Preety_India

LOL. I'm dying.

I'm not looking for a closure for my problems, that would be rather easy. You want a society where victims are healing and new victims are being created again? If I have children in the future, would I want my daughter to suffer the same fate that I suffered? Is it entitled to ask for a society to wake up and pay its dues and make its members feel loved, accepted and safe and not shamed, judged, abused or forgotten or denied justice. Just asking for a society to show more empathy and create a better place so that there will be less victims and more safe people. Asking for a toxic society to change is wrong now? Many years ago workers were treated inhumanely in industries and then with the establishment of worker's unions, workers rights were recognized and better laws were made that protected them from abuse and exploitation and their conditions were improved so with time there were less victims. Isn't this how social change occurs. Why is that wrong?

@Benton no I feel like you are hurting me and the fact that you are bipolar is making me extremely nervous right now, because my mother was bipolar. Bipolar people tend to drive me off the edge but you can still talk to me, if you are ready to be patient with me. But be careful you could re-traumatize me by touching my wounds. By the way you are no way similar to me. I'm going to be extremely defensive, remember that.

Sexual assault is not something as simple as "let go of" I guess it's no worth speaking to people who stand like brick walls. I'm frankly ashamed.

Ahh OK.

@Truth Seekah tell that to rape and sexual assault victims including me. Your lack of sensitivity is just astounding. Don't bother talking to me again because I don't appreciate lack of sensitivity. It's a brick wall.

The best advice. Spend as minimally as possible. You'll thank me later.

I'm eating less.

I don't look at it from an agenda's perspective. I more than welcome different orientations, identities and sexual preferences. My biggest problem is what if kids are confused about their identity early on and how it will pan out psychologically when they grow up. As in when they're 16 years old, would they be unhappy that they were exposed to such things early on. My argument is not coming from an anti-gay perspective (nothing against gays at all) but to protect the psychological interests of children (I might be wrong here so it's just a dart in the dark), I am throwing an argument in favor of the opposite to see what happens, how the future would look like. I don't know how ethical it is to expose children to all kinds of information when they haven't reached the emotional maturity to make the decisions themselves. A more favorable situation to me would be letting them understand or be exposed to different gender based identities when they have crossed puberty and are kinda legally (sexually speaking), like at least 17/18 years old so they themselves get to decide what their exact sexual preference is.

Be careful. Thoughts, intentions and actions are correlated. Today's intentions become tomorrow's actions. It's no joke or light matter to have pedophile thoughts. If my brother had such thoughts, I would sever all ties with him and never talk to him again in life. You can say I'm moralising or being moralistic. But there is a limit. Some things just cross the line of human decency and Shame. A person can have weird fetishes and fantasies. But pedophilia is the worst of the worst. The person has to be a real scumbag to have such thoughts. It's almost criminal to have such thoughts.. But that's my opinion

This sounds way too simplistic. Having pedophile thoughts kinda really bad, can't be justified. Killing a criminal and doing wrong stuff to kids, I don't know where your moral scale lies that you put both on the same page. But whatever.

It's easy bud. All you need is practice. Then it's hard. If you told me that makeup is easy, then I'm gonna throw large fireballs at you. (makes angry faces)... take me lightly lol.

Wtf? They are still bad.

You won't understand what gaslighting means if you were never a victim of psychological abuse I like how people so love to mock things as long as they don't happen to them. And then they dismiss it as WOKE CULTURE LOLOL . it's no surprise that there are so many mall shootings out there. Oh, let's blame the shooter. That's easy.

It must be hard if you're clueless about women.

@Adodd i feel like I go through similar struggles. One thing I can recommend strongly is to believe in yourself. The more you believe in your own strengths the better you're aligned with who you are. Remove self limiting thoughts.

How can a pedophile be a better person ?

You shouldn't need to worry about something as long as you are not doing anything wrong. You don't have to be explicitly because girls don't like that (maybe some do but you can't use an exception against a rule). Just be as platonic as possible and everything else will be alright. Escalate things physically only if she is interested and if she has given a signal or consent. Tbh, it's not that hard.

This is how I exactly feel.

So I regularly get this same dream and I'm looking for ways to deal with this problem of bad dreams, also I don't know the significance of this dream. In this dream, I felt like my family had abandoned me. They have put me in a building at the edge of the forest away from the city. And there's nobody in that building except a cook and a bodyguard, the cook delivers food. And I'm living on the top floor. But absolutely nobody to talk to. The family comes back to check on me after a week and I repeatedly beg them to take me home and that I feel totally isolated and alone. They give me the reason that I need to stay at that place to overcome my anxiety and that's the suggestion the family physician gave them. I tell them that my anxiety is actually getting worse. They don't listen and leave. And I feel trapped far away in this place. The realization sinks in that this is how the rest of my life is going to be - alone and isolated. I wake up from the dream feeling drained

Isn't conservativism about preserving a certain way, a certain tradition that is meant to keep the society in a safe state from unnatural changes ? Of course many conservative positions can be looked at skeptically because they could be harmful such as anti-gay narratives. Should we throw the baby out with the bathwater too ? What I mean is that sometimes conservatism has its own benefits if a new change or trend is causing harm to the whole society, for example conservative positions on a proper family system is not such a bad idea and has its own merits.

I agree with what the above user says. It's not simply about finding the right fit for a person. It's also maintaining that friendship. I actually found a good social circle like a year ago. Sadly now they don't even have time to talk. Sometimes when people get too used to one another, they begin ignoring each other. Sad but true.

@KoryKat waves at fellow bpd. Yea it's hard. But I'm hopeful I'll get better with time.

Tik tok is banned in my country. I have social anxiety so I don't do any meetups. Also meetups can be a bit scary in my city, lots of scams.

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