Preety_India

Thinking of the top of my head - John Lennon - Imagine BEATLES - The Revolution Bruce Springsteen - Born in the USA

@fridjonk I so wish to drink the water in your country. Especially the mountain spring water. I've heard that water even cures health problems. I used to see that in the movies

Yea I agree. For most countries, there is no mountain water. You're talking about Islandic regions I cannot even imagine those places. They really have great water. Really pure.. But lot of countries don't have access to such great natural beauty.

@mandyjw I'll try.

Oh please that was a joke, you're so much better. I'm trying to explain you a scenario here. Let's say I lost my business because of Covid. I lost income and I lost my place of business.. There's nothing I can do about it. I can't get it back. I will continue moving on with my life, continue doing things that I do, I might want to vent about it and venting might help me heal from the trauma of it, but I also have to learn that such things happen. There is poverty in the world. It feels unfair. I might feel unfair about how I was treated in a relationship. You can't completely fix such things.. You can change some situations and make improvements to your life as you go along and learn more, but you cannot expect for everything to change radically. So there should be an acceptance that life is unfair, that things happen, even if we didn't anticipate them, that things are not perfect, of course venting helps with letting it out and feeling better, by all means do so, but do not be fixated on finding a solution for every thing in your life. You will need to embrace that doesn't change I can't change my environment. I can't change the men around me. Yes of course I can bring some awareness to my issues to the best of my ability, but even then a change is not guaranteed. Sometimes social changes happen with awareness For example, people in my neighborhood are more likely to treat their children better because of greater awareness of child psychology. So yes, changes can happen. But you can't be too fixated on it. Life has to move on. Change what you can change. But if something is creating a lot of problems and it doesn't change, like your job condition, just quit it, move somewhere else, try and get another job, maybe your boss was abusive and you can't change that, then switch to a different place. What I'm saying is don't always try to fix things. If my relationships are not working, and the situation is not changing, then maybe I should stay single. Because everything does not have a solution so you have to compromise. Learn to accept the nature of things that don't change..

@Applegarden everything doesn't have a perfect solution. It's sometimes understanding and acceptance of a situation that is the only solution. Embrace life. Yes vent it out when you want. But understand the cruelties of life and those cruelties won't have a solution.

You're right about it. That's why I like such discussions. Now it's time for me to quit and focus on other things Hope my thread helped open new dimensions and perspectives on dating.

@tsuki you're very much like me in many ways.. Fyi, this is going to be my last thread in this sub-forum, I'm happy that I have exhausted all my curiosities here, in terms of this sub forum, I don't think there is much left to explore anymore on this subsection, I had lots of curios questions and thoughts and I discussed all of them, now I don't have any fresh ideas or questions left. So yea it feels good actually. I can move on to other sections. Got all the burning questions answered. So far the participation in all of my threads was mind blowing and amazing. You know such discussions bring so much clarity and depth and they clear out so many previous beliefs, help you explore and learn new things you didn't know, bringing fresh perspectives, it's always good to discuss with others, no matter how heated the debate, it always brings out the other person's perspective and even if there are disagreements, there is something to learn. So I'm glad I kinda exhausted my curiosities on this and other threads.. I also liked the participation.

It almost feels like.

That's a lot of work. I remember doing all that boring thing.

Hahahaha This seems like a husband and wife arguing. You remind me of that. It's straight out of something my ex would have told me... "I encourage you to go"...... "and see whether I said"... This is cracking me up.

Well that's what I wanted to know from you, whether you understood my perspective or not. You said yes and so I'm relaxed that you finally get it.

End of the discussion!

@tsuki and if your answer is yes and you do understand that it's brutal, then that's all I wanted to know.

I'm not trying to be condescending. Just asking you a simple question. It seems like you're avoiding the exact question I'm asking.

@tsuki you never answered my question.

@neutralempty thank you lol I was very scared. Will stick to my vegan

I'm not being cheeky at all Tell me if you really believe what I just quoted, that being hurt over and over can be massive challenge? Do you at least understand and accept it? I'm not looking for a solution to the whole situation, I only want to know if you understand and accept it. Because the solution to it is very difficult and the only thing to know is that dating can be brutal for both men and women. So my question to you is simple and I want a simple answer Do you at least understand and accept that getting hurt can be brutal for a woman?

The problem is that I'm not triggered by that at all In fact I didn't even bring up something like that on this thread. I offered my perspectives of how dating is a difficult navigation for me and several women. And this simple thing is triggering so many guys on the forum, it's eccentric. Of course both men and women have challenges and frustrations in dating. I've never denied the male part.

Look a little bit of bias will always exist.. Nobody can be completely free from bias because everyone wants to survive at the end of day. So If I presented my survival challenges as a woman, why is it so triggering to these men. I just don't get it.

@Leo Gura I don't get what's going on. I'm not blaming men in any way or calling them evil or anything. Nor am I implying that men don't have struggles. I feel like nobody wants to accept that women have challenges in dating.

@tsuki you just don't get it. A fuck boy doesn't come with a label on his forehead. It's difficult to screen men and that's a challenge because deception is very difficult to spot. If you are of the perspective that women don't have any challenges, then sit with it.

I'm not going to discuss with anyone who doesn't have an open mind to understand perspectives and challenges. If your argument is all about victim mindset and bitterness then no need to read this thread

@mmKay @neutralempty Tap water is dangerous in every country. Look at the OP who got sick by constantly consuming it If you think I'm exaggerating about heavy metal toxicity then go do what you want. The water in the US is much more toxic than in my own country.. In fact in my country, there are lots of poor people who can't afford purifiers but survive because the water is not that unclean or chemical - ly. If you don't want to listen to my advice that tap water contains chemicals used for cleaning or odor removal and how it's dangerous, then go do whatever you want.

You are going into a territory where you're simply applying your assumptions where they are not valid. You're twisting things out of context. I said that manipulation in relationships can be a huge problem, however you are taking it to mean that I said all men are evil,when I didn't imply that at all I'm not playing victim when I say it's difficult for women to approach men because it's looked down upon. I'm simply presenting survival and dating challenges from a female perspective just like men do here from their perspective If men think that dating is challenging for them, it's challenging for women as well. Why is it that when a woman states her challenges, she is called a victim whereas men always have to be sympathized with? This is one more challenge for a woman right here That whenever she decides to speak up about whatever is difficult for her, she is called a victim player.