Preety_India

You could join some upcoming entrepreneur in his project and raise funds through Venture capitalists (VCs) and Angel investors. Then you can contribute your analytics skills while being an adjunct CEO. You get escape from wage slavery as well as contribution of your skills.

What does brown bear mode even mean?

Yoga and stretching. I can't think of much. Maybe weight lifting. Maybe this.

I do believe in burning through karma. Keyhole will have interesting perspectives on this. She has good knowledge on karma. I don't think that every moment in life is pre-determined by karma though. But yea these days I'm paying a lot of attention to the word karma.

Rachel the sweetheart and phoebe the cute one..

Hehe

Yes I agree with you. Actually I practice both styles of sex and both are appealing to me. Me and my current boyfriend have the style that you just described as "deeply intimate loving caring" and I would love to have the Bdsm dominant sex with him as well. I like both depending on the occasion.

Trying to understand the mind's inner dynamic.

That's your projection. I'm putting my life so that I can have answers to my questions. You're thinking that it is attention seeking meanwhile for me it is seeking help for my life. Get over it. Nothing wrong with me being inquisitive and wanting support, help, resources and advice and so far all the replies from people have been amazingly helpful. So spare me your projection. Don't want to help, don't help but don't say things that are not true in my view.

Following this thread real seriously. (lol)

I've been trying to forget an ex since the past few days and I've tried extremely hard to forget him completely but his thoughts keep coming back and make me depressed. I tried all sorts of distractions. But even when I'm working, I get his thoughts. I just don't want to cry again and go through that whole cycle. Very soul crushing thoughts. Any tips on how to completely forget and get over it. Thanks. I'm just trying to relax but I can't. His thoughts are very intrusive. The thoughts were so depressing that it made me suicidal.

@Julia Su thank you Julia. You're wonderful. lots of hugs to you too and thank you so much for your kindness.

@Emerald thanks for your posts on this thread. Very helpful. I agree with you on the repression of femininity that causes such desires to stay behind as fantasies.

Ok guys just chill. Please don't attack Leo. I was away for a while and so much happened. Leo is right about things. He is not trying to generalize but many women have rape fantasies, God this is female sexuality, please don't attack it. And it does not mean every woman has such feelings. There are many women who don't have such fantasies and that's fine too. Please don't judge so harshly. This is what I was afraid of. This strong backlash against female sexuality. It doesn't help to keep desires repressed. This is what causes unnecessary shame and guilt. Guilting a person for having sexual desires. The other thing is that please understand that this is not about actual rape. Actual rape is a crime. It's insane that this is even being compared to actual rape. Am I asking to be raped? No not at all. This is like some guy in my country would say to me that I deserved to be raped just because I had a rape fantasy???? Please don't do that. I have this fantasy with a person who I have a romantic attachment with. This means that I want to be dominated in bed. Rape (as in actual rape which is a crime) is when there is no consent (or consent which is not actual). When a woman wants to be dominated by her man in bed, and she wants to be submissive, that's not an actual rape, it's only a fantasy of domination and submission which is looked down upon because femininity is very repressed in many cultures so if a woman wanted to discuss her sexuality, the result is what happened on this thread - pure shaming and judgement. Leo does not mean actual rape and that's why he said "pure feminine attraction" and he also made it abundantly clear in his statement where he said "He's already messed up by not fucking your brains out properly", this is true because when my ex boyfriend used to say "I wanna fuck your brains out" I used to get turned on, it's a natural feeling within me to be dominated in such a way, and this does not mean rape (like a crime) , just expecting the man to be more dominating in bed, perfectly fine!! You guys need to calm down and stop making up false claims. This is what prevents sexuality from being expressed more openly. You're confusing rape fantasy with rape. It's like saying if a woman wants to be tied around her neck during sex then she basically wants to be murdered!! Ah, nope. It's a fantasy. That means it's a kink. She wants to be tied up because that gives her an added erotic feel. Her feelings are to be respected and fulfilled during sex,thats the right way to love her. Doing the opposite actually(showing them that you care about their feelings during sex, being gentle with them, and even expressing what you want and asking them whether they want that too) yields a very good experience. Showing them that you care about their feelings during sex - yes, rape fantasy does not mean that my boyfriend is disrespecting me. In fact it's the opposite. He is respecting my feelings during sex by doing what I need during sex. That's called caring for my feelings. being gentle with them - rape fantasy does not mean he is killing me or destroying me, he is just being bold and dominating. That's why I said in the title "dominant males".. Dominant masculine males are more likely to fulfill such a fantasy. Being an asshole is not the same as being dominant. Leo has dominating male traits. A lot of men have. I like to be submissive in sex. And women like me are attracted to Dominant males. It's as simple as a Dom Sub relationship. Relationships are not cut and dry. There are many dynamics and styles and all of them are perfect. It's like flavors of salad. even expressing what you want - yes that's exactly what I was trying to do. Expressing my deepest desires. And like Leo said I should express them to my boyfriend and if he is a caring guy, he shouldn't shame me. Makes sense? asking them whether they want that too - yes, I did this with my ex boyfriend Joseph. You'd be shocked to know he was very thrilled and happy and he did as I wanted. He was a very dominant guy. The sex I experienced with me was perfect and passionate and suffice to say that we were both sexually fulfilled. Jeez, if your views are the product of doing pick up in Las Vegas, then sounds like Las Vegas are full of ape like hoes. And the pickup men there sound even worse. Get out of Las Vegas are try a nicer area. His views aren't wrong. He is just being open minded about female sexuality which is the first thing a man should do if he wants to satisfy his girlfriend in bed, he should know what she wants. Am I an ape like hoe? Absolutely not. That's like slut shaming. Women have already been shamed enough for simply being women. We don't have to be the male idea of a woman. That can be a bit slavish. My desires are repressed exactly because my culture tends to shame for having feelings that a woman should be allowed to have. Repression of a gender doesn't help. Repressing male sexual desire is not right. Repressing female sexual desire is not right. Nothing wrong with my desire to be wanting to be dominated. I would expect such shaming in a very patriarchal society. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having deep sexual desires, fantasies and fetishes. What's wrong is - Repression and shaming Calling it unconscious is repressing it even further. The desire to be raped by my man (not like a crime) is not a toxic desire. It's perfectly sane and like many other women on this thread said, it's perfectly normal. Toxic is the judgement that calls it toxic. Good sex and bad sex. Good sex is achieved when both are fulfilled. Bad sex is when one of the partners is unfulfilled. I don't want a very feminine guy showing me sex that I don't want. I'd call it bad sex.. Because if he can't dominate me in bed, I won't get arouses and basically in my eyes that's bad sex.. You're unable to understand female sexuality here and frankly trying to impose your views on female sexuality on a female. That's like me telling a man what kind of porn he should like, nope, I can't decide or impose what a man likes, neither should a man decide what a female likes. Because he can't change the female biology just I can't change male biology. Attraction and sex are not dependent on mere feelings. These are deeply biological components and we as female or male have very little control over it. The only control that is needed is when your attraction falls under the category of crime or criminal behavior. Rape fantasy is neither a crime nor criminal behavior. It's one of the many expressions of female sexuality. Denying a woman her sexual fantasy is similar to denying a man sex. Also you're engaging in false equivalency by constantly comparing rape fantasy to criminal rape. This confusion happens a lot. This distinction is important to understand that I'm not asking for a crime. Nope. I'm not asking /deserving to be raped by some stranger against my consent. That would be awful. Many people conflate rape fantasy with criminal rape. Both are extremely different. Yes women have rape fantasies. Go look up. Does this mean every woman? Not necessarily. It's nonsense to assume that every woman is perfectly similar. Women can have sexual fantasies just like men. Have you heard about something called BDSM, yes in those communities there are both men and women.

@The0Self yea those can use storage.

Could be. Personally I've been having a lot of nightmares recently.

@abrakamowse @Hardkill @Thewritersunion @DocWatts You guys are gonna enjoy this song. I can't stop laughing lol.

A silly attempt at drawing things on the romantic side. I don't know what to add here, maybe my fantasies?

Hey this was my way. Just to get a bit bolder with you. I want so much yet so little. I just want to keep it demure. I want to belong to you. You're my heart mate not just a sex mate. My repressed sexual fantasies are for you. I remember how I felt that night. But it's the romance that's even better than the sex. The feelings that you produce in me. I just want to drink sitting next to you on the bed. Meanwhile you're doing your best to get my sexual attention. I want you to touch me there. Move your fingers in. Touch my back gently and tilt me towards you. Whisper nothing into my ears. Just stare at me like I know nothing. Give me that feeling once again like you own me. (Andrew).

Even if it feels like a dysfunctional chemistry and all I want is his love, it's eternally satisfying. All my fantasies that I want him to know He should be so close to me. I want to feel his deep penetration. Last time we had sex it was so strong I fell asleep like a child. I was in another world. You make me crazy.

I feel so free around him. He instantly channels me.

When he whispers his kisses over my naked body, that's when the fun begins. ="

My hidden inner dark fantasies. Even if it looks dysfunctional right now, they give me some meaning.

I want him to cuddle me, kiss me and want me. I want him to own me. These fleeting emotions. His romantic candor drives me nuts. I wish he could just grab me and make me stay. His fingers over my neck. His lips on my lips. I want his body to feel my body. And him totally in control of me. How sweet is this feeling. He knows exactly where to touch me. He rubs my thighs and he grabs me and makes me rest on his lap. I sometimes feel like he needs to be a bit forceful. I want to see the passion in his eyes.