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Looking at different gifs of gods and goddesses and I think I liked some of these animations.. I have to accept at least one version of God as a vision in my head that can assist me in praying.

That is a good point @artsu.

The path to cardinal virtues Now.. I believe that only one path is true. And that path leads to the truth and that path leads to God.. And I believe eternal beauty and true beauty resides in God. And courage is a spiritual quality, almost divine. And courage means the ability to defend truth and stand with truth therefore in the eyes of God, courage is to be elevated to glory. But what about compassion, empathy, love, generosity, manhood, righteousness and justice I'm trying to create a trinity here out of main virtues. But there are several virtues. One way for me to think of cardinal virtues would be to segregate them. As masculine and feminine like I did in Swan witchcraft. Masculine virtues that I will pick are. Truth, courage, and justice Feminine virtues Compassion and love, and manhood and righteousness.

So I'm laying down multiple reasons why evil is so necessary Evil creates greater good. For example because slavery existed, we realized that slavery was wrong and there was a need to get rid of slavery and create a greater good for the future.. Now we don't need to worry about slavery about slavery because this evil has already been fixed So evil is necessary in an evolutionary context to create immunity against it, to afford protection in the future. God uses evil to show the mirror to humanity Evil helps us appreciate good, glorify good. Like diamonds in the rough Evil helps us come closer to the truth. That truth lies in good. God wants us to come closer to truth and live in truth. He can only lead by experience and example Evil helps in growth. Good grows out of evil when evil is defeated. Evil acts as a sacrifice. Someone gets sacrifice for humanity to learn a lesson More evil gets destroyed every day but new evil also gets exposed and eventually we become liberated of the new evils as well. We grow by defeating new enemies every day. Evil helps in future survival and evolution because with experience of evil we learn how to deal with the enemy. Only through evil we understand why good is important. Thus we understand the purpose of good. Evil is like crucifixion of Christ. It teaches us valuable lessons on what we need to learn and what we need to eradicate. Certain evils exist to beat other evils. Evil brings good closer to Purity. That is good becomes more good in the presence of evil out of fear and the need to grow, it is pushed closer to Purity and transcendence to higher realms in heaven

Why is evil necessary. Evil is necessary for good to sustain. A lesser evil has to exist to suppress greater evil.

The other insights that I had today were related to prayer and spiritual life. Or devotional life One insight was that "it comes full circle.." What this means is that everything in life, both good and evil comes full circle. The Swan and the wolf come full circle. And the other insight was that one door closes then another opens. That supernatural forces can open doors that were closed up until now. Doors need to be opened. Only the supernatural has the key to the secret door.

I think that when you have a problem in life, it's not always because of a physical reason, it could also have spiritual or supernatural causes. And along the same line, it can also have spiritual and Supernatural solutions.

I think honing stage purple beliefs and skills will help us understand the realm of supernatural a little better. That's why I believe that each stage not only needs transcending but progression as well. Because a stage green scientist might try to devalue such concepts that arise from stage purple. He may discard such theories and concepts. So yes as a species we are making progress on the stage Green level. But we aren't making progress on stage Purple level, in fact we are devolving on Stage purple instead of evolving. We are trying to suppress lower stages instead of unmasking their deeper truths. This is like we are trying to increase our cognitive efficiency meanwhile completely ignoring and or even suppressing our basic instincts. It is good idea to sharpen our intellect and higher qualities but how is it fair to pursue intellectual qualities in lieu of the basic physical ones. One shouldn't replace the other. Cognitive thinking shouldn't override or replace basic instincts. Because instincts are just as important as logic. The idea is here amalgamation. Fuse both. Integrate both. Develop both. So a truly well aware multi dimensional person would focus on sharpening both basic as well as higher skills.

What I have realized through my observations is that human society has both evolved and devolved For example, in terms of new technology we are definitely making a lot of progress But the progress that I see today, I will call it Stage Green and Stage Orange progress. I believe that every stage is equally important in overall development and should be equally integrated within the self, and not just higher stages. And I also believe that every stage has a higher stage in itself. For example the beige stage is about survival. So I can divide the Beige stage into several levels Like Beige stage level 1 Beige stage level 2 Beige stage level 3 Beige stage level 4 Beige stage level 5 Beige stage level 6 And so on What people generally do, they just jump from one stage to the next and call it progress. Of course it's progress to be at a higher stage,but it's only a fraction of overall progress. Overall progress means progress through the stages upwards, that's vertical but also progress within a stage, that's horizontal.. I will call this 2 dimensional progress. Which means not only do I want to be at stage Green but I also want my stage Beige to be stronger. The stage that is demonized. Stage Purple. I think stage purple always gets demonized. It consists of rituals and superstitions and people living in tight groups like tribes. Now, it's not all that bad. Certain practices and rituals are linked to the supernatural. Some purple stage people come up with unique ways of healing which are never documented in conventional medical practices. The thing is when we demonize a stage and shun it, we miss out on these things. But if we considered progressing horizontally within a stage, we can see some value offered at this stage that can help us get a better understanding of reality and find new opportunities for exploration and growth and improvement.

I believe that it's possible to harness supernatural power or supernatural forces in life.. I also think that God is somehow intertwined with the supernatural. What I have gathered in the last few years about the supernatural is that we get very rare and extremely few glimpses into the world of paranormal and Supernatural throughout the course of our lives. These opportunities are to be salvaged. And stuff that I'm working on in this direction, I have at least got a little tidbit on this That, voice and words are very important in the supernatural realm. Like they say voices from the grave. Also the other thing I have gleaned is that you have to be energetically resonated or on the same energetic frequency to receive the supernatural into your life. You cannot be at an energetically lower stage and still expect to harness these powers Some shamans are at an energetic level to harness such powers, maybe they don't have the knowledge of engineering or mathematics or maybe they are not expert marketers of medicines like the modern pharmaceutical industry, but they have something unique that nobody has, they might look tribal to others and people might look down on them, yet at least they have honed their energy levels to reach that energy state where they harness supernatural powers to make difference in their lives Maybe they know more than we do. This is no fantasy or fantastical thinking. This could be true

The Hotel Monte Vista has numerous paranormal guests they can’t get rid of. The hotel, which opened as the Community Hotel in 1927—named after the townspeople who helped raised the funds for its construction—has a history of underground opium dens, speakeasies, and gambling. Today, the hotel is known for the paranormal activity that haunts some of the rooms and halls. Guests who’ve stayed in room 220 have experienced the TV changing channels on its own accord, and some have said they felt cold hands touching them in their sleep. There’s also reportedly a phantom bellboy who knocks on doors and announces “room service,” but when guests get to the door, no one's there. One of the more popular—and possibly most disturbing encounters—is the sound of an infant crying in the basement. The hotel website reads, “Staff have found themselves running upstairs to escape the sound of the cries. Though the sounds are very real to those who hear them, there has been no information that has explained the phenomenon.” ☔ Villa de Vecchi is foreboding, alright. Just consider that looming fog blanket! Located near Lake Como, Italy, the "House of Witches" dates back to 1854-1857, when it was built as a summer house for Count Felix De Vecchi. The family was only able to spend a few years there, as their lives were mired in tragedy right after it was built. First, the architect died a year after construction. Then in 1862, Count De Vecchi came home to discover his wife murdered and his daughter missing. When he could not find her after a year of searching, he died by suicide. His brother then moved into the home and his family continued to live there until WWII. It's been vacant since the 1960s, and an avalanche in 2002 wiped out all the houses in the area... except this one. Spooky. ☔ In 1937, millionaire inventor Norman G. Baker posed as a doctor and turned the hotel into a hospital that he said could cure cancer. Have the chills yet? Baker, who had a fetish for purple, painted many sections of the hospital in the color, and today, the chimneys remain that same color. In addition to wearing purple shirts and ties, he drove a purple car as well. People came from all over with hopes of curing their cancer, and many who were "treated" died. Eventually, Baker was exposed and run out of town, and today the property is an active hotel. It's said to be haunted by several ghosts, including a bearded man wearing Victorian clothing and a five-year-old girl. ☔ In 1892, Lizzie Borden was the main suspect for the axe murders of her father and stepmother. Borden was tried and acquitted of the murders, and guests who visit Lizzie's house in Fall River, Massachusetts say she can be heard cackling about it. Others say that you can sometimes hear a maid screaming for help, and that Lizzie's slaughtered parents stalk the grounds... ☔ In 1890, the Queen Anne hotel in San Francisco was an etiquette school for girls. Today, it has 48 rooms for guests, though some believe the ghost of Miss Mary Lake, the school's headmistress, still lingers. Folks who stay in room 410, Miss Mary Lake’s former office, have woken up to find their blankets closely tucked around them in bed or their clothes unpacked. ☔ According to Ghost City Tours, people have reported the loud and unexplained sounds of children on multiple occasions outside the building. As explained on their site, "both our guides and our guests reported hearing the sounds of children playing in the courtyard of the Ursuline Convent at 10 p.m. There were no children there." Apparently, the closer people get to the convent, the louder the sounds become, despite there being no children present. Some people even report seeing the apparition of a child. Ghost City Tours suspect the haunting experiences are "the sounds of the past playing over and over again," which makes no one feel better about anything. ☔ Mackinac Island, a small isle along Lake Huron that's part of Michigan, has a very dark past. This spot is the site of a ton of reported paranormal activity — but one of the most chilling and malevolent parts of this tourist destination is known as the "drowning pool," which is a body of water with a 20-foot drop off. According to Todd Clements, a historian and the founder of the Haunts of Mackinac ghost tours, seven women who were suspected of being witches had rocks tied to their feet and were thrown into the water. All the women drowned. To this day, there are reported hauntings at the pool. "We've seen shadows come out of water that make no noise or ripples," said Clements in an interview with Midland Daily News. "We've heard huge splashes that were too big to be fish and no one is around." ☔

On June 10, 1912, Josiah and Sarah Moore were bludgeoned to death inside of their home in Villisca, Iowa. Their four children—and two friends who were spending the night—were also killed, and to this day, the crime remains a mystery. Their home is considered one of the most haunted houses in the country, and guests are drawn to it. People even pay $400+ to stay for one night. "Tours have been cut short by children's voices, falling lamps, moving ladders, and flying objects," says the Villisca Axe Murder House website. And, in 2014, a paranormal investigator stabbed himself after spending the night. "Skeptics have left believers," adds the website.

I begin with the most famous case of the Heathrow Airport. THE GHOSTS OF EASTERN AIRLINES FLIGHT 401 As proven by “Large Marge” of Pee-Wee’s Big Adventure fame, there is simply nothing more terrifying than learning that the person you just met actually died years earlier. This terror is only compounded when the ghostly encounter occurs on a passenger plane thousands of feet above the ground. Accident investigators blamed a combination of design flaws and pilot error for the crash of Eastern Air Lines Flight 401 in the Florida Everglades. Captain Bob Loft and First Officer Don Repo were among the 101 passengers and crew members who died when the Lockheed Tristar jet plunged into the swamplands on December 29, 1972. It wasn’t until spare parts salvaged from the wreckage were reportedly used as replacement parts in other Eastern planes that the ghosts of Loft and Repo began visiting cabins and flight decks. Passengers and crew members reported more than 20 instances of the pair visiting flights in progress, always describing them as “extremely lifelike.” Rumor has it that because the visits from Loft and Repo were so common and often resulted in cancelled flights, airline officials eventually ordered every trace of Flight 401 removed from planes in the fleet.

My prayers I'm going to be writing some prayers here.. I always wrote prayers as a child. I still carry that habit. These prayers will have some powerful words to inspire me and the world. Since I'm a theist and a believer in God, they will words like God, faith etc. Some of the prayers will be just spiritual, like Buddhist prayers with no God references. Prayer 1 Oh God, When you are with me, I have nothing to worry. You are my pillar, my strength and my hope.

Words by Allama iqbal Khudi ko kar buland itna ke har taqder se pehle Khuda bande se khud pooche bata teri raza kya hai. Words by Jigar Muradabadi इरशाद हमको मिटा सके ये ज़माने में दम नहीं... जिगर मुरादाबादी हमको मिटा सके ये ज़माने में दम नहीं हमसे ज़माना ख़ुद है ज़माने से हम नहीं बेफ़ायदा अलम नहीं, बेकार ग़म नहीं तौफ़ीक़ दे ख़ुदा तो ये ने'आमत भी कम नहीं मेरी ज़ुबाँ पे... मेरी ज़ुबाँ पे शिकवा-ए-अह्ल-ए-सितम नहीं मुझको जगा दिया यही एहसान कम नहीं या रब! हुजूम-ए-दर्द को दे और वुस'अतें दामन तो क्या अभी मेरी आँखें भी नम नहीं ज़ाहिद कुछ और... ज़ाहिद कुछ और हो न हो मयख़ाने में मगर क्या कम ये है कि शिकवा-ए-दैर-ओ-हरम नहीं शिकवा तो एक छेड़ है लेकिन हक़ीक़तन तेरा सितम भी तेरी इनायत से कम नहीं मर्ग-ए-ज़िगर पे क्यों तेरी आँखें हैं अश्क-रेज़ इक सानिहा सही मगर इतनी अहम नहीं Translation क्यों तेरी आँखें हैं अश्क-रेज़ - अश्क-रेज़ is shedding tears. why are you shedding tears. इक सानिहा - one incident मगर इतनी अहम नहीं - not that important मर्ग-ए-ज़िगर - marze jeegar, my wounded heart. शिकवा तो एक छेड़ है लेकिन हक़ीक़तन तेरा सितम भी तेरी इनायत से कम नहीं - I'm complaining just as a tease, but the reality or truth is that your cruelties aren't any less than your grace. Actual translation By verse हमको मिटा सके ये ज़माने में दम नहीं हमसे ज़माना ख़ुद है ज़माने से हम नहीं There is no force yet born in this world that can destroy me, I'm not by the world, the world is by me बेफ़ायदा अलम नहीं, बेकार ग़म नहीं तौफ़ीक़ दे ख़ुदा तो ये ने'आमत भी कम नहीं Knowledge is not useless, grief is not in vain, if God is with me (figurative - if his grace is on me) , then even this little wealth I have is no less मेरी ज़ुबाँ पे... On my tongue. मेरी ज़ुबाँ पे शिकवा-ए-अह्ल-ए-सितम नहीं मुझको जगा दिया यही एहसान कम नहीं On my tongue, I don't have many complaints against your atrocities, the fact that you woke me is a favor enough या रब! हुजूम-ए-दर्द को दे और वुस'अतें दामन तो क्या अभी मेरी आँखें भी नम नहीं वुस'अतें - this word should have been मुसीबतें Oh Rabba, oh God , give this innocent crowd, give my innocent folks or sheep more difficulties, forget my garment, even my eyes aren't yet wet with tears. The figurative meaning is - give me as many challenges as you can. I can take them. What you have given is not even enough yet. ज़ाहिद कुछ और... Whatever may ज़ाहिद कुछ और हो न हो मयख़ाने में मगर क्या कम ये है कि शिकवा-ए-दैर-ओ-हरम नहीं Whatever may, It doesn't matter if nothing comes of this hardship, is it any less that there are no complaints even in a Tavern. Figurative - whether I achieve or not, it doesn't matter, isn't it not enough that I don't complain even when I'm drunk. शिकवा तो एक छेड़ है लेकिन हक़ीक़तन तेरा सितम भी तेरी इनायत से कम नहीं Me complaining is just a tease but the truth is that your cruelties aren't any less than your favors. Figurative - don't mind me complaining God. But if I have to be honest with you, you are as much cruel as you are good मर्ग-ए-ज़िगर पे क्यों तेरी आँखें हैं अश्क-रेज़ इक सानिहा सही मगर इतनी अहम नहीं God, why do you shed tears at my wounded heart, leave it be, I know this just an incident, not that important. Figurative - God, don't waste your tears on me, my existence never mattered anyway.

God is like a mirror It is easier for a camel to pass through a needle than a rich man to get heaven When on the judgement day I will go to God, I will have a pure heart and no impurity in my heart, I will have a clean soul because I did nothing wrong, at least I lived as a good person even though I suffered greatly, my heart will be lighter than a feather. There was once a rich man who was told to donate and he donated a coin while a poor woman had just 2 cents and she donated it all. She had a bigger heart than the rich man. I hate society. Because it looks down on people who are weak and timid and who are suffering. F them People who you perceive as weak are only weak in your eyes, not in the eyes of God. People who you perceive as ugly as ugly in your eyes, not in the eyes of God. People who you see perceive as victims and worthless are worthless in your eyes, not in the eyes of God. You see people who are successful smart and opportunist as great. In God's eyes they are lower. And you see people who are weak and struggling as useless as a failure, but in the eyes of God they are higher. A doctor doesn't go to heal the healthy, but he goes to heal the sick. God doesn't think much of those who are strong and petty, he looks after those who are weak. Because in your eyes they are weak, but in God's eyes they are precious. You as a society forsake them. God accepts them. Because in God's compassionate heart, weak people have a special place. God has a special place for the victims, for the persecuted and for the sufferers. God sides with the victim not with the perpetrator Saints tell people to go help the poor, heal the sick, they don't tell people to heal the healthy and help the rich. When you show judgement to a victim and sufferer instead of showing compassion, it's you who is wrong not the sufferer Who says that you shouldn't help the weak and the suffering and how is it wrong. Only the one with the big heart can show compassion and help the desperate. There is manhood, a certain Valor in helping the one in distress. And why does society say this bullshit all the time that you should ask for help but when you actually ask for help, they look down on you for reaching out. How is reaching out for help a bad thing. If your own fellow people can't help you then who will.. But precisely when they are dead through their suffering the same society raises the question why these people didn't ask for help. But when they did ask for help, they were shamed. That's the hypocrisy There is a greater place in heaven for those who are victims, sufferers and those who were persecuted. Because they endured too much, they are a brave heart. God celebrates and embraces the struggles of the sufferer and the weak. Because in our weakness lies our strengths.. God glorifies the ones who are deemed as failed. He glorifies their failures.. What society considers as a failure, in his eyes its a glory. Strength does not lie in boasting about strength. That's not real strength. Strength lies in helping the weak. God is strong because God's strength comes from helping the weak. His divinity comes from showing compassion. Today's world feels like a Kaliyug where the good will lose and evil will win. But God doesn't accept your idea of victory. For God, the good has always won You think that some shallow person is beautiful. Maybe beautiful in your eyes. But there are people that are considered ugly in this world. God sees their inner beauty even if you don't, because you don't have God's eyes. God thinks they are very beautiful and those that the world calls beautiful, God sees them as nasty. God can see the shallow in them God is like a mirror in this world. He doesn't tell you what is right or wrong. He only shows you the outcome of your actions. If you look in the mirror, you will see who is responsible for destruction, and that is man, not God.. God only shows you the mirror. Through the mirror God wants you to know the right way of living. God shows you your shadows, your flaws, the actions of humans and their consequences. Everything happens on purpose. The reason why someone is given superficial beauty but not a good soul, the reason why a real person has courage but the fake one doesn't, the reason why the victims have more power than the Victors, the reason why the tables turn and you get caught up in your lies. God does all this on purpose to show you a mirror, God wants to show you the truth through the mirror, in everything that you see in this world there is a truth. Why is a person who has ego destroyed by his own ego. Because there is a truth in it. That ego destroys people.. God has hidden a truth in everything. And through the interplay of cause and effect, God reflects this truth back to us God honors the one who honors the truth. God wants us to embrace the truth and live by it. Because God wants us to be uncorrupted by the seeds of evil that the devil has planted everywhere. God uses the mirror to awaken the soul in you. So that your heart can be lighter than a feather!

Are you Empowering yourself in this moment?

@flume I didn't shame anyone. Stop shaming me. I only explained my perspective and how I see it in my eyes If you don't like my perspective or comments , don't bother to reply. Be respectful instead of typing "no offense" doesn't work like that

@Farnaby I'm a bit mixed in my opinions and not as black and white. My experiences are also a reason why I think the way I do. My first relationship, he never paid a dime for anything and I paid for everything thinking that it was just my generosity and I didn't think of it as sinister. He would constantly demand sex over a period of 6 months but whenever I brought up marriage, he would be very evasive. It's as if he wanted a relationship but no marriage but he wasn't being honest about it at all. Meanwhile I was always honest about everything. The second relationship lasted for nearly 2 years and for those 2 years he would always come up with some excuse to not pay.. So I paid for nearly everything. In this relationship I spent loads because every time he told me that he couldn't pay his bills, I did not view him as weak or insecure, I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he might be having issues so I paid his monthly bills for 2 years and more. I was spending because I was believing our relationship was forever and that we would marrying and so it didn't matter to me if I spent for my future husband. Because of all these experiences, whenever a guy doesn't pay, I get suspicious of his commitment.

I will use colors to specify these mental shafts. Blue for a good mental shaft. Red for a toxic mental shaft Green for a more moderate space where certain things are tolerated in order to create good out of them eventually, for example certain bad experiences are also lessons in life. Positive mental shaft Toxic Moderate

Right now I was thinking about mental shafts. The good mental shafts and the bad mental shafts. How I need to cultivate good mental shafts and how I need to dissolve bad mental shafts.

Pleasing someone is not weakness. Nor is it weak to provide for a woman. You do it because you support her and because you care for her. Also feminism does not mean that women become men and men become women.. That's toxic feminism. Men still remain men. But in order to show manhood you don't need to oppress a woman. Manhood sets a woman free.. In an unhealthy patriarchy, women are not free. In a healthy patriarchy, women feel free. In healthy feminism, men are allowed to be men In unhealthy feminism, men get emasculated. By providing for your wife, you are not enslaving her neither are you being enslaved. You shouldn't do it because you want to please her or out of fear of rejection or divorce. You do it because you want to support her, because you care for her and so you want to lessen her burden. She is also doing her role as a mother and wife. As a provider, you also get to show your manhood, in playing the protector role.

Dissolving Mind Shafts We talked about Mind Shafts here. So how do we dissolve these mind-shafts? Dissolving mind shafts can be practiced simply and easily as we go about our day. At the end of the day, when we find that conditioned thinking has labeled the day as a bad day or a stressful day or a depressing day, we can review the day in our mind, and make mental notes of three types of thoughts which caused that label to be applied. Identify the actual emotions we’re feeling (i.e. sadness, anger, whatever the predominant emotion is, in the current moment). = Emotion Note the labels that conditioned thinking has applied to the emotion (frustrated, mad, defeated) . = Label Note the story that is keeping that emotion and label in place (things should/should not be like this). = Mind Story Identify the actual situation, independent of the label, or the mind story, or the emotional reactions to the label and mind story. =Reality Examples: Conditioned thinking says “today was a terrible day!” 1. We notice the actual emotion. (Example: sadness.) 2. We notice the label, the evaluation. (Example: Terrible day ) 3. We identify the mind story. (Example: “he should not be so harsh and judgmental”) 4. We recall the actual situation (reality), independent of the evaluation (label) and the mind story, or the emotional reactions to the evaluation. (Example: Father spoke in a loud voice to us.) Several important realizations can occur, every single time we make use of this technique, and it can be used effectively in any moment there is a sense of disturbance (i.e. stress, uncomfortable emotions, uncomfortable thinking, etc.) 1. We notice that conditioned thinking has globally labeled our memory of the day in a certain way (“globally” meaning: the concept of “entire day” has been evaluated and judged to have had certain qualities), and we notice that emotions have arisen, based on focus on the labels which support conditioned thinking’s conclusion (“terrible day”). There were actually many non-terrible moments during the day, but attention focuses on the thought-labels which support conditioned thinking’s conclusion. 2. We notice that the emotional reaction is always to the label; the evaluation and mind story; reaction is never to a fact. Mind-shafts are shafts made by focus on the mental and emotional reactions to the labels generated by conditioned thinking. Mind-shafts are a closed-loop of conditioned thinking which are utterly independent of the actual situation. If the facts of a given moment are labeled differently, the reaction of conditioned thinking is different, and the conclusions of conditioned thinking are different. “One person’s heaven is another person’s hell”, as the old saying goes. To one person, “father speaking loudly” might be an everyday event; an event they are used to experiencing; and therefore, an event their conditioned thinking doesn’t evaluate in a way that sadness is the reaction. To another person, “father speaking loudly” might not be considered harsh or judgmental, just his style of speaking. To yet another person, anger could be the emotional reaction instead of sadness. To another, momentary disturbance might be felt, based on specific conditioned thinking, but the evaluation about the conversation isn’t connected with any label about the nature of the entire day. And so, realizing this, we can notice: reaction is never to a fact, but only to evaluation about facts. Now, if it was a bad day or a “feeling down day”, we can consciously remember the moments in the day when we felt happy. This is the gap which breaks up, or dissolves, our sense of having had an otherwise bad day. For instance, maybe we enjoyed some morning tea; or maybe we smiled at someone or someone smiled at us. Maybe we laughed at a joke, or saw something that made us smile. Maybe we enjoyed a favorite song, or show, even for a few minutes, and so on. Remembering these pleasant or enjoyable moments, we can realize that these moments break up the imagined “continuous shaft” of unpleasant memories of each day. We can identify these moments that don’t fit into the labels/mind stories creating a sense of “low day”, and then break the day up into bite-sized memories of happiness and bite-sized memories of sadness or other “low” or “down” feelings. Doing this, we can thereby realize that the lows aren’t all connected, and that it wasn’t really a “low day”, after all. Rather, it was a day comprised, as all days are, of a fairly full spectrum of thoughts and feelings, both pleasant and unpleasant. We use up a lot of physical, emotional and mental energy (hence the physical, emotional and mental fatigue, which we call depression) in connecting the conditioned evaluations which create the sense of lows. Conditioned thinking then takes these mind-shafts and connects them, in order to make an imaginary mind-shaft of “one big low.” This isn’t to say, by the way, that depression isn’t an actual medical condition; it certainly is, as many of us know. Our purpose here is to uncover some of the dynamics which magnify depression, and artificially hold it in place. Depression is not a natural condition; it results from a combination of mental habits, and/or related biochemistry. When the causes of the mental habits are seen through, they dissolve. When these conditioned mental habits dissolve, they no longer increase any depression-related biochemistry. And so, dissolving depression-related mental habits, while doing things that dissolve depression-related biochemistry (such as exercise, engaging in spiritual practices, connecting with people, medication and so on), combined with the genuine, honest desire to be free from depression, can and does free one from depression. Realizing this, we can come to see a fundamental, empowering fact: stepping free from depression is within our power, and the means to do so is freely available. We start out with small things,; simply observing that the day is made up of moment by moment by moment, and that each moment is free of the previous (memory) and next (imagination), and that reaction is never to a fact, only to evaluation, will help us in dissolving these mind-shafts. And, amazingly, we’ll find that when all this artificially constricted energy is freed and allowed to flow naturally, that thinking mind naturally rests. At first the shaft may be imagined to be years long. For instance, conditioned thinking displays the thought: “I have been suffering from depression for 10 years.” Well, with some simple observation, we can see that the depression we felt 10 years ago, and the one we felt 5 years ago, and the one we experienced 6 months ago and the one we experienced a week ago, are not the same. We connect these and make it one long imaginary mind-shaft. In fact, if we are willing to remember any such time-frame honestly and accurately, we can see that any given time period had almost as many, or in some cases, more moments which were experienced as happy, or at least acceptable, in comparison with depressing moments. And, so to dissolve these shafts, we can go back and identify the moments when we were not depressed. We can remember how we enjoyed a party or a movie or a vacation or a night out or a book or a trip or a job, and thereby see how these happier moments broke up the imagined “10 depressed years”. And so, the single shaft of 10-year-long depression is now broken into smaller “bite-sized” memory-shafts of depression. It no longer is a huge monster, but rather, a series of manageable “little monsters” that bothered us, over the course of 10 years, a time period that was happily interspersed with “little angels” of happiness, peace and enjoyment at times, too. Then, we’ll try to break up the current day; maybe break it down to half a day. Then as we keep identifying these breaks in the day, moments when you are not feeling low, a miraculous thing will begin to happen. Half-days will refine to hours, hours to minutes, minutes to seconds, and we’ll experience the reality that each moment of life, perhaps a second or two in duration, apparently, is utterly independent of the previous moment and the next moment. Ten seconds ago is every bit as dissolved as ten years ago. Ten seconds from now “hasn’t happened yet” as much as ten years from now “hasn’t happened yet”. It is all happening now, in reality. The second technique is actually finding the gap (which is experienced as silence) and living from this gap. This is a more advanced technique and worth trying, if however it seems impossible to do, let it go for now. Related Lessons Living Unbound Teachings: Mind Shafts Living Unbound Resources: Living Unbound Q&A: Meditation and Depression [parent] 2020 © Living UnboundTheme by SiteOrigin You need to be shown compassion. You need to be rescued. You need to be freed. You don't need judgement. You need to be motivated. You need to be built up. 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