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@Adodd that's a good start. But make sure that your purpose is also good for your health and aligned with your values. Have a good day.

I've been contemplating this for a while. And I'm a bit confused. The answers to this question are very murky. No end in sight.

@Roy yea

In a stage Beige groups, (very rare to find, tribes or prehistoric humans), you'll notice that they only live to simply survive with no real purpose other than survival. It's kinda paradoxical. On one hand, it might appear that they have no purpose at all other than just living and on the other hand, they might be living the greatest purpose, Survival. (if survival is to be perceived as a great purpose).

Biden will be a landslide win. Americans are going for early voting and for mail in voting in record numbers. They are just unstoppable.

This is just a fancy assumption fed by movies and exciting stories. Most women when they reject, they simply reject and move on. I haven't talked to my first ex in years. My emotions never changed. Men have this idea that they know more about women than women. It takes one to know one. The false idea spread by pua Bullshitters that men will know women better than women themselves Women understand each other well. They know the female nature well, this is the not in a disparaging sense, but the whole idea that men know women better is very eccentric and wild. Men love to gorge on that. If men knew women better, they would easily impress them, which is never the case. Impressing a woman, any woman is a hard job and for good reason. Understanding the woman is basically loving the woman, rather than judging her. And most women are simple to read. Once they take a decision, it's over. So yea, if a woman rejects, she has friendzoned, time for the guy to move on..

@Leo Gura Can you answer my question in the meditation section?

The self is an experiencer in its true state and in its false state is a creator of its own suffering through ego Like I have said before, the sense of self is different from the ego. And a stronger sense of self (and sometimes a healthy ego) are necessary for both survival and for preventing brain washing.. A stronger sense of self creates healthy boundaries. These boundaries are not easy to break. People with a stronger sense of self won't break down. Their boundaries are so strong that it would be nearly impossible to break them. People with a stronger sense of self, have a stronger ethic, strong virtues and a strong integrity, a strong foundation of values and morals and well defined boundaries and strong principles. Such people don't get manipulated or broken or brainwashed or even victimized easily. They can't be made to do something that doesn't fit their goals, interests and perceptions. Cults Break down your mental filters of logic, interpretation, reasoning and rationality. Disillusioning. Brainwashing. Bamboozling. Infantilizing. People with a weaker sense of self, their mental filters and boundaries are easily dissolved and they are easily made gullible to lies and insanity. The sense of self, the ego and the self are three different things. The ego is a barrier between the mind and the conscience. It never allows the conscience to speak and hijacks every element of judgement(discernment) and understanding. It creates false ideas. The Ego is generally strong in weak people whose conscience or consciousness are not well developed. Whereas the ego is mild or neutral in people whose conscience and consciousness is strong. Conscience relates to heart values.. Consciousness relates to mind values. Wisdom values. A weaker ego is not an indication of a person with great conscience. The word "weak" ideally should not be used to describe such egos. Because people with a small ego have more clarity between the head, the heart and the spirit. Instead of the word 'weak" I'll use the word "poor" People with a poor ego, have lots of gullibility and they always latch onto narcissists to feel strong or powerful. They are covert narcissists. Now, which ego is better? You can't really say the absence of ego, because ego does not go away completely. As long as we survive, our egos will accompany us as pointers for survival. Which ego is better? The ego that is well grounded, centered, integrated, self aware, mild neutral and healthy. This ego usually is a product of deep consciousness and a strong conscience. The Ego is kept balanced by these forces. Imagine the ego like a flame in the wind. The flame will go in the direction of the wind and might bend in that direction. But if the flame is carefully directed from both the left and the right side, the flame will stay in the center and not sway much in any direction. The wind or force of air will need to exist on both sides of the flame to keep it balanced. That's how the ego is balanced without letting it sway in any direction

The Ego is very ugly. Because it sows the seeds of division not only in mankind but in all sentient beings. It does not allow any unity. The Ego tries to kill any love that can be had for others and replaces it with self preservation at all costs. This self preservation is not about survival It's all about, 'me versus you' , 'me more important than you', 'me holier than thou' The Ego breeds all sorts of Biases and clouds the conscience. The conscience is the voice of God. The Ego is the voice of the mind trying to inhibit the voice of the Conscience. If you are killing someone, the conscience will say no, but the Ego will say yes. The Ego is the voice of destruction guised as a voice of survival. Why is the ego so ugly? Because it doesn't originate in the conscience.. The Ego originates in the reptilian brain as a voice of survival, to protect the self from any kind of destruction. Initially it serves as a healthy mental barrier to environmental forms of destruction. For example a strong ego is not easily broken in a cult. The boundaries of such an ego are not easy to break. Whereas those with weak egos can be made to surrender easily. Since ego is our power food for living, it can easily take up wrong things and become corrupt because anything powerful becomes corrupt easily. What keeps the ego in check? I think what keeps the ego in check is consciousness and conscience. When both are strong, it prevents the ego from corruption. But when the consciousness of the person is low, his conscience has been neatly silenced, the ego immediately becomes corrupt and ugly. People with clear conscience will have healthier egos

How to detect the Ego? The ego is a voice in the head that says that you are superior to others. It's the voice that says you are right and others are wrong It is the voice that judges others sharply. The Ego is a hypocrite. It won't judge itself. But it will judge others easily. It will be very arrogant. It will fashion its life around everything fictional. It will have huge cognitive Biases. It will constantly enforce itself. Ego is generated in the mind as a falsified self image and a gregarious image that should be protected at all costs The best example of a severe Ego is Donald Trump Ego lacks humility. Self preservation of the deluded thoughts is the only goal The Ego does not listen to anyone, much less to self. The Ego is very Unempathetic and full of shadows and Biases A stronger ego will have stronger shadows and Biases. A weaker ego might hang on to stronger egos for support and direction.. The higher the ego, the greater the narcissism.

The Ego. The Ego is what causes the separation from others more hateful and painful it makes it very exaggerated. The Ego uses a lot of bright costumes to make itself stand out in the crowd so we look better than others. Higher the Ego, the worse it gets. We use all sorts of delusions to create divisions in humanity and all sentient creatures and move away from 'Oneness of all Spirit.' This is the Devil's hand at play. Create division. The Ego creates strong identification labels and uses a lot of tricks to make you feel separated from everyone. As the Ego grows, the Empathy drops.

Don't worry. We're on this titanic called Actualized.org. We'll all swim together.

@peachboy that's a nice example.

Other non duality concepts Everything is one Even though everything is not same or similar, yet everything is one. Only one consciousness. One spirit. One whole and we are all a part of this whole. Consciousness is one. Oneness. The Sense of Self. You do exist. But you are not free from Ego You're in your absolute state, the same as anyone. The sense of self is only relevant in this world as long as you live But your spirit or ATmaan is the same as others because all ATmaan combine to form one general soul or spirit of the universe which is nothing but God But in the absolute sense, stripped of all attachments, identifications, labels, genetics, emotions or external qualities, you are the same as anyone. You are the same soul. The same soul rests in another's body. These souls are fragmented pieces of the whole randomly distributed among people. All souls are same, similar and have the same needs of becoming one with the universe. All souls like all streams come to the same ocean and meet there. All souls unite gradually to become the one soul of the universe, the Brahman. This is the Spirit of the universe or God. So we essentially carry a part of God in us. So if Leo says we are God, he is not wrong.

non dual aspects I should invest in Relationship with God Time. Space. Spatial Awareness Beauty... Inner beauty Consciousness Energy - masculine and feminine energies. All sorts of energies Stages of the Spiral. Higher stages Healing Growth Love Motivation Logic Self love Ego transcendence General transcendence A yogi's life.

I have decided to become a yogi or sage. I have realized that the path of life has to be non duality. Although I have arrived at this conclusion in a very different way. This is not how people arrive at it.

I think stage Red is healthy. In certain ways. Discussed this in society section.

Now there is an important non dual aspect. Relationship with God. What kind of non dual aspects I should invest in Relationship with God Time. Space. Spatial Awareness Beauty... Inner beauty Consciousness Energy - masculine and feminine energies. All sorts of energies Stages of the Spiral. Higher stages Healing Growth Motivation Logic Self love Ego transcendence General transcendence Transcend all the dual aspects except health and survival this is required for a yogi/sage. Transcend all other aspects. Health Job Relationships Family Marriage Friendships Acquaintances Survival

How to deal with duality aspects Health Job Relationships Family Marriage Friendships Acquaintances Survival Don't be too attached..understand their non permanent nature. Realize that you can get betrayed any time. Don't invest too much into them. Keep a balance with these aspects. Keep them healthy and balanced. For example How will you keep balance with your job? By not putting too much into it. By not over working yourself. By not taking it too personally if you lose a job. By not basing your identity on a job By not spending your whole like on a job By doing job that satisfies your basic requirements and helps you feel secured By doing those jobs where you can live and also enjoy. Overall you're not obsessed with the idea of a job. You understand it's limitations, at the same time you do it for your livelihood. Do it only as much is necessary for your survival.

The duality aspects of life include Health Job Relationships Family Marriage Friendships Acquaintances Remember these are all temporary and the moment they turn toxic they need to be cast out of life and thrown away. If your marriage has become toxic you need a divorce. You cannot show loyalty or integrity to the duality aspects of life. These aspects will always fool you and land you in big trouble Anything that has a dual nature is an illusion. Because that's how it's made. The only thing that is not an illusion is non dual. Everything that is dual is temporary. For example joy and sorrow. These are temporary dual states. Pleasure and boredom.. Same. Masculine and Feminine. These are dual aspects You can say masculine and feminine energies Here I differ. Why? Because even if masculine and feminine are dualistic aspects, they are energies and energy is in itself a non dual aspect. Energy cannot be destroyed just like time. So its non dual. It does not have a disruption and Regeneration cyclic change like birth and death. So it is non dual. But it takes different forms like masculine and feminine. Here I'd say that a masculine appearance or a feminine appearance is a dual aspect. Since appearance itself is temporary. But energy is not temporary. So masculine and feminine energy are non dual and complex since they tend to reflect duality. Human nature can be very dynamic and never remains stable. So it's not linear. It shows dualistic nature. Hence you shouldn't trust or invest in it Which duality aspect should be trusted? The answer is just one.. And that is survival Survival is the only dual game that needs to be played even if it's not the best thing.

The self is an experiencer in its true state and in its false state is a creator of its own suffering through ego. The one way for the soul or spirit to feel free is to reduce the attachment to the dual aspects of life and focus more on the non dual aspects Focus on healing. Time. Growth. Consciousness. Time. Space. Energy. Motivation. Logic.

Investing in non dual aspects is a good long term strategy. So its, like this. You can invest long term in non dual aspects. And you can balance dual aspects. Maintaining dual aspects is like handling a knife. You have to be extremely careful and keep it very balanced, not letting its harmful effects affect you. Not letting the edge of the knife to cut your skin but also at the same time, using it to chop the meat. Dual aspects are dangerous to the soul Whereas non dual aspects bring freedom in life. The food of the soul is freedom.. This freedom is only available after escaping the dual aspect of life and death..

The duality aspect is seen in light and day. The non duality aspect is seen in people experiencing the same emotion while reacting to a tragedy.. The aspect that I see as linear are 2 - time and space. Time progresses in a non dual linear fashion with no going back. I see the same with space and consciousness. So the following aspects are non dual Time Space Consciousness Energy Motivation Logic The dual aspects Pendulum Night and day Emotion. Birth and death Masculine and Feminine War and peace Love and hate I have also realized that the dual aspects cause a lot of drama and terror. Whereas the non dual aspects carry a sense of peace. I guess life is made of both aspects. Life itself is dual because there is birth and death that are unavoidable But there is one component that can stay stable throughout life uninterrupted by cyclic changes and that is consciousness Time is definitely a non dual aspect of life as it continues without aberration or cyclic change. So does space I feel the self is just an experience of the dual and the non dual aspects of life. And putting all your trust in dual aspects of life is a risky proposal. Like you can't invest a lot in relationships because relationships are a duality aspect. They can begin and they can end. Unlike time which only begins but never ends, relationships can easily end.. So investing your energy into duality aspects of life is very risky as it causes trauma when the relationship ends. Whereas with the non dual aspects, you have decent running without feeling betrayed. So you can invest in making your time better, you could invest in consciousness. It's worth it. What happens when you get tons of energy. Does it change your circumstances. Does it bend circumstances to your needs? And if so, what can cause a person to have extremely high amounts of energy.

I'd have suicided long ago.