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What is the best way to record insights Argh. I had 6 insights early in the morning and I forgot to record them. This is the problem. Now I forgot all of them.. What I'm going to do is sit with a notepad and as soon as I have insights, just jot them down. So I don't have to forget. Please remember next time

Important things Perspectives Reprogram the mind Understanding Say no to "shutting the door" If someone doesn't take you seriously Cognitive Dissonant people and bickerings. I made a post on cyberbullying Corruption of the field Egoic pursuit of spirituality. Like a badge of honor thing going on. Using chemicals to feel great. There is more focus on image rather than true purpose or true meaning. "I've also conquered spirituality" Spirituality is not about conquering, it's about being. If you are resisting "being" you aren't doing what you need to do.

@RendHeaven it wasn't about Leo. It's about Milo Yiannopoulos.

Tell him to believe in the mainstream media and that his theories are false.

Shutting the door kind of communication Why should I even bother do talk to you if everything that is thrown in my direction is negative I liked the point of authentic Empowerment and assertiveness Unique perspectives Having understanding for the one you're empathizing with Focus more on the communication Don't let yourself to be taken for granted Learn to spot hypocrisy If someone doesn't take you seriously, learn to spot that right away, don't give them the closure or the "nod"... Don't agree with them. Be subtle with your communication Be strict and cold around narcissist assholes Don't automatically assume that everyone has the best intentions See the subtle signs of guilt tripping and be good at recognizing Real communication lies in real understanding /real bonding because that's how you really bond. Only when you create that bond, you can give the right solutions from that place by being in the shoes of someone. Rest is all nonsense. Remember that you can never win with a narcissist "he is just an idiot with a huge ego" (the ex) Vent out as much as possible Say no to toxic people Detect hostility and Fake goodness or "nice-Ness" Reprogram your mind - if someone is saying mean things, it reflects less about you and more about them. Don't react much. Often times your polite behavior can be considered as people pleasing Avoid people who say negative things Focus on 3 elements - - Energy, vibe - Temperament, Nature - Character Focus on the quality of communication and real communication My ex was trying to subtly guilt trip me, gaslight me and bully me. Learn to only accept those people who acknowledge your feelings of pain, hurt and conflict. If they ignore your hurt or pain, just don't bother about such people. . Being too cold around people can also lead to Repressed feelings . Try to appear more subtle, more graceful and more detailed in your communication . To my ex - if you always think that I'm a bitch, no matter what I say, you're allowed your bitch fits. Go on bitching about me, I don't care.. . Try to talk more to people who have a welcoming kind of communication rather than the "shutting the door on you " kind of communication. . I'm not very articulate with my self expression. I experience difficulty in this area. . Sometimes you have to be friendly and open just to get all the knowledge you want to get Being assertive can be a problem. When you're trying to be assertive, you're being guilted by this person. And when you're not being assertive, you're being called inauthentic. If a person is a narcissist, they're always going to talk from their POV and not try to understand you. Always preemptively think how they are going to talk from their POV.

The one who is not bad

@Muhammad Jawad I only do 1 gram always.

This guy is a very good guy. He is better than 90% people I've met or seen.

I've been emotionally distressed since the past few days. Because of my ex. He contacted me on November 1 and I thought I should forgive him for all the abuse. That was when I asked in the forum about forgiving him. I opened the forgiveness thread on November 3 By November 7 (I don't exactly remember) , I received the bad news that he had cheated on me. He confessed to me. This sent me into a downward spiral and I was extremely distraught knowing that he had cheated on me. I had discussed with one of my close friends and they told me it was narcissistic abuse, I began reading about it and I realized that it was narcissistic abuse. That's when I started the journal narcissistic abusive personalities. I started this journal on November 8. The next week I was completely emotionally messed up. This is when I wanted some closure or understanding of how to deal with the whole situation so I opened a bunch of threads in the dating section. These were the threads..they helped me a lot. A lot of them were opened around November 18. During this time I had blocked him. On December 4, he contacted me again through a common friend and told me that he wanted to be friends with me. I was completely confused why he wanted anything to do with me. That's when I opened this recent thread a few days back on December 6.

I haven't been keeping well since the past few days. I'm feeling very sick.

You can't have an edgy person in the category of meditation and enlightenment. Because it doesn't work like that. You can't have a person like Milo Yiannopoulos in the field of spirituality That's how odd it is. You need a person like Eckhart Tolle in this field. It's almost like a person who has always been advertising junk food is suddenly in the field of diet and fitness. When this sort of thing happens the field gets hijacked and corrupted..

So this thing has been bugging me for the past few days. It's winter in my place and it gets too cold outside. Once my body detects a temperature drop, I instantly feel my body shutting down. All I want to do is just sleep under a heap of blankets or something cozy, drink tea to keep warm or rubbing my hands together. I feel very sleepy, tired and it seems like my heart slows down and I just don't get the motivation to do anything physical. Even getting out of bed becomes a chore. Sometimes I feel spaced out as though my whole body is close to a complete shutdown. I wish there was a "no work" option during winter. How can I stop hibernating? I know humans don't. But it feels a lot like the body shutting down to conserve energy. Also I feel a lot more hungry during winter. I feel like eating hot foods.

I totally understand your sentiment.. People need a reality check

Exactly

Have a sense of authority in life Make peace with the Bad Focus on logistics Answers Tips Help Advice Suggestions Perspectives Insights Thoughts Support Connection Communicate with others At least 10 people Comfort. Give comfort to someone Advice someone Playing a role can look like codependency behavior and it can also be sense of life purpose.

@Roy all our discussions are helping him. Notice how you project. I'm just telling you my perspective. You could take it or leave it instead of putting a negative spin on it

It's also equally bad when people keep debating and opposing and nothing comes out of it other than gratification of the Ego.

I'd recommend dried mushrooms. Like 1gm

@Forestluv this is already looking bad. I hope Biden can reverse things. Plus the Senate has been stronger for the Republicans this time around. Seems Biden has an uphill battle already.

Jordan Peterson is an interesting character. He is more drama and theater than substance. Of course his psychological material is well worked out and a good read, I'd say a goldmine of information, his lectures as well, yet his political opinions are quite banal and myopic for a man so monumentally immersed in psychology and human behavior.

@Forestluv I had a question. Does all of the Trump administration go away with Trump, or is it that only the president gets replaced? How does it work in your country?

I just want to dig into other spiritual channels and see how others are doing their spiritual journeys One channel I discovered today is Naked Reality while surfing through Diamond Net by Emerald.

If you told Jordan Peterson to retire, he might once again go into hiding out of depression.

@Hardkill I don't know much about each one of them. It will take a lot of time to sort through each one of the names. I guess they will be all Going away once The big Orange is gone, am I right? Or do they get to stay in their positions once the President has left? Among the names, I can think of Jared Kushner and Steve Bannon as the most harmful. I'm not suprised he got a ton of extremists on his panel. I just want to know if they are all going away, or do they get to stay?