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Spiritual lessons We are looking for some kind of closure, satisfaction, fulfillment, stability, peace and completion in life Spiritual lessons Physical suffering of any kind, physical, mental or emotional is limited. It ends at some point. Be glad in knowing that suffering is neither permanent nor infinite. It's very limited. What is eternal and unlimited is the spirit. The spirit can be limitless and it can be infinite in its pleasantness. Be glad to know this. Keep your spirit in a good place no matter what.
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We are both born the same time We are both Pisces We both like mysteries We both have similar opinions We both have same gender siblings We both have 1 older sibling separated by same age gap We both have dysfunctional moms We both have non existent dads We both have 2 or 3 exes We were both good in school We both believe in God. We both were ditched by friends. We both feel like we don't fit in this world We were both born during the time our moms were contemplating abortion We both suffered maternal abuse We both hate the world We both like the same things in life
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If I ever die either by suicide or accident, that person will be responsible for it.
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I'm feeling so scared right now. I don't like this feeling. Someone is responsible for my nightmares.
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I had started the thread Toxic Masculinity. I don't know if this is an after thought to that.. Just as there is Toxic Masculinity there is Toxic Feminity as well. I think there are many aspects here. From both sides, patriarchy as well as feminism. I will touch on them one by one. Toxic Femininity and Toxic Feminism are two different things in my opinion. Also toxic feminism is ≠ feminism as many men like to put it out there. This whole negative connotation attributed to feminism hurts feminism and feminist movements which are not traditionally "man-hating" movement as a lot of the men like to parade it out there.. These are genuine movements meant to liberate women from the shackles of evil patriarchy and orthodox oppressive patriarchy and to empower women so they can live their life in peace. Such movements are important at least in third world countries where women are not even considered humans. So ridiculing such progressive movements or painting them in a bad light hurts the cause of women. You do realize that it's mostly women who get oppressed in major parts of the world. Maybe you don't see as much oppression in the West but the whole world is not the West. Majority of the world is poor and in poor countries the treatment of women is appalling. So always understand how you express your ideas and your connotations and how they can negatively impact legit movements in this world against injustice and oppression. Now I want to give some examples of toxic femininity and toxic feminism. Feminism should be about Empowering women. Educating them. Giving them the tools for a healthy independent survival, and creating an environment and a system which is healthy for their growth and not oppressive, liberating to their expression and a system where they won't feel terrorized. A woman does not have to live in constant fear of a man. Such a system is rotten at its core. It's evil patriarchy nonsense A woman needs a fairly gender neutral balanced system. No male domination bullshit. That's what feminism should be about. Feminism should be about abolishing male domination. Men cannot decide how women should live their life. Just like women don't decide how men live.. Also feminism should not be about establishing female domination because any domination is bad An equal system where powers are balanced and no gender is dominating over the other Expecting a woman to be sweet at all times. Expecting her to be a graceful angel delicate and sweet and polite. This is toxic femininity. Just like with toxic masculinity, men are not allowed to be men, they are not allowed to express sadness or fear, in a similar way women are not allowed to express rage and anger. Rage and anger is also an emotion just as any other human emotion like grief, pain, fear, sadness, shock etc. Men are not allowed certain emotional expressions because it's considered weak or lame if they express themselves openly. This is inhibiting to them. In a similar way when a woman is not allowed to express rage and anger and outrage its inhibiting to her A woman is expected to simply swallow her anger and not express it even if her life is in danger. She is labeled "angry", mocked, ridiculed and shamed if she gets angry. So if I get sexually harassed, I'm not supposed to be angry or express my outrage? This is toxic femininity. It's completely to express any emotion which is invoked by the situation, be it male or female Women too get stressed out. They suffer too. They are humans. And just like humans they can have moments of tantrums, fits of rage, moments of impatience and distress which can pour out as anger and not so pleasant reactions.. To ridicule a woman for her natural emotional expressions is to dehumanize her. To consider her less of a human. Women feel pain too. And often this pain is expressed as anger. Expecting a woman to be a Saint. This is another example of toxic femininity. A woman is also a human, not just a woman. She is not to be completely In this category, men enjoy a lot or leverage and privilege over women.. You must have heard the phrase "men will be men" or "boys will be boys" being casually thrown around. If men can be men, then why can't women be women? Why can't women get away with doing wrong things. Why can't women have character flaws? And by wrong things I don't mean serious criminal things. I mean everyday character flaws. The regular character flaws. Why are women put on pedestal and then expected to act like a Saint? Does such treatment and double standard respect the humanity of a woman? The answer is no. Basically what this means is that women will be judged severely even for minor things. Such "saintly expectations" means a woman will be observed through a microscope, her every flaw will be magnified 1000 times. She will be shamed for In other words she has to be perfect or else she is not a woman Granted that moral values are to be expected from women, but they should be expected in equal measure from both men and women in a similar manner. By this I don't mean that women should be let off with for serious bad behaviors. But they should not be shamed for little things or demonized for things that are minor flaws of human nature. For example if a man gets drunk, it's no big deal. If a man acts selfish or gets greedy its no big deal. If a man acts bossy then no big deal. But if a woman acts selfish, then she is the most evil. If she got drunk, then she is the worst of all. This is nothing but toxic femininity by placing very high expectations on women to the point where they cannot be themselves.. Expecting a woman to be hyper sexual or else she is a prude. This is a general tendency in western countries This is the Madonna whore complex. If she is shy and docile and not being sexual enough, then she is a prude. Why can't she just be herself? Does a woman need to run around naked to prove that she has a vagina or to prove that she feels sexual? Her sex and sexual freedom is her business. Same with expecting a woman to be conservatively dressed or act very strict and not be sexual at all This expectation is found in countries where female sexual repression is very high. Generally eastern countries. If the woman is expressing her sexual side, then the men assume that she is a whore, she is asking to be raped, she is giving signals that all kinds of misbehavior is okay, or she is not supposed to act sexual. This is called repression and control.. A woman is free to express her sexual desires however she wants. If she doesn't like to dress provocatively, then it's her choice, she is not a prude for that. Her sexual ethics or styles are different. If she likes to dress provocatively, again it's her choice to express her sexuality. She is not a whore for that. True freedom and liberation lies in a woman's expression without being labeled for it Some serious cringe This is toxic femininity but not toxic feminism.. Just an example This behavior coming from women is very toxic. Rape is a serious crime and to expect to get raped. It's messed up. In this case the women are okaying wrong behavior. It's a different thing if they wanted him to be dominating in bed. But such an outright expression and using the word rape in this context is very inappropriate. Womanhood and femininity does not lie in being a male. Of course a woman is totally free to be whatever and however she chooses to be. But the notion that a woman should be a man is a bit strange one. It's almost as if men said they wanted to be women. Can you see how odd that would be. Now this particular thought is strictly in context of men and women and not transgenders because trans people are allowed to be the opposite gender if they want to be. But this is outside of that context. To tell a woman that she has to be a woman is basically an assault on her womanhood. Why can't she be allowed to be herself? Do we expect men to be women? Then why expect a woman to be a man? Am I not a woman if I can't lift 20 pound weight. Do I stop being a woman if I cannot do things that men can easily do. It hurts feminism to say that every woman should work like a man. A woman may choose to not work and be a homemaker or do her own thing. Her preferences shouldn't be questioned. That's not called freedom. Freedom lies in being able to do what you want to do in life, how you want it and living your life by your own terms.. Empowering women is very different from forcing women. Empowering is giving them tools and resources and forcing is making rules and applying pressure. This is very nicely illustrated in this video by Christopher Hitchens. The Misuse of sexual powers When I showed this to my boyfriend he said, "she is not a woman. She is a boy who was born without a d*ck." In a sense yes. Womanhood does not lie in exploiting your sexual attractiveness in evil ways as a means to an end, to achieve something dangerous. Sexual attractiveness in both men and women is meant for romance and dating and relationships. And not as a weapon to get things done. Such women are a representation of toxic femininity. Giving more value to sexual attractiveness over moral character. I remember a few months ago I was watching a video of 2 teen girls who murdered their friend in cold blood. And I read a comment on the video from a man. He said he would totally do her, one of the killer girls because in his eyes she was totally hot. I pointed out to him how inappropriate it was to overlook that she participated in a gruesome murder and only focus on her looks. And he said he didn't care what she did as long as she was attractive. This is a problem. This is another example of toxic femininity where the only expectation from a gender is good looks and nothing else. In this case this toxicity is encouraged by such men.. Such men that you will come across that will find Jodi Arias attractive and would want to date her even after knowing what she did.. I cringe at it. Now the opposite is also an example of toxic femininity. Just reverse the gender roles. You have women who used to write love letters to Ted Bundy, fantasizing him. The world's most famous serial killer. This is another example of toxic femininity. Because such women encourage toxic men or toxic male behaviors. I think a lot of the times, women get away with such behavior just because they are women, somehow they can't do any wrong, or if they did, it's justified in some manner. Often times women justify their torture and abuse in the name of motherhood. A mother is not exempt from judgement just because of motherhood. A woman should not be exempt from judgement and punishment just because she is a woman. Granted that she can be let go for common human flaws and errors, but serious crimes and criminal behaviors and dangerous behaviors should call for action and punishment Maternal abuse is just as common as paternal abuse but society finds it difficult to accept because somehow mothers are examples of divinity. This is a dangerous illusion. Women are equally capable of evil just as men Toxic femininity is a woman lying about rape, tricking a man into raising a child that isn't his, hitting a man, lying about abuse to get custody, marrying a man solely for money, playing manipulative games to get her way, cheating in a marriage and expecting the husband to put up with it etc etc etc
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4 phase system Red phase Materialism phase The ground base of materialism. Little spiritual knowledge or influence in this state Golden phase Awareness phase. Some awareness of spirituality. Spiritual forces gradually growing. Blue phase Balance between spirituality and materialism. Clear demarcation between the two and the realization of the futility of materialism and a higher inclination towards spirituality begins Purple phase Pure captivating ecstacy. The strong presence of spiritual forces. Also engaging in a variety of spiritual practices and constant pursuit of spirituality and a mirroring of the spiritual life in the physical life, high synchronicity and harmony between the two, physical life and spiritual life.
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4 chakra system Red chakra Materialism phase The ground base of materialism. Little spiritual knowledge or influence in this state Golden chakra Awareness phase. Some awareness of spirituality. Spiritual forces gradually growing. Blue chakra Balance between spirituality and materialism. Clear demarcation between the two and the realization of the futility of materialism and a higher inclination towards spirituality begins Purple chakra Pure captivating ecstacy. The strong presence of spiritual forces. Also engaging in a variety of spiritual practices and constant pursuit of spirituality and a mirroring of the spiritual life in the physical life, high synchronicity and harmony between the two, physical life and spiritual life.
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The Eagle Mountain Spiritual System
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The Eagle Mountain Spiritual System
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Preety_India replied to Knowledge's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Can anyone explain to me what kind of direct experience are we talking about here? What does this direct experience consist of or what does it reveal or feel like? -
August 30 2020 NEW BEGINNINGS I need to start working on practical techniques from today on. Theory can still continue. But I finally found a way to get a hold of my life without feeling like I'm falling off or have no base. Now finally after a struggle of 2 long years I got the base to work from. And it probably should not have taken so long. But unfortunately it did. However it's all good because the reason it took so long is because I was exploring different realms and ideas and concepts and having internal conflicts and some days I just wouldn't have any idea in my mind. Also I was participating too much in the forum in the past 6 months. That contributed to the lag. Had I taken time off and not participated as much, I would have come to important conclusions much earlier. Would have saved like a 6 month time. Also during 2018 up to late 2019, I was dealing with a horrible relationship that was very hard to get rid of. It took a lot of courage to get out of it and be done with it. Since March 2020, I had some relief big time. So the relationship was also responsible for dragging my progress. But I think overall I did an excellent job. I worked very hard, tirelessly and relentlessly to come up with a source foundation for my life. My life purpose is to do what I'm passionate about and my main life purpose My life purpose is not my job. My job just earns me enough to survive. That's not my life purpose. The income from my job only helps me in buying stuff like books and other things that are necessary in building my life purpose. Last year I spent a lot of money at a meditation retreat where I met Andrew. That's how my money is spent. I don't regret it because every spiritual experience is an experience and well worth it. This is a new beginning.. Finally. And yes finally.... I can seriously focus on my life and not be obsessed about finding a foundation for my life. This foundation can work for anyone pretty much. But it's firm and good and makes a lot of sense. The foundation is rotating your energy and focus between these four streams in the picture and also learning and growing while doing that. This fundamental understanding that the world is not a part of your life was extremely important and central to having a firm base in life The world and its drama or events is the main reason why we cannot have enough focus in life. The world is extremely misleading and it is very dangerous and it corrupts the mind. This fundamental understanding practically blocks all things in the world that take you away from spirituality. It's the devil's job. To distract you. To take you elsewhere. To make you focus on less important things. Everything is an illusion around you. The sooner you realize this the better Once you realize that it's an illusion, it's time to drop that illusion completely and have a new start to life.
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August 30, Sunday. 2020. With this journal, my journey into spirituality comes to an end after a struggle of 3 long years starting February 2018 when I first started out here but I had been thinking about this long ago. But finally a peaceful end. Yay, peace finally. Now comes the phase of practices and practical implementation of spirituality.
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How I need to approach these 4 streams? The stream of spirituality Focus on the spiritual aspects of life. The Eagle Mountain Spiritual System model of spirituality. The stream of Reality/World. The bleak arts. Understanding reality through the prism of art. The stream of community Missions, goals, problem solving, big picture thinking, events, bonding, unity. Systems thinking. Protection and cover from other communities. The stream of Life. Aspects of physical existence
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I had a bad dream about my relationship. This hurts. In the dream, I'm breaking up with him. We love each other and I haven't broken up with him. But the dream kinda hinted me that he doesn't love me. This sucks
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Imagine it to be something similar to virtual simulation. You are switching between streams in these simulations. A Virtual Sim environment
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Whether you like it or not, you're always in stream 2. I mean I always am. This habit needs to be broken. These streams have given me a way of narrowing down my perspective to only that which is absolutely essential.
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So there are a total of 4 streams for the sake of simplifying things. First The stream of spirituality Second The stream of Reality/World. Represented by a snake since its a toxic stream. And 99% of the time you're always willingly or unwillingly in this stream. Third The stream of community Your own community that you create. You want to probably help them out or organize community missions and events. Fourth The stream of Life. Your life and aspects of your physical existence in general. How I need to approach these 4 streams? The stream of spirituality Focus on the spiritual aspects of life. The Eagle Mountain Spiritual System model of spirituality. The stream of Reality/World. The bleak arts. Understanding reality through the prism of art. The stream of community Missions, goals, problem solving, big picture thinking, events, bonding, unity. Systems thinking. Protection and cover from other communities. The stream of Life. Aspects of physical existence
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Today is Sunday. That's boring
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For the soul to grow rapidly in the direction of growth, its important to focus on the stream of spirituality.
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For the sake of spirituality, it's important to separate reality and the world /life from the sense of spirituality. The stream of spirituality To renounce the world is an important part of this path. Because having been on this path for some time, you can't really take the world and reality seriously. You begin to realize how dysfunctional reality is. How meaningless the world systems, bigger or smaller, are and how meaningless even new systems are going to be. Everything is going to be bastardized in this world. Everything is going to be corrupted. Everything is going to be rendered useless and meaningless and purposeless and defunct or unusable in this world The world will develop a medicine. It will be made super expensive, thus not available. The world will develop technology, but it will be misused. Thus everything will be maximized in a negative way and will cause more chaos and problems rather than solving problems.
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Either its love or its a void. Ask yourself, if what comes across you, if it is a source of love or if it is lacking in love. There here you have all the answers. Stay away from the toxicity. But just observe it for the purpose of analyzing and for feeding critical thought. But don't be consumed by it
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On a side note ... Lol. Morgue don't feel bad.
