both go overboard, they cause chaos instead of survival. It's an illusion to believe that too much greed or fear is helpful. Anything can become a vice when practiced in extreme. Both fear and greed can become destructive when they reach the point of paranoia.

I love this song by Jagjit Singh. I sing this every morning now.

The ground reality is that everything is nothing. That whatever we do, it all leads to nothing productive. We spent nearly 80% of our time doing things that actually cause us to move away from what is good for us. We destroy our own good as a species by causing this immense distraction to divert us from the Absolute. From Absolute Infinite Growth and Beauty.