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Also let's talk about general culture today. I want a feminine man, in a sense who understands a woman, who is not completely oblivious of what a female is. But if you look around, a lot of men act like boys. No offense please There seems to be horrible level of emasculation that has happened which makes men less responsibility oriented and encourages the whole "fuck boy" culture. It's very difficult to navigate around such men because you know they will always act like boys and never shoulder any responsibility. I don't want to sound harsh and say that men should always only be about responsibility, but when it comes to marriage, family etc, some degree of responsibility is expected out of him. A lot of my college guys were very girlish or feminine, I don't demonize how they are, and of course I expect some feminine sensitive behaviors in a man but I don't want him to act like my female buddy in male form. Such men bring drama and bitchy behavior into a relationship because of their lack of maturity but it seems more and more men are being encouraged to be this way and it's cheered on by other men. It definitely hurts your survivability as a woman when every man around you is acting like a man child. Your job is not to be their mommy.

Lets admit it. There are a lot of fuck boys out there and these fuck boys are well trained in fooling women and lots of women get manipulated by such men only to discover the truth later that results in a lot of disappointment and hurt. Let's not make it a woman's fault when he is the one cheating. The biggest challenge to a woman's survival is that she is looked down upon if she is looking for a survival and trying to find a suitable man for herself. Most men do not like the idea of a woman approaching them no matter how sweet she might be. So if right now I see a good guy who can make a good partner, I will still be extremely resistant to approaching him, knowing that he wouldn't appreciate it, this is far worse than guys who have fear in approaching women, at least they are not considered wrong for approaching women. If a woman decides to try out multiple men, she is considered bossy but if a man did that, he is considered sharp. That's another challenge

@tsuki the question is how long can you be with a man who doesn't tell you what he wants out of the relationship. And why does he waste the time of a woman, when her clock is ticking? Also when a woman gets fed up with his indecisiveness, she leaves him, then why does he get angry and hold a grudge against her? Why does he play a victim when he is dumped for lack of commitment? Isn't her survival just as important?

I'm not talking about the dating phase in a relationship, it's not like I am going to straight up talk about marriage and children with every man I meet. I'm talking about relationships where it's time for the man to ask the question. And when the woman brings up the question, he tells her lies and continues the relationship even when he knows he doesn't want to be with her. A man can take his own time to decide things. But he doesn't need infinite time. At a certain point he needs to be clear about what he wants.. If he pretends like he wants marriage but acts deceptive when it comes to planning, that can be very deceptive of him. You don't need forever to decide what you want in a relationship. I know that such men are bogus and such excuses are bogus as well.

This was my biggest problem all along, men that pretend to be mature and pretend to care, and then they say they just wanted a temporary girlfriend, it's kinda annoying, because it's a huge waste of time. For them it doesn't feel like a waste of time, because they are used to doing this with other women and they love doing that because they get all the benefits of a relationship without having to commit.. But people who are looking for serious commitment get screwed up in this process. It's like if a committed man was with a woman and he told her that he wants to marry her, and she always finds excuses to put off marriage but she wants him as a boyfriend and he ends up feeling duped or fooled because she is not on the same page but she plays games and pretends like she really wants to be his wife, only to use him sexually or emotionally,giving him a false hope for the future.. The best advice here is to not waste someone's time with lies and pretense. To be honest right away once you reach the committment stage. The problem with such commitment phobic men is that they want the girl but they don't want the commitment part of it. Like with my second ex, I asked him why he didn't tell me that he wasn't planning on creating a family and he told me that if he said that, he would lose me. I cut off with him because of commitment issues Sooner or later the relationship ends but it leaves a trail of disappointment, mistrust, loss of time, confusion, waste of time and energy and age. I had a guy approach me online a couple of months ago and I started to sense that he was a fuckboy so I fired a lot of questions at him and then he told me that he had a girlfriend for 5 years and now he was looking for another one.. And I asked him what did he mean. After a lot of coaxing, he finally said that he simply wanted a girlfriend for another 3 or 5 years, he never wanted marriage and I told him it was wrong for him to not make his intentions clear to women that he approached. At some point in the relationship a person needs to be clear about what they want in it, why they're in it and their lack of sincerity can cause a lot of pain and hurt and loss.

@tsuki thank you. ❤️. I like men with maturity, competence and commitment, not those who pretend. I like sincerity in relationships because I want to build it for a lifetime. I don't believe in flings and short term relationships but building a marriage and children and family. I'm more family oriented. So men who don't want a serious commitment to family should really be upfront about it right from the get go and not fool the woman into believing that he wants her as a wife and then use her to get laid. That's what makes me angry and frustrated. Because a lot of these manipulative lie and pretend. My point is that whatever relationship you want, try to seek it by honest means, and don't lie or pretend to be with someone. Because it's difficult to know someone's intentions beforehand, it's difficult to spot a lie or pretense. And with the challenge of wanting a family you want someone dependable who is not lying about their intentions and is willing to put the effort to build a relationship and not lying about their commitment level.

English Please!!

I want to be like a shorebird, always walking in peace. Because soldiers got better powers so good can continue. My number one rule is, don't bring a third person into the relationship. That's where manipulation begins. While you were spinning lies and honing your egoic schemes, I was busy sharpening my spiritual skills

@Hello from Russia actually its not a great idea to wash vessels with tap water either. But I guess there's not much of a choice because you want to use filtered water for drinking. But otherwise I'd have suggested to use filtered for dishes as well. But it's something that can be compromised The problem with cleaning using bad or unclean water is that residue can stay on the dishes or objects. Let's say you used to clean veggies. Some residue might stay after the water is dried. But I don't think that such minute quantities of residue are going to be as harmful as directly drinking or adding tap water to food. So it's okay to use it for cleaning.

@Eph75 @Rilles

Oh no you misunderstood me. I thought you were talking about some other woman because you didn't say "my wife" you only said "she" so there was a bit of a misunderstanding. Just a misunderstanding, forgive me. Genuinely Sorry. Hope you and your wifey have a great marriage.

I thought you had a wife? No?

@mmKay no. Not at all. Tap water is only OK for doing dishes and washing and cleaning purposes. Not for any use related to food Yes for non-food related use.

@datamonster where?

Is this a new trick up his sleeve? Why doesn't that dude simply back off into a shadow? What is this dude really up to? Btw, I like this. Whoever pulled that stunt, good job. The messages read "Trump Worst President ever" and "Trump you pathetic loser go back to Moscow."

Yea like @Moksha said, ego is the false God, don't let it go to your head. Its good to love the self and practice self acceptance and self love but don't let it devolve into Delusion The Ego is sneaky. You might like it now because it rewards you to be you. But when you go down a dark path in life and if your ego wins against your conscience, then you might some day realize how that sneaky ego tricked you into doing things your conscience didn't really want. Sometimes the Ego can turn into a force, a destructive one, and take over everything that you hold sacred and turn you against your own family, turn you against goodness and become fatal Beware of the Ego. Sneaky is his name.. Dirty is his game.

Time to recollect and rejuvenate.

@Nahm Salute you Phil. You do a great job!

@BlackMaze if you are worried about fixing an RO system into the wall, then go for the Countertop RO I've an RO that's not Countertop but it's kinda drilled into the Wall of my kitchen I don't know what to call it, drilled or what , their technicians come and do it. I mean I already had like a cabin space in the wall. So they didnt have to drill much. It took them 2 hours. They just put some holes and put some electric circuitry (I'm not good at describing such things) and wiring and fixed the rectangular big RO thing into the wall cabin. It's expensive of course but better than wasting thousands of dollars on health issues. Am I right?

Hey, tell me about the health risks of going Vegan. I'm vegan since 6 months now. I would like to know if I made a mistake. I'm very new to all this.

A good purifier should cost you $280 upfront. You also need to pay annual or biannual for filters like a $100. But of course you can go for a $100 purifier as well but it may not be optimum. Yet any purifier option is better than silly tap water or BRITA. You can get packaged drinking RO water like the ones in KROEGER or WALMART but it's a lot of plastic waste lying around the house. I remember doing that when I had like 400 bottles in the trunk of my car. It's just not good. Better invest in an installation It comes with company warranty and servicing. You won't regret it a bit PLEASE DON'T DRINK TAP WATER EVER. IT'S LITERALLY POISON..

My relatives in the United States were still drinking tap water and PRIMO WATER from KROEGER. So I told them to install a damn purifier. Now they got it installed in their new house. Trust me it helps. I drank tap water for a week in the US and I felt sick. The next week I got BRITA but I wasn't satisfied. I felt like I was pouring water from a jug. But I left US after that so I didn't feel the need to buy a purifier there.

The quality is contingent on the price. High end Purifiers cost you starting from $ 100 to $500. I never got the $100 ones, maybe I had them as a kid. The one that I have now that costs $500 also has UV. Been using it for 3 years now, it has a 10 year warranty. The quality is excellent of course with that price. I never have to worry about fluoride water any more. No heavy metals. Really nice clean water.

@abrakamowse @Keyhole I resonate with both of you

I'm also planning to do something like Nahm where I can help people for free. So I try to do my bit on the forum by helping people every now and then. In the future I will feel much more confident in Going out and helping people