Preety_India

? At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it. ? Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself. Hermann Hesse ? The soul is placed in the body like a rough diamond and must be polished, or the luster of it will never appear. Daniel Defoe ? When you connect to the silence within you, that is when you can make sense of the disturbance going on around you. Stephen Richards ? The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself. Henry Miller ? no ego games, authentic and honest communication (be open and vulnerable), and LOTS of shadow work (both individually and together). Healthy communication and collaborative inner work builds a feedback loop of inspiring and pushing each other forward. ? conflicts are not bad, just be honest and try to resolve conflicts consciously without falling into ego traps and biases. ? The love that fills my being can not be taken away by anyone, so I don't need anything from anyone. ?

I decided to coin my own term for beautiful spiritual statements. for beautiful spiritual statements that are not only cute to read but thoroughly therapeutic and meaningful. I'll call such statements ciyiet. Plural ciyiets. They are wise statements and words that inspire a beautiful tapestry, aka pearls of wisdom. I'll keep a short cute collection of these pearls of wisdom and call each sentence a ciyiet. Pronounced as - "see yet. "

I love this post. There is much to learn here. And I agree. The whole "wanna be alpha " sounds too toxic to me. Taking away inner genuineness. The gift of introspection is ignored.

What I said was an overall gist. The answer to the first question - labels are irrelevant. The answer to the second question - Successful couples don't exist. Couples do.

It's not about you or me doing or not doing. You can't change the nature of things. People change. Your only best shot is to screen for best compatibility but even then there is no guarantee. The only guarantee ever is a short term bliss.

@RendHeaven Lmao. I was like you 6 years ago. Always thinking I'll find my soulmate, calling every boyfriend my soulmate, dreaming a permanent life with them, no breakup no divorce. Alas those dreams were shattered. People are nice when you begin relationships. However they drastically change with time. Much of what you call a soulmate or whatever dreamy word are just fair weather friends. They come, they go. The only one who stays is you. What you say is beautiful, but like all other beautiful things, it's largely a fantasy. It feels good to feel this way. But sneaky human nature sneaks in. It's an extremely rare phenomenon to find someone who truly wants to be with you forever. And that being said, people will always keep dreaming for the moon and miss out on the stars.

You're living in a dreamland. But dreaming isn't bad.

The most toxic thing I've ever seen.

Nobody says that someone is stuck there unless you're making it out to be. People are self aware to understand their own miseries.

Maybe quit attacking me because you were the one to start. If you have a problem with my threads, don't read them, nobody forces you. And don't give unsolicited advice because it doesn't work. Your rude condescending tone is not welcome. Remember you wrote the comment about insecurity comment directed at me. So fix yourself first before pointing fingers at others. I never like engaging with you but you don't stop with your digs. The world doesn't resolve around you. I'm not controlling shit. People will have different opinions than yours, deal with it.

I know right. I'm sick of social games too.. They are a creation of a lazy mind.

But you did it first as you said. You start it.

And you clearly want so badly to control how I act and feel that you won't stop going around attacking me. Shows who is really insecure here.

When people find shitty ways to demonize you, it's called gas lighting..

Don't mind. Some people like to project too much. I like your honesty.

Yep. Hehe. I completely understand where you're coming from. It makes no sense to waste a boatload of time on relationships that are going to be vacuous anyway, sorta tragic funny to me.

@mandyjw I understand that I should and can feel empowered in the moment. However that being said, such a stance should not subvert the need to have a conversation and consequent social change. It's like masking a social issue. And who gets to decide what's empowered and what's not. Telling someone that they need to feel empowered is directly implying that they are disempowered. But how can that be decided? What if the person finds empowerment in letting out, creating awareness about their struggles and fighting for social change? Fighting against a disempowering status quo needs bravery and courage and this entails empowerment as well For me, black people who fought racism during civil rights in the 60s are the most empowered people because they didn't simply sit and think "I need to feel empowered" but they gave a voice to their struggled, fought against white people's hegemony and got for themselves the rights that they have today. The whole idea that empowerment is all about feeling goody goody all the time is toxic positivity. Sometimes letting out rage and anger and not letting it fester inside, being true to oneself, not caring for others judgement, standing up for one's rights and fighting for equality is also a huge part of empowerment even though it means going through conflicting stressful emotions and dealing with sorrow for sometime or feeling helpless. Nothing more empowering than enjoying the fruits of labour of sweet social justice.

This is one of the right ways to deal with a double edged sword When you are livewired to Source, channel it. When your brain begins to melt, take a break. The wisdom, as always, is the Middle Way.

This Shadow Work & Emotional Healing (Inner Child Work). Self-esteem work. Exposure therapy. The Sedona method, compatible with Shadow Work. Journaling, very important, ime. Shamanic/Holotropic Breathing. Psychedelics, I haven't tried them personally, but some people suggest that they have healing powers. Practicing self-love, as in taking care of yourself and putting yourself before others. Improving boundaries. Improve awareness

Focus purely on yourself and your desires and let go of this obnoxious attachment that is preying on your energy like a vampire. Try being relaxed for 3 whole days. Your body will slowly reset.

Yes. The highest truth. You shouldn't be something that you don't want to be. In a way it is unfair to the inner temple of the soul.

Predator prey dynamic.

If you think that you're being too hard on yourself, then you can let go. If you think something needs to be done with high priority, then you need to push. This is an intuitive decision that is dependent on situation to situation.

Spot on. I was told two things whenever I brought up my past trauma. (both of the gaslighting type ) One was that I had "decided" to have trauma. The second that I'm having a "victim mindset ". Both of which are untrue. Btw, being a colored woman myself, it's much harder to be taken seriously by society. My problems aren't big or important or valid enough since I'm a "woman of color. " i've no idea how many times this rhetoric keeps repeating. In my mind I often scream "please take people of color seriously. " The level of "ignore " and "indifference" is astonishing.

I've the same problem because of childhood issues. Heightened senses in me and empathetic nature that causes me to be sensitive and easily reactive /triggered. All I do now is try to be less reactive.. I'm learning to accept rather than react. More info in my self control journal. Linked Self control. Do it