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Embracing uncertainty not creating uncertainty. For example if my partner died in a car accident, I need to embrace the uncertainty of this event. However if I told my partner that I can divorce him anytime, that's called creating Insecurity and uncertainty and a sign of commitment problems.

You're confusing spirituality with romance. Spiritual love is different from romantic love. I've had my distant relatives in villages who are sages. But if they have a family, they still have romantic attachment They have no attachment to materialistic lifestyle but they sure have attachment to their wives and children. They don't think about letting the relationship go, they will suffer heartache just like others Since it's difficult to have both non attachment and attachment at the same time, most prefer to live single. But those who marry keep their marriage forever. You've grossly misinterpreted Indian sage philosophy and spirituality Deep love comes with bonding, attachment, trust, security, companionship, intimacy and loyalty. This applies to all animals including humans and this is inescapable. Anything outside this is a fickle attachment and does not carry the same value in terms of depth. In order to escape such attachments, Indian yogis, sadhus, sants and sages have to leave their families entirely and act like they're dead somewhere. They never marry or have relationships and practice abstinence. That's true non attachment.

@Striving for more did you see my reply in the health section?

Exactly. To me it sounds like commitment phobia 101. Classic commitment phobia symptoms.

That is some fickle love. It's more like love at the truck stop.. If you cannot feel secure, you got trust issues, and if you got trust issues, then you are not in love. You're simply enjoying sex and conversations and company. Like love for hire. But deep love doesn't look like that and is always difficult to let go because it's a deep bond. But to each his own. However what you're describing is what I'll call at best a fling or short romance lacking deep intimacy or emotions. It's not very deep. Most people who are in deep relationships don't like that. They are impacted by their relationships

But I'm talking about when you are not surviving, that is when you are completely at ease and there is no threat. Why will you want to be friends with such a person in a civil society? Also what gives you a guarantee that this person won't turn on you? If he has killed someone in the past, what can stop him from killing you, even if you are a friend? Where do you get the trust from? So I don't think it's safe to trust such a person. That's why a lot of these women who trust and marry criminals end up in hospitals with injuries.

@UNZARI that's awesome. I like emotional men. I also think that you are a great guy in your relationship.

@Recursoinominado yea that makes sense. But for a lot of these women, they're living in civil society and they are not in a situation where they need a gangster to protect them. I don't think that they are using that logic. I think it's more about feeling protected in some way, in unconscious ways even if there is no enemy threat. Or these women just don't care who they fall in love with.. I mean I get it that you want a criminal in a dangerous environment, however if you find out that he is a serial rapist, wouldn't you want to distance yourself from him on terms of morality? You would realize that you're friends with him only for protection but not otherwise. So I definitely think that these women are themselves foolish or lack in moral structure to be able to support someone who has done wrong things to others.

Maybe have a gap or a break and you will have interest in sex again.

@Raphael it's called slave mentality and self hate. I've seen Indians give better treatment to whites than other Indians. For example one day I was sitting in the lobby waiting for a doctor and me and other people had been waiting for hours. A white man enters in. He sits among us. Then the doctors advises the staff to let in the white guy first. He is given priority over others. If I'm sitting in an Indian restaurant, the Indian manager of the restaurant will first serve a white couple or family and then serve us. I understand that there is a "respect the outsider" culture in India but sometimes it's not just about respect but a certain slave mentality. So if the Indian person suffered because of a criminal, no action will be taken but if a white tourist was affected by a crime, the police immediately takes action and gives them VIP treatment. It's like an after impact of colonialism. It's like our own government will favor the white person over us. But it's no big deal since we don't want any white person to be treated badly anyway or suffer a bad experience so it's not like we complain about it. Most people are glad that the white people who live in the community have a happy experience living among us. Yet the bias is kinda openly visible. But like I said we don't mind it.

@Recursoinominado How about women falling in love with murderers sitting in jail who don't even look handsome? Shit doesn't compute. Oh well they think these murderers are powerful. Oh shucks.

I saw money drive a wedge between two people who loved each other. I saw money separate siblings and fight each other over it. I saw how money made people desperate and greedy and walk away from love and destroy families. I saw money make people rich and forget love and care. I saw money make people look down on others. I saw money make people forget relationships and bonds. I saw money make people corrupt and greedy for more. I saw money give people false power. I saw money make people forget real happiness. I saw money like a snake in the grass. I saw money enter the house like a snake and poison the whole family. Money is like a boogeyman that took all the children one by one. Truly its a sickness that must be rid of. Until then the poisoning will continue.

Hmm.

I don't think this passage meant the rich will get richer and the poor will get poorer. Maybe it has different interpretations. I always thought it meant that if you have more faith, and you give more, more will be given as gifts from heaven and if your faith is little, even this little faith will be tested and destroyed. But I'm not sure. Only true theologians can explain that quote

These men are so hot. Hotter than today's actors Cute, handsome, masculine and just simple..

They always get rich by preying on the miseries of people. Now selling vaccines will make them rich. Meanwhile poor get poorer. I observed that whenever things go bad in this world, the rich get richer. Good for them. They devised money making in such a way that It's heads, they win, it's tails, we lose. In any case they win

@Striving for more I looked up pg tips and this is what I found. It is stronger than most Indian teas. Which is bad. Indian tea is milder. So I'll recommend a bunch of Indian teas for you. A lot of Indian teas are masala chai or spice tea and don't go for that because they heighten the effect of caffeine. Go to your local store and get original Indian tea, no masala or spices or herbs. Or I found some original Indian teas on the UK website. (You could visit local Indian grocery stores in your area to get original Indian teas.)

Just drink original british or Indian tea. But dont drink spiced tea, herb tea or black tea. Just original tea. Check pack to see that it only contains original tea and no other ingredients. Also you can try decaffeinated tea. But again no other ingredients or flavors.. Only simple tea leaves. Just add a half a spoon and no more if you are caffeine sensitive.

If you want to know more about how I think about money, then watch this to get an idea.

No.. Work is not evil. Money is evil. Work is always good, whatever work it is.

@Hello from Russia I'm sorry but I look at money as evil. That's just my opinion though.

@dflores321 hey I like that profile pic. It changes colors.

Good signs. Enjoy it while it lasts. Few people get the opportunity and desire to give up the mundane and pursue self development with passion. I know it sounds fun and crazy at the same time. But feel fortunate and blessed. Because now is the time and no other. Self development work makes me giddy with happiness Just watching myself grow is like watching a beautiful sunset.

Ok what is thought terrorism? Can anyone tell me? I Googled the term. Nothing came up. Does this phrase mean thought crime? Anyway, I don't understand the point of this post. Is it against psychedelics? I don't get it. It's like loosely disjoint words put together to sound like a warning. I don't think that you should focus so much on what someone is doing. Why not carve out your own path and share it with others rather than having the need to criticize someone else's path? Why not just grow up?

Thank you. Your advice is super helpful.