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@Nahm @electroBeam Hahahaha. That Christmas vacation gif was very funny to be honest. Reminded me of the Thanksgiving holiday season. This year Thanksgiving is going to be so comical with some people deciding whether to invite people or not for dinner, it's funny how trapped we are with this whole covid thing that Thanksgiving might feel like an alien experience. It truly is adorable though how we can really appreciate even little casual moments in times such as these. Its like all love light laughter until a virus comes along. Bwahahaha.

@electroBeam I'm sorry you felt offended but you're a nice male.

@Eren Eeager you're right with your insight. It is pure bliss. How can it not?

@Nahm I guess it was misconstrued. Sorry you were blamed for it.

Yea I saw the post just now. No not at all. It's not offensive at all. I get the humor and I chuckled. And no it doesn't imply that Electrobeam is lying. It's just a light hearted joke given the kind of sex you had, it's obvious that you thought that way. That post doesn't support rape in any way. I think people here are so confused about rape and rape fantasy that it's almost comical

@Nahm which post. Show me.

I think it's very unproductive if you already have this mindset that you are not good at something, it doesn't really create the motivation in you to get something done. Maybe before thinking about a purpose, simply focus on warming yourself up to the idea that you are really ready to do something in your life. This means upgrading your skills and improving your self esteem. Remove those negative self beliefs that are eating you inside. It's a recipe for Insecurity. Don't give into such thoughts. Saying that you are good at nothing is not going to help you at all. If you're passionate about dance, maybe see what you can do there. But look for something concrete. Don't just fool around with something just for the sake of it because then it just becomes another tunnel that leads to nothing.. But I really sense a mindset problem with you rather than a purpose problem. Seems like you already have all the talent but hesitant to put your hand at anything. You will need to rapidly change this mindset to something more grounding and foundational because no life purpose can sustain such a flimsy foundational mindset. You're simply being too insecure about yourself. I'm sure you have several other talents that you might haven't explored at all and exploring those can open up so many possibilities for you. Just work on your mindset and test your talents. Also join courses and classes to get more skills, employable skills that will he helpful when you finally decide a life purpose.

@modmyth... You're an awesome woman. Hard to find women like you. Cheers.

I'm leaving this thread. Enough. (I was asking for support and advice and not judgement) Some of the guys totally derailed the thread. Don't quote or mention me. Not interested in replying to this thread anymore. Please respect requests.

I'm fed up arguing with these people trying to explain them the point I'm driving forward. Sexual repression is a real thing and can deprive a woman so badly and make her even fear sex altogether. I'm glad you understand me. It helps to know that someone understands the situation.

@AMTO again it's all your projection. You're simply looking at me through your own glasses and I don't wish to argue with you. I'm done with this thread Please don't mention me because I don't wish to go on talking about this endlessly.

Ok I'm really fed up and I give up. I don't have words to describe how I feel. Some of you guys are actually defending the oppression of women in oppressive countries. Unbelievable. And some of you are defending the sexual repression of women. I am just disgusted by this display of a very myopic vision of women and such misogyny. And you guys talk about practicing spirituality. All spirituality goes to the drain when you cannot even respect the gender from whose vagina you were born from. Carry on with your women oppressive views. I haven't got whole day to argue with yall. This whole thread went to the drain. Carry on with your shaming. I'm done.

@Raze it's important to understand whether the conditioning aligns with basic human principles and biological set up, And when countries are more aligned with natural self expression, basic human principles and biology they are shown to be contributing towards progression of increasingly healthy societies and good growth. Whereas countries that are oppressive towards women show much higher rates of depression in women and slower economic growth.

Not only do a huge percentage of women in my country suffered hormonal and reproductive issues and marital issues because of deep sexual shaming and repression, the question really is how is it fair to block a woman's sexual feelings? I asked a few older women around me. And to my surprise they don't even know what sexual enjoyment feels like despite being married for so many years. They don't know what an orgasm feels like? They never had desires. They simply got impregnated and engaged in sex but could not decide whether it was satisfactory or not They never lived the sexual emotions of a woman. They never knew how to feel like a woman, they only knew how to dress up like a woman and cook in the kitchen. Apart from that they had never explored other sexual aspects of being a woman. As a result they had never experienced sexual joy that a woman naturally experiences while having sex with a man. They never expressed what they wanted in sex or when they wanted it. It is something they never even wanted in the first place, they just never the need for it other than when the husband slept with them to which they passively surrendered without enjoying it like a plastic doll on the bed. My question is how is it fair that a large percentage of women in my country doesn't even get to know how a woman should naturally feel with a man she is attracted to if there is such strong sexual repression of her sexuality and how is denying her this basic joy (sexual joy) fair in any way? So blocking her sexual desires and emotions and depriving her of basic sexual happiness fair and normal and we should simply accept it as patriarchy and be happy with it? I agree that some women might be happy in such cultures. But are they happy because they're made to believe that this is happiness or are they truly happy from within? Maybe their happiness is the result of social conditioning that they have come to accept. Maybe some of them are waking up and realizing that they have repressed desires slowly showing up in their minds. The final thing is that it's really wrong for men to decide how women should be. Just as it would be wrong and unnatural if women decided what men should do with their minds and bodies. This is basic individual liberty and there is no arguing against it as wrong or right. Anything that supports such oppression is nothing but moral cultural relativism and in the greater scheme of things, cultural relativism falls apart because anything can be supported in the form of cultural relativism, even the most violent forms of abuses and injustices. How can such a society evolve if it remains stuck in cultural relativism trap. Men who assume and think that women are happy in countries oppressive to women should really research into something called the Stockholm Syndrome. It's always easy to dominate humans and make them feel that something is happening in their best interests, like it happens in cults. Supporting such a theory is very dangerous. Repression and Oppression is always dangerous and it doesn't become less evil just because people have become used to it or accepted it. They need to be liberated from it.

They have been conditioned to believe that male oppression of women is normal. With deep conditioning anything can be made to be accepted as normal.

To be frank a sexually repressed woman is no big benefit to a man. In fact he will experience much less pleasure with her because she might even lose interest in sex or not bring it up at all or just have incentives to avoid sex even if the man needs it. I have no idea how is a man happy sexually suppressing a woman, how does he feel knowing that her needs were never expressed. How does he know if she might want something and have a deep fear in expressing it. Is he happy having her in constant fear of being shamed? Is he happy that maybe she is not satisfied in bed and only pretending to be happy with the sex? Does he not want to experiment different ways of pleasuring her? Women have an uncanny ability of pretension. They can have fake orgasms (learned from my girlfriends), some women might not experience orgasm at all out of fear of being slut shamed by the husband or boyfriend. Are men with extremely conservative opinions on women okay with such repression? I have seen and heard millions of women in my country suffering sexual repression. Some don't even masturbate. This is reality. They don't even know what female masturbation is? When I had my first Indian boyfriend a few years ago and I told him that I masturbate, he was completely shocked and he asked "what is that?" I felt very embarrassed having to explain him what masturbation as a female meant and I felt shamed immediately because in his eyes I was some slut who was committing some l kind of a crime by engaging in something as natural as masturbation. I felt deeply shamed and turned to my cousin who was an older woman (slightly older) and she explained to me that it was completely normal for a girl to get sexual feelings in her teens. There was nothing to be ashamed about it. I was already suicidal because of the intense shaming by my first boyfriend But my next bf was very supportive. Sexual repression of women is very bad. I've heard stories of women who were very unhappy in their marriages in India and the men forced them to have sex and most of these women felt very shamed to even have sex so they felt raped and violated and so the marriage never worked. They were sent to therapy and counseling to make them understand what sex means.. But obviously such counseling doesn't help much if the trauma is deep. Such women also suffered a lot during their pregnancies because their reproductive systems and hormonal levels were stunted by such sexual repression. This is needless suffering. Sexual shaming of women is just another way of oppression of women and it is evil. Lately women have become more sexually free and men in such countries pose a major backlash to a woman's sexual independence. It's basically killing her womb. A man should not have a right to decide what a woman does with her body. That itself is the violation of basic human liberty.

Such agenda is evil. Any form of oppression of any gender is evil and authoritarian and obviously there should be a rebellion against it.

How is a woman being sexually free toxic to the collective?

What if the collective expression is toxic to an individual's expression?

You have absolutely zero clue about women. Lmao. This is unreal. Even vaginal sex is painful at first. So by this logic stop using the vagina lol. With any form of sex there are risks. There is vaginal bleeding with sex. I can show you reports where vaginal bleeding has caused infections in women. You have some misinformed medical ideas on sex. Do you know the greatest threat of vaginal sex......unwanted Pregnancy!! A lot of women prefer anal sex because they don't want to get pregnant because even with birth control pills, there is a possibility of getting pregnant if the condom broke or if the pills didn't work. I myself had anal sex with my bf to prevent a pregnancy. And regarding vaginal sex, no there is no guarantee of anything being medically safe. https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/bleeding-after-sex#complications You have no idea about a woman's body.

Generally what kind of guests does he bring on? Conservative - type?

Exactly. Thanks for the support. Appreciate it very much..

They're trying to make it look like it's abnormal and not something that most women would want. In an indirect fashion, since they can't attack my sexuality directly, now the frame is to make me look hyper sexual and abnormal and set apart and isolated from all other women. Just another way of denigrating me. Then come back and say that everything was in my best interests.. The best interest here would be to completely respect my sexual desires rather than guilt me.

Of course it is positive. But that's not the point. The point is that if a woman desires oral sex, it's absolutely normal and nothing hyper sexual about it.

You're making indirect references at me in a derogatory way. Basically slut shaming me in indirect ways. Comparing me to your girlfriend, saying that girls who like oral sex are hyper sexual, which basically means that if I like oral sex then I'm being hyper sexual, I know where this discussion is going and I'm not liking it. Yes women like oral sex. Deal with it. Sexually confident women express their sexual feelings and desires and you don't need to guilt me for being open in public about my sexual desires. If some woman doesn't like it, you can't use that to make generalizations about all women and marginalize women like me. I never said that every woman likes oral sex. But please, my sexual desires are just normal sexual desires, not hyper sexual as you're trying to make it out to be. Many many many women like oral sex. No big deal.