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This is where the word compromise comes in. And using that word skillfully should become a part of your practice. The example that I gave was in the context of an obstruction, for example, you have an opportunity for a great job waiting for you. But your anxiety or worry about the job becomes an obstruction that stops you from applying for that job. This is where you hesitated on a great opportunity because of your onion self creating an obstacle in your mind. But if you put this onion self away and think nothing about what's going to happen, then you would go ahead and apply for the job. Thus you have taken care of that obstruction by putting away the limiting belief that was obstructing your authentic self from operating. Isn't that exactly what I would be doing if I prioritize their needs for affection despite it feeling a bit like a chore? This scenario calls for a compromise since a relationship is involved which means creating space/room for the other person's needs as well. So even if it feels like a chore, you will need to tell yourself how important it is for you to do it for them..This does not take away your authenticity because your mind wants to do it for them, it's only the feeling of it being a chore is limiting you. What if it wasn't such a chore. Wouldn't you wanna do it.. The answer will be resounding "yes", you would want to do it more than anything because you want to do as much as you can for the ones you love, but the limiting belief that it's a chore holds you back, if you program your mind into believing that it's not a big deal at all and that you can absolutely get it done, then your authentic self gets an opportunity to show affection to your loved ones in the most genuine ways possible. You need to remove those onion layers. If a job feels difficult or an opportunity makes you feel hesitant, then the limiting belief should be tackled by saying. "yes I can do this. It's only my mind creating unnecessary fears. Do I want this? Yes I would love it. Then I should do it and not listen to my mind creating fear or limiting beliefs." If it's a relationship where something feels like a chore, the limiting belief should be tackled by saying " this only appears difficult. This is not difficult at all. My mind wants me to be lazy. But I genuinely wish to do this because if I do, they would be so happy and I'll be so glad that I made them happy. I won't be left with guilt and I will feel confident that I did the best for them. I will throw out this limiting belief and no longer consider this a chore. Because believing my onion self and thinking that it's a chore will keep me dissatisfied, guilty and lacking in confidence and I will never be able to fulfill the needs of my loved ones. I will feel like I failed them. No. I want to authentically make them happy. This is my authentic desire. It's getting submerged and suppressed by the limiting belief that this is a chore that I shouldn't do. I am more than willing to do it in my authentic self. " Opposing the thoughts created by the onion mind or onion self is the way to reprogram yourself so that you can actually live the life that you truly want. Notice how your inner desires are actually different but thoughts like " this feels like a chore" or "I don't like talking for long" which are limiting beliefs actually shut down your inner desires. These are thoughts that have turned into coping mechanisms, but this is not what you genuinely want.. What you genuinely/authentically want is, to do the best that you can do without feeling any obstacle or thing holding you back or making you feel less confident. Your authentic self wants pure confidence and those thoughts are limiting your pure confidence.

It is what it is. (on Americans dying from Covid-19) - Donald Trump (a few days ago)

Grimroze

I'm running out of time very badly. Exploring so much so fast is getting a bit heavy on me. But nevertheless, I will keep this journal open to drop in ideas here about tantra and tantric related research and stuff. Time flies very fast. And it seems like I will never have enough time to follow any spiritual concept. But anyway, I will try my best to bring everything under my spiritual umbrella. Right now, exhausted and tired..

Hmm. This is complex. This is a 2 dimensional problem. One dimension is related to authenticity. The other is related to making people happy. And compromise. There are days when I feel like saying no to my boyfriend if he needs my company and attention. But I do it anyway. Because I want to see him happy. If I kept prioritizing myself over him each and every time, it would be like I'm neglecting his needs. Now if you're talking to a stranger, it's very easy to excuse yourself and say no and walk away. But since it's a relationship, you might want to consider not only your needs but also the needs of those who you love and care about. Like for example, if your kid said to you that he wants to go out with you for a walk, then you wouldn't want to say no, no matter whether you are tired or exhausted or not willing. You will make space for your kid's needs because you owe them something in a relationship. They need your affection. If it's too much like you have an urgent call to attend or devote time to something important, you might want to politely explain your reasons to your kid. In a similar way, your girlfriend and parents definitely deserve your love, affection, time and effort. You can say no when the situation isn't the best for you. But If you constantly complained that you don't have time or you are not in the mood, this can be a bit disheartening for them because they need something from you. You can't always expect things to be your way. They can't have desires when you want them to. So if they complain, you will need to take it as a responsibility and do what they need from you. Because of course, you want to see them happy. Here authenticity will be important when boundaries are concerned. For example if you are sick or totally busy with your work and if your girlfriend is being very demanding and not having any respect for your boundaries and concerns, this is where you will need to put your foot down and tell straight up that you won't put up with something that is harmful for you and the other person should be reminded that they are wrong in forcing you when it's not in your best interests to do what they say. But if the situation is not terrible and you have ample of time on your hands and no boundaries are being broken, then you will need to do a bit for the other person to make them happy. It's a part of your generosity and love towards them This won't feel like a chore once you realize that it's a part of your role and responsibility in life. But in situations where you need to value your time and safety, that's where you need to say no and be honest.

Alan Minter: “Sure there have been injuries and deaths in boxing – but none of them serious.”

Anger. Pain. It's getting harder to hide All the feelings I've built up inside. It's hard to explain Without being considered insane, So I've kept to myself Until I realized I need help. Even the weekends seem to be a chore. Putting a smile on my face as I walk out the door. Wanting to run away, But where can I go? Around people or not, I still feel alone. I cry all the time now. I used to think I was strong. Now it's a struggle just to hold on. To make it through the day Without an odd look my way Or someone asking me if I'm okay. But maybe it will do me good To let someone help if they could. Just one hug is all I need. Just one person that cares is all I plead. And then I might get through another day Of waiting for my anger and pain to fade away. Source: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/lost-in-pain

In this journal, I'm going to explore the whole idea evil and Suffering and related concepts

'A little bit of rape is good for a man's soul' -- Norman Mailer

“Nature intended women to be our slaves. They are our property.” — Napoleon

@datamonster this thread is not about toxic femininity. Please stick to the topic. And yes gender is a category and gender issues are different for men and women. That's why they are discussed separately. There is no generalization here. Nobody has said that all men are toxic. It's a category of male behavior, not all men.

Grimroth Makeup, art, style, jewelry, bodywork and outfits. Women's style, makeup and jewelry Men's jewelry Grimroth art forms

I wanted to tell myself certain things. Specific things. Things that are important to me. I want to believe in those things.

@datamonster that's not the point of the thread. You could start a separate thread for that.

I just don't get you. Women in western countries also date many men. They usually know who the father is. How does a woman not allow the child to know who the father is? This has got nothing to do with who the woman sleeps with. A paternity test is so simple. What's the resistance for? Smh. So these kids grow up and get old without ever knowing who their dad is. Either I'm not getting this or you're representing a severely exaggerated picture of your culture. I don't think the women are like that there. Here there is no Thai or Filipino woman to talk about the women in your culture so I can't know for sure. I'm only hearing one side of the party and that can be biased information.

Grimreeth

@GenuinePerspectiveXC I have no idea about your social structure At the end of the day, the child belongs to someone. There can't be two biological dads. There has to be one dad per kid So what about that dad? You mean to say these men don't father their kids. That's sad. A fatherless society is always a problem. Don't blame it on women. At least they are being mothers

I have created my own little subculture that will deal with the idea of evil and suffering and tie it with Satanism. I will call it Grimreeth. It will deal with the idea of evil and Suffering, sadness and failure/despair. What will it consist of Idea of evil Concept of evil Evil themes Satanist ties Suffering, both personal and general Solution for suffering Embracing and acceptance of suffering Finding stability and motivation through the suffering Death, loss, suicide, evil, sin, trauma, grief, despair, misery Pathos Venting out Daily positivity and recharging Healing. Daily healing Sad poetry and songs and sad art, sad music, any art form with elements of sadness Dark Gothic themes tied to Satanism Ways to tackle evil Ways to cope with evil Ways to cope with suffering Solutions and Approaches to Suffering Finding hope when you are dealing with bad situations Finding peace in the middle of chaos Understanding evil influences Liberating oneself from life and its problems and judgement

Grimroze Grimroth Grimreeth

I have decided to create my own subcultures. I will name them and describe them I will follow them. These are going to be like genres/subcultures. the subcultures in my mind right now are specifically related to Satanism One is Grimroze. This is about romantic Satanism or Satanic Romanticism. Next is an art form of Satanism, which I will call Grimroth And one more. The one that deals exclusively with the idea of evil and Suffering, sadness and failure/despair. I will call this subculture grimreeth.

@Parththakkar12 yes

What do you mean by here? What place are you referring to?

India is very behind when it comes to sex Indian government has been trying to ban porn.. I don't know if they really did it or not. Premarital sex is considered a taboo. Men are not encouraged to openly express their sexual feelings. As a result their sexual development can get screwed up. Same with women. Prostitution only happens in secrecy. Prostitutes are not respected in public. It's a very conservative and restrictive society where if a woman tried to be sexy with her clothing and fashion she would be shamed. And you say that this is not sexual repression? The government in my area doesn't allow couples to hang out. I remember a few years ago when I was hanging out with Indian ex boyfriend at a park, the police showed up and threatened us for simply sitting there on a bench.. You have absolutely zero clue about India. Most eastern cultures are strongly sexually repressive. They just hide it under the garb of religion, morality, government, legality etc. Deep down the idea is sexual repression, especially of the female gender These cultures are scared of something, I have no idea what. But it has something to do with women. Maybe the men are scared that the sexually liberated woman would have more power, or they wouldn't get the kind of women they desire, so they train them to be repressed. It's primarily male Insecurity and fear, basically nonsense.

In this journal I'm going to approach Suffering from a very Satanistic point of view.. I'm not trying to be weird, so don't mind me But I found a lot of meaning in Satanism