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Haha what a joke.

@AMTO yep. I know how asking for something in love gets so demonized lol..

Biggest bias. The marriage between my father and mother was an arranged marriage. They were never happy The marriage between my older cousin and his wife was a love marriage. They're extremely happy. Just because somebody doesn't divorce doesn't automatically mean that the marriage is doing well I see thousands of Indian men stuck in arrange marriages flocking online to flirt with younger women, often times cheating on their wives and expressing their displeasure in their marriages and whining how they married only because of their parents. Not a very happy picture I say where the wife doesn't know what the husband is doing behind her back!!

@AMTO thanks

The only solution is. Go stage Green. Everything below stage Green leads to massive entropy and destruction in the name of Iron clad weaponized survival. I see poverty with my own eyes everyday. Stage Orange mentality will never fix it. A Green Revolution all around the world is needed. But the Western Civilization is hell bent on calling Green the Mean Green. That's a big road block to Tier 2 Development. You can't block Green from your life. It's the pathway to Turquoise and Yellow.

@Akemrelax no I'm not. You have no clue about narcissistic abuse @Axiomatic so please stop with your victim shaming both of you I'm opening threads to gain perspectives and not be character judged. If you don't know how narcissists operate in a relationship, simply don't spout bullshit. Stay away from the thread if your intention is to make me feel bad. I'm already having a much worse time dealing with narcissistic abuse and Abusers. So stop with your shaming and silly baseless speculations. To know the psychology of a person, you need to know that person in reality. So stop your silly psychoanalysis of my character. It feels like a personal attack. Please don't make this personal and keep it civil the thread has nothing to do with you personally with both of you.

A good analogy lol. But hey I wasn't really looking for fun. I never rejected any good guy. A good guy would have been a lottery for me. Sadly a lot of the guys are players If I want a good guy, it's like I'll have to approach first. But then again approaching is so not a woman thing!

Yea true confidence is getting rarer and fastly getting replaced by fake confidence and most people are unable to notice it in the times we are living in.

This is what I meant to say on this forum all along and nobody really understood what I was saying because they just don't think it even exists. They take confident as to mean something ruthless. A big blindspot.

@MrBON no no no. I didn't say shallow I said shadow.

@MrBON that does sound familiar to the word shadow.

Yep. This was gold.

You too. Thanks.

Stop looking at me the way you're looking at me.

Yea I also think that this shouldn't be hard. I'm shocked that most people on this thread are likening these qualities to a God. They use the word God-like. It baffles me beyond belief. It is simply the definition of a decent guy. How does it mean looking for God? My dad could easily fill those requirements with my mom. Any other man in my family would do as well. I am surprised to see that a lot of people here think that if a man mistreats a woman, then he is just being a man and it's considered normal?

I do get the feeling that there are similarities.

@Ingenting when I used to fall for narcissists, I didn't know it was love bombing. I used to take it as love. Now that I'm aware of what it is, I don't think I'll fall for it anymore. By loving a narcissist, I'm not looking for receiving love back, that's an error in judgement, I'm simply loving them. They in turn abuse that love. I don't believe that when you love someone there should be any expectations. But any relationship will always have certain rules and I wouldn't call that selfish Like if I don't wish to be hurt by anyone, I wouldn't call it selfish, it's a basic human need.

And so are you.

I never felt this way. In fact I always felt like it's the narcissist who had poor self esteem and they fed on my self esteem to feel better. The attraction had nothing to gain something from them, but rather to give something to them. I felt like I was a healing balm and helping them.

Karma is creating fairness. Karma is bringing closure Karma is healing the unhealed or resolving the unresolved. Karma is bringing justice Karma is resolving the shadow Karma is correcting the unconscious or doing things consciously. Karma is your will Karma is what goes around comes around Karma is healing the imbalance and bringing balance. Karmic bond Karmic exchange Karmic Debts Karmic burdens Karmic

I'm on a journey to understand karma and human suffering. This is a journal to document how Karma plays the most powerful role in our lives and how we are so ignorant to it.

I disagree. I don't see it as identical at all. But to each his own!

I think you need to break up

@Eren Eeager great advice. Thank you @diamondpenguin great advice. Thank you.

You should be good but not too good. I have my diagram to explain this.