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And I don't want to marry without the security of it being loyal and permanent. I don't want a divorce later over stupid things.

I don't want to end up like that. My parents marriage was not the best. But my mother or father never thought of leaving each other. For me it's nearly impossible to imagine not having something like that. I can't be with an unfaithful person. I need stability before I become a mother. I want a relationship forever and not all these stupid betrayals. I have started to feel like all romantic relationships are a farce. But I want to hope for something permanent.

How to know if the relationship I'm having is going to lead to anything stable and secure and not just some man bullshitting me with fake promises of love and marriage? What are the signs of a loyal man /loyal friend?

This is easier for a man to do if he doesn't want a woman long term But I want a man long term, as in for life. I don't want to marry a man and then end up divorced with a child and single mommy. I want a faithful man. But it's difficult to know at first if the person is loyal Because everyone says "I'll love you forever" but they don't hold good on their promise. Now I'm a "one man" type of woman. I will marry a man and live with him forever and not want a divorce. I have never betrayed any of my boyfriends in the past but they betrayed me. This also happens with my friends. I have reached a point of frustration where I can't have stability in life in terms of relationships. I have even dropped the idea of marriage because the thought of someone abandoning me with a child frightens me. I want a loyal secure relationship where I don't have to fear that the person will leave me for someone better or better opportunities. Like it happened with my ex. I left my job to be with him and invested a lot of time in him. But he found a better job in another city and he abandoned me for the lucrative job. He didn't care if I wanted to be with him or not. He just wanted a new life. I felt very bad because I left my job for him and invested my life with him only to get abandoned. He had no problem in abandoning me. Meanwhile I did everything to be loyal to him. Now this pattern is very frustrating where the other person doesn't care to keep any loyalty. My problem is how to weed out such people in the beginning itself. How to know that a person is trustworthy and loyal and will keep good on their promises and not just empty words of manipulation.. For sex or other things. How to know if someone is truly invested in me so I can prepare my plans to be with them without having my plans ruined in the end?

@Tariq your advice makes a lot of sense. Thank you so much for your advice. I'm trying to learn how to understand the world and people.

How should I respect my time and energy? What strategy should I use? How should I know at the beginning that they are not going to respect my loyalty?

What to do when someone treats you badly — be very independent (emotionally) — understand that you are getting hurt because you are being vulnerable — — — —

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The behavior of bipolars. One thing I noticed with the bipolar person is that they either show extreme rage or extreme joy or exhilaration or extreme neurosis or extreme silence. So when are they silent? When they feel hurt, or shattered or emotional upheaval or depressed. They don't open up rather they shut down if they got a hit in the heart

@Thestarguitarist14 I was abandoned by my mother.

I didn't understand this. Can you elaborate? Do you mean that someone was not loyal to me in childhood?

Always be attached to good things, not bad things. And learn to forgive and let go. Because forgiveness is taking the higher road. But don't be foolish. And if something bad has happened and ended, be grateful and glad that it has ended. Because it's continuation would have caused more harm. So if the bad has gone then be happy that it's gone. It's good that the bad has ended or shown itself The bad has detached from you, the parasite has detached from you And understand that the comfort or love or attachment or family feeling or support that I'm seeking is not going to come from a bad place. It has to come from a loving place or a loving person. And heartless and selfish go together.

@Khr it's not so much about the lack of appreciation. Because it's okay if they didn't say thank you or didn't appreciate. But what hurts is the lack of loyalty. Acting like there was nothing. No friendship. I was so faithful to them but they were never faithful in return.

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Racism, ethnonationalism, nationalism, supremacy, nazism, fascism, toxic ideologies, identitarianism, hatriotism, dangerous mindsets, same devilry, different colors All against democracy

@DrewNows you must be an angel. Thanks for the info little bald munchkin.

Being a real victim versus perceiving oneself as a victim are vastly different things. Perceiving oneself as a victim can also happen because of brainwashing by others or by paranoid behavior of the self. This is where the difference lies For example I will talk about white supremacists. Now some of these people hold the belief that immigrants are a threat to their survival.. This may not be objectively true. Also these people are perceiving the immigrants as a threat in the future, not in the present, but in the future, the problem is that this a hypothetical threat. This is similar to you saying to me that I'm a threat to you just because you think so. You have already perceived me as a threat and created a future hypothetical scenario that I might attack you. However there is no proof that I'm a threat to you. This is similar to how police officers react to a potential suspect. They are already thinking or perceiving that he is a threat even if he has no weapons on him. This is a hypothetical threat and not a real one. The police is very happy to take action based on this hypocritical threat. Some of this behavior is not legit and in the DSM IV of psych manual, such behavior is called catastrophization which is normally seen in highly anxious and paranoid individuals. Perception of an illusory threat even when the possibility of such a threat is either minimal or illogical. But if you look at immigrants and some of whom are placed in cages at the borders, these people are not perceiving a threat but actually facing a threat. So when it comes to priorities, the priority should be in protecting the real victims first and perceived victims later.

Oppression and injustice is relevant in terms of people and not in terms of values. Values are held by individuals and those values can still be preserved by the systems. All values can be accomodated. Now this situation can be similar to the one in the middle ages where the Churches wanted to punish Galileo and throw him in jail because it went against their values. The difference is very real. When you fight against injustice, there is a victim who you are trying to protect. Whereas protection of principles is not seen the same way as protection of victim. Protection of principles can be seen as a theological war between who is right and who is wrong. It can also mean that those who strongly support their values object to the values that the opposite party holds. Now this can easily be seen as one group defending their values meanwhile attacking the values of the other group In some ways what I'm saying is true. If you carefully observe such movements generally supported by people like Trump or Hitler or any fascist, these individuals are shown to have malignant narcissism which is an obvious psycho-pathological problem. One cannot be a stubborn fascist and believe in imposition of their will on millions of people without having a few loose screws in their head. These people have specific symptoms of grand delusions in which they see themselves as conquerors of the world. Fascism and narcissism have a very deep connection. Since most narcissists have a power hunger issue that rhymes very well with fascist sentiment. So I'm not far off the mark when I say that psychological issues are also behind such behaviors.

I do agree with you. But there is a slight difference here. I wouldn't lump everyone in the same box. Here I'd like to talk about unprovoked anger and provoked anger. Provoked anger is not a psychiatric issue. If someone killed your grandma (don't take personal, just an example), you would be filled with outrage and rightly so and if you went into the streets looking for the killer with a gun in your hands, I wouldn't blame you for seeking revenge. Your revenge is coming from a place of love for your gran. However if you're boozing with your friends and they're flexing muscles and telling you to join a group to spread fear or tension, this behavior is reflective of bully behavior or sociopathic tendencies and is not similar to the first example. So a distinction must be drawn between the two. Now. I agree that antifa is a violent group as well and a lot of people miss their toxic aspects but if it is genuinely (which it is not) fighting against fascism, I wouldn't say that they have personality or psychological disorders, I would say that they are genuinely inspired by outrage to act against injustice out of empathy. However that's not the case with Antifa as we know so they are obviously a militia group just like the Proud Boys. But a distinction should always be drawn between the agendas of different groups. You can say survival is the agenda. But survival as an agenda looks a tad selfish in comparison to the agenda of "fighting oppression or fascism"

Like I said, the ones who genuinely love and care create Hope Security Trust Closure Completeness Accommodation Welcome and support TSDLYB This time the streets will love you back. TSTLYB - the streets that love you back. I used to ride the bike as a kid. And a lot of it. So to me, a kid riding a bike in the neighborhood is a sign of security, peace, freedom and acceptance This is a powerful aesthetic. The street aesthetic. Have you ever felt a feeling of homeliness when you see streets familiar to those that you saw as a child? It's a sentimental nostalgic thing.

Seems from your descriptions, that you live in a really good country. Stay there happily and never leave.

I think these people have some serious psychological issues and personality disorders that get compounded by their lifestyles like alcohol or drugs or their not-so-happy lives. Then they start forming and joining some toxic hate group like this to have a fake toxic life purpose or a false sense of identity and validation from their local community. Why else would someone spent their entire days roiding in some toxic identitarian philosophy and pumping up their aggression to attack someone some day. They want a false sense of power like some teens scoring brownie points in call of duty.

How does it feel to be with a non narcissist? The answer is brilliant. They respect you. They create security and hope They create happiness and comfort They create positivity And they bring sanity and progress They are chill

A narcissist will never respect your presence, existence, your identity and or self esteem or worth

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