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Behavior modulation of "Supportive partner" around bpd. 1.They need to be comforting 2. The partner should communicate extensively with the bpd person. 3. Always try to calm the bpd person. Because their heightened sense of insecurity and fear/anxiety/paranoia. Mentally ill people differ vastly in their symptoms from person to person. The common range of symptoms are more or less the same. 4 when talking to a bpd, make 5..bpd is extremely sneaky. 6... Bpd is psychopathic 7.. Reactivity and defensiveness 8 bpd has extremely high neediness. 9 bpd is low impulse control 10 interrogation technique of communication 11. Bpd persons love physical affection. The best way to make a bpd person feel safe and secure is to give them relentless and abundant amounts of physical affection. In this regard they will have a high drive for sex and even consider sex as an important component of their relationship. A bpd person wants SAFETY OVER TRUST. They want to feel safe no matter what. Of course they want trust. Maybe they don't fully trust their partner yet they want safety. They will secretly spy on their partner 12.. 13 14 . 10

I'm learning so much emotional maturity with the man of my life. I can't believe it. I'm growing way faster than I thought I would. He is pushing me to grow. This is the final chapter of my growth He is unconsciously pushing me to grow up, really hard.

One characteristic of bpd is paranoia. It can really fuck up the anxiety meter. Healing modalities. Behavior modulation of "Supportive partner" around bpd. I'll need a highly intelligent partner to handle me. Essentially a person who is smart enough to handle me. I actually found that person so that's one great step

One thing I discovered recently is that music really helps to rewire the brain to feel better. It does have a positive effect. Also recording insights on bpd. And keeping a track on emotions and maintaining streaks helps too.

Secondary psychopathy is high in bpd cases and knowing this is important Link to suicide.

@thibault I don't understand her behavior from my viewpoint on how bpd works. It could be that she is just a messy person because I did not observe a specific trait in her behavior that I can associate with bpd. Looks like she was just confused about the nature of the relationship.

@thibault was she officially diagnosed?

I don't understand the lyrics....but I like the music.

New songs.

Follow wisdom. Think what's more important in a situation.

Agree but it's not that simple

@Something Funny not everything is drama. At least 80% bpd are suicidal and at least 9% actually commit suicide. So sometimes they don't threaten, they actually carry it out. I already had 4 suicide attempts so I know how it is.

@Something Funny I agree. Thanks for sharing your experience.

The goal of the thread wasn't me asking how to manage bpd. That's something I'm already looking into. The goal of the thread was to know what challenges people were facing who had romantic relationships with bpd so I get some clarity on what issues are encountered by the other person in a relationship with bpd individuals especially women.

People who suffer a disorder aren't crazy all the time. They can be normal and still suffer episodes. Nobody sets out with the intention to date a bipolar or bpd. Often people aren't even aware that they are suffering a disorder. With a supportive partner who knows how to calm down the other person, symptoms can be controlled very easily I have seen a lot of mentally ill people with a golden heart, their symptoms subside and they are easy to handle too. Not everything is so black and white. Personality disorders are the most common form of mental disorders after anxiety and depression. They need to be understood rather than ostracized or demonized. Some people aren't fit to deal with such people and they actually cause symptoms to worsen. It's the dynamic that matters. There are bipolar people in my family that are doing quite well with the help of supportive partners. Most bipolar people I came across are highly successful in life. Same with bpd. Not everyone with a disorder goes out there shooting people in malls. Also there are normal people out there who can give you a hard time in a relationship without visibly suffering any disorder.

That was an elegant style of putting it. I certainly appreciate a sense of humor in people as long as it comes from a place of good faith. Laughing together is a beautiful experience.

Yup. I know.