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@electroBeam I know right. It's so messed up. Or she is being hyper sexual (in other words a slut) if she expresses her sexual desires and fantasies

I'm not hyper sexual. I'm just sexual. Like Leo said it's just normal feminine attraction. Jeez.. Every woman is different Don't call me hyper sexual. If your woman doesn't like it, doesn't mean that every woman is like your girlfriend.

I don't know where these baseless assumptions come from. I need to hear from a man what a woman wants..... Hahaha nice try. I like oral sex by the way. So do girls who are my friends. Maybe some people have talked only to extremely sexually repressed women who just never talk about sex. Talk about pure sexual repression. I'm not even supposed to discuss my sexuality when this forum offers me anonymity. Like what?

Stop shaming women for their sexuality. Women have sexual needs just as men do. Absolutely nothing wrong with it. And if you think that a woman should not express her sexual desires and fears then it's not her problem it's your myopic 6th century ideas on how women should or should not be. Get over it. Start looking at women as humans.

@Gesundheit @Someone here @Gesundheit Peace to both of you. You aren't helping me in any way. Thanks.

@Someone here See I'm getting offended by your comments about me. Spare me your shaming fest. Can you see how many threads are on this dating section page alone and you exactly found my thread to tell me to shut up. How cool right? So this is a thread on tantra on which the person is asking if tantra can help him in getting rid of sexual shame. Is he wrong in opening up? Did you ask him? This person expressing whether he should have sex on the first date or not? Did you advise him to not ask or share personal questions/stories on the forum? This guy sharing his personal story of premature ejaculation. Did you tell him to not stare his personal details on a public forum? This person asking if sex with hookers is okay? "Did you ask him why he is discussing his fantasies with hookers? This person asking about sexuality? Why didn't you tell him to keep his sexuality to himself? This person describing his sexual trauma, his deepest personal story. Why didn't you recommend him that he should not share his story on a public forum? This person has a negative view on sex and she is a woman. Is she wrong in opening up about her views on sex now? This man in this thread discusses his sexual desire. How about telling him to stop that discussion?

Who cares what you think? Maybe keep your judgement to yourself instead of shaming me for opening up about my feelings and thoughts on a forum. Don't like don't read. Nobody forces you to participate. Everyone discusses their personal stories about their relationships here every minute. Is it a big deal just because it's about sex? Why make it a gender issue. I've no problem if a man discusses his sexual stories or experiences or feelings here. This is the dating and sex subsection of the forum which is meant for such discussions. Maybe you're biased towards me. In that case you can leave me alone.

Completely agree. I'm just trying to be as vulnerable as possible so that I can get some clarity over all the thoughts circling in my head. The fact that I wanted to post this topic a year ago but decided not to already makes it clear that it's not a ploy for attention seeking. In fact even 2 months ago I thought about asking this question but still decided against. Finally a few days ago I made up my mind that I need to ask and become open and vulnerable no matter what because keeping this question inside me was not a good thing to do. It was eating me inside. I'm thrilled by the response, not too much attack so far, I was actually thinking there would be too much backlash. However not much backlash probably because most people responding are from Western Society so it's a relief that I'm not being shamed too much. I'm feeling a bit confident now after asking this sort of question. Also the shame or fear/guilt I felt that I was talking about has greatly reduced after reading people's positive responses. Some women on the thread attested to my feelings and approved those feelings which again made me feel great knowing that I'm not alone in having such fantasies. The problem is that women are not very vocal about sexual issues, not as much as men so it's very hard to know what sort of reaction is to be anticipated before opening such a discussion. But I'm glad people are open minded enough to receive these ideas with acceptance and understanding and less judgement. Last but not the least, I'm genuinely not trying to seek attention, although it might appear so, I'm very well aware that people will say such things but it's unavoidable that they'll get such thoughts about me, but I think I should not focus on what people think about me and spend time debunking it, but rather focus on what goal I'm looking to achieve by discussing my thoughts and experiences with people. After all this forum is meant for open discussions about problems and issues in life so I'm not being wrong in posting here.

Totally, that's what tantra is all about. Removing the shame and injecting pure love into sex..

This is something I really struggled with in my life.

@soos_mite_ah thank you so much. Your posts are extremely useful and helpful to me and you've a brilliant gift of self analysis. I largely lack in terms of self analysis partly because of childhood trauma and brain disorder that I developed as a child due to birth defects. So I'm very glad that your posts help me with my own self analysis.

Talk about Trump's accomplishments lol. They see the Emperor's clothes that we poor peasants can't see because they're so wise and we are such fools. Make Election Losses Great Again.

So much for conscious capitalism. Really? So they can't afford to give benefits to only a few hundred people despite their large fat profits off their overly expensive foods? More like Crony Capitalism than conscious Capitalism!!

Oh God yea. I remember that very well while walking through Whole Foods. I remember buying a box of Blueberry Muffins and I don't remember the price but I remember gawking at the price because it was damn expensive and I was thinking to myself what in the world, who would buy this? Of course the muffins tasted yummy and organic but the price was very disappointing and I felt ripped off I remember those large brown Whole foods thick paper bags, haha. I never went there again. I was very upset by the sky high prices. It felt like a "rich people" place to buy food. Kroger was many times affordable in comparison.

I like the idea of conscious capitalism but always be careful because a lot of corporatists loosely throw the word around as an effective marketing stratagem to attract prospective investors and expand customer base.. Often you must have heard the word "organic chemical free product" and it turns out there was nothing organic about the products other than the label. But I give this guy the benefit of the doubt because it's Whole Foods and Whole foods is a great retail chain.

Latest news. Finally Pennsylvania and Nevada go to Biden.

@abrakamowse lol that is such a funny Meme. Make reality go away. Omg

@abrakamowse Trump finally concedes.................. Albeit reluctantly

Namaste After being with several men/boyfriends who were good at flirting, sexy, romantic, I have realized that I don't want such men anymore. Because through my personal experiences, I have understood that majority of these men turn out to be hurtful assholes and players. I got played enough, no more. The romantic ones are nice to be around, they make you feel good and excited but later on they break your heart. It's best to not deal with them. I'm not generalizing here but this is what I gathered from experience Now I think for a woman it's best to find a man who is simple and disciplined and direct in his approach. Even if he is not romantic, it's okay because he won't be a heart breaker at least. You at least have a sense of respect with a guy who cares and respects you I think women need to change their thinking and look for men who are not necessarily attractive but have better things to offer in terms of emotional security. It's important for a woman to reach that level of awareness and consciousness where she doesn't fall for a man's bullshit anymore and doesn't simply give into her body's reactions but focuses more on the heart of the guy Women it's time to open the heart chakra and look for men who will fuck your heart first rather than your body. Please don't ever fall for a player again. It hurts like hell. Thats my advice.. Namaste

@Tim Ho thank you

No. I'm dating a different guy. (I dumped that old one.)

Strange loop I must say!!

Maybe 5 hours 6 hours

@soos_mite_ah your posts are really helpful in making me understand why I lack discipline.

This thread might help me