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This is awesome. The video is so surreal. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for the response. Great explanation. Will definitely check out the attachment stuff

Totally agree.

There are two types of good people in this world. One who don't put their nose into everything you do and keep to themselves, like a bunch of old folks in an elderly home, they respect you, they are not too close to you. Even if they are distant from you, they are helpful when approached, they basically keep to themselves and are usually wise and decent. The other kind of good people are those that are closely involved with healing you. They are the people in your room, they talk to you. They indulge you. They work closely with you..

I credit my life changes to Tony Robbins. He brought a big shift in my way of looking at things And it's only a week that I've been him.

If a community is not loving its because the people aren't loving

Your mind or brain is like this cube.. It keeps morphing into something else. I'll call the mind the morphing cube and this is what allows us to change states of mind You basically completely bend the way you deal with reality through mind change

@EddieEddie1995 glad to know.

My childhood was stolen from me by a bitch.

Symptoms of child abuse Heal the inner child now < Happiness

@nistake thank you for sharing.

Links http://sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm Lesson 1 http://sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm Six specific psychological wounds http://sfhelp.org/gwc/pop/wounds.htm http://sfhelp.org/cx/guide2.htm Lesson 2 Quiz http://sfhelp.org/cx/quiz2.htm Lesson 3 http://sfhelp.org/grief/guide3.htm Lesson 4 http://sfhelp.org/relate/guide4.htm Quiz http://sfhelp.org/relate/quiz4.htm Lesson 5 http://sfhelp.org/fam/guide5.htm Lesson 6 http://sfhelp.org/parent/guide6.htm Lesson 7 http://sfhelp.org/sf/guide7.htm

Copied this from some journal here Thanks to the person /user for posting this in their journal. Stanford educated therapist who specialized in family systems and early childhood trauma (usually parental abandonment, neglect, and abuse) and practiced for 33 years. I'd assume he would have a pretty good understanding of this stuff. He has an in-depth course that is completely free. The website is a little dated but I think the quality of the information is great. I feel like early childhood trauma feeds into many of the psychological issues that people discuss on this forum. So having at least a rudimentary understanding of the basics would help to alleviate many issues at the root, speaking for myself here! On the course overview, he says as much. The information covers inherited psychological wounds from trauma and the ignorance that is perpetuating the chain of pain from one generation to the next. Here are links to the lessons in his course. His youtube videos supplement the articles and content organized under each lesson. I want to work through these slowly. LESSON 1) WOUND HEALING. A high majority of average women and men are unaware of carrying up to six specific psychological wounds from early-childhood abandonment, neglect, and abuse (trauma). This lesson shows you how to assess for such wounds and reduce them. This keystone Lesson has four parts, following an introductory overview of addictions: Learn about personality subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs); Assess yourself for up to six psychological wounds; Evolve and work an effective plan to free your true Self from false-self dominance and reduce your wounds; and... Learn how to spot and relate to other wounded people LESSON 2) EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION Effective communication and thinking are essential for all relationships, families, and organizations - yet our ancestors and schools don't teach these basics and seven skills. Test your knowledge by taking this quiz. This lesson has four parts: Basic concepts - what you need to know about communicating;. Seven powerful skills. If you can't name and describe the skills, you're not using them. Useful communication tools and resources, and... Key relationship applications of these basics, skills, and tools.. LESSON 3) LEARN TO DO "GOOD GRIEF" - We all have losses (broken bonds) throughout our lives. Unawareness and ignorance of healthy mourning promotes incomplete grief. That promotes significant psychological and physical problems like "depression," addictions, obesity, and diabetes. These four parts show you how to spot and finish incomplete grief and grow a "pro-grief" family. Basics - what you and your kids need to know about bonding, losses, and healthy grief; Assess yourself or others for incomplete grief. Complete any unfinished grief, and form healthy new bonds. Learn to support other grievers effectively LESSON 4) OPTIMIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS The thriving counseling and therapy industry exists partly because millions of people "can't get along with" (relate to) each other. The primary reasons for this are widespread psychological wounds + ignorance of Lessons 1 thru 4. This Lesson provides effective-relationship basics and how to apply them to relationships with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, and other adults and kids. To learn what you need to learn about relationships, try this quiz. Lesson 4 has five sequential parts. relationship basics relating to yourself, how to solve relationship problems primary relationships, divorce, and ex-mate relations; and... relating effectively to a Higher Power. LESSON 5) IMPROVE YOUR FAMILY'S FUNCTIONING The wide range of personal and social problems suggests that the current family norm is dysfunctional. Use Lessons 1-4 to understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance ("functional") family. Then assess the nurturance level of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as needed. To learn what you need to learn about families, take this quiz Lesson-5 parts are: Basic concepts you need to know about all families (like yours) Traits of a high-nurturance ("functional") family Identify and resolve typical "family problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1 through 4 LESSON 6) EFFECTIVE PARENTING Unseen psychological wounds are epidemic because of widespread early-childhood abandonment, abuse, and neglect (trauma). This Lesson outlines the developmental and special needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs (to nurture) effectively. Without major progress at Lessons 1-6, psychologically-wounded adults (GWCs) risk unintentionally passing their inherited injuries and unawareness on to their kids. Lesson-6 covers: Normal developmental needs of typical minor kids, Effective-parenting basics, including... traits of effective parents communicating effectively with children and teens, and... guidelines for effective child discipline. Most of these ideas apply to effective grandparenting. LESSON 7) STEPFAMILIES Because divorce is so prevalent, millions of stepfamilies exist. Sociologists estimate that typical U.S. stepfamily re/marriages fail more often than first-marriage families. From 36 years' study and counseling over 1,000 stepfamily adults, this Lesson provides stepfamily basics and applies Lessons 1 thru 6 toward growing a stable, high-nurturance re/marriage and stepfamily. Sequential parts include... Learn stepfamily basics, myths, and realities; Essential courtship education - make three informed choices to avoid probable re/divorce; Stepkids' special needs, and effective co-parenting (stepparenting and bioparenting); and... Avoid or resolve common stepfamily role and relationship problems.

This year I'm fully focused on work. I need to start and then learn on the fly as I go along

Long list of skillsets ??Proficiency Catalogue ?? Confidence Motivation Communication Goal setting Inspiration (I'll protect you, we will make this thing happen) Empowering Consistency and persistence Feeling a sense of security. Awareness (self and environment) and understanding. Learning something new Investment Creativity Passion Expansion (knowing more, learning more ) Crystallization Elimination (something not serving your purpose, something hurting your goals) Experience (important) Wisdom Adding to your kitty/building arsenal Upgrading your database and updating Growth /progress Filling (filling cup with knowledge) and absorbing Organizing and structuring (connecting the dots, mapping, come together, confusion removed ) Optimizing and streamlining Implementing Brainstorming Flourishing (moving forward forever) Power of the positive spirit Accountability partner Being graceful and grateful ?? Additional arsenal ?️?️ Subconscious reversal of patterns

I run my business in sales. I got huge commissions in an investment firm when I started out. I make my money. I have a small house of my own that I got on a loan. I am independent financially. I recently joined a marketing course to sharpen my skills even more. I don't want to be any man's servant or slave Thanks I can feed myself. Men had financial power over women for a very long time. Time for women to not give a damn

I run my business in sales. I got huge commissions in an investment firm when I started out. I make my money. I have a small house of my own that I got on a loan. I am independent financially. I recently joined a marketing course to sharpen my skills even more. I don't want to be any man's servant or slave Thanks I can feed myself. Men had financial power over women for a very long time. Time for women to not give a damn

Reversal of subconscious patterns.

The trauma explains why a lot of my writing is random, chaotic and scattered.

Healing the wounds of being neglected by mom When I went to a psychiatrist, I told them that sometimes I was super needy in relationships. They told me it's a symptom of child neglect. I tended to fluctuate between states of extreme neediness childlike neediness to periods of complete cut off and escaping and running back into a deep shell. So when you are very needy in relationships, don't forget to look at how you were treated by your family. There are clues in childhood which lead you to do what you do in your relationships Of course these subconscious patterns can be reversed and that's what a large chunk of self development is all about. Beware. The inner child is still not healed from abandonment and manifests itself in ugly ways and throws tantrums. So when you get needy, pay attention to your inner child, it's crying for help. Don't neglect it again. It's your shadow. Feed it with self love so it doesn't cry again. There's a heaven and earth difference between needing something very badly and crying when not getting it and demanding something as though someone owes you something in a very arrogant entitled spoilt manner Often people confuse these two because both tendencies exhibit or manifest in similar ways. But both have extremely different causes and roots and symptoms. One is because of having neglected by parents and the other is the result of having been spoiled rotten to the point of severe entitlement by parents. Confusing I know. Enmeshment trauma (not emeshment) is often caused by a narcissistic parent. Also trauma and abuse/neglect patients are looking for some sort of closure, period of emotional peace, emotional consistency, ending the endless chaos, and reassurance (sense of security) You'll often find abuse/trauma victims behaving in absurd weird ways and a lot of stuff they do might not make logical sense They also act random scattered, disconnected which might be visible in their writings. When the brain suffers serious trauma, it starts acting in scattered ways and gradually begins to suffer a gaping deficiency of self awareness

Enmeshment trauma (not emeshment) is often caused by a narcissistic parent. Also trauma and abuse/neglect patients are looking for some sort of closure, period of emotional peace, emotional consistency, ending the endless chaos, and reassurance (sense of security) You'll often find abuse/trauma victims behaving in absurd weird ways and a lot of stuff they do might not make logical sense They also act random scattered, disconnected which might be visible in their writings. When the brain suffers serious trauma, it starts acting in scattered ways and gradually begins to suffer a gaping deficiency of self awareness