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(and yes I believe that the royal family is racist given the past record of their treatment of HRH Princess Diana.)

@Peter Miklis yes its rare. That's why I called it unconventional. But don't say nobody at all Because there are examples of people who want to be together even if society does not perceive the union as ideally beneficial.

Look at my original post. I've also mentioned that such examples are very often seen in blue countries and cultures Are you going to say that Green exists without blue? Both blue and green dating styles come under the umbrella. That's why I called it Game B and not simply stage Green dating. Now the couple could be together either due to strong moral values or because they have a strong empathy and connection. Strong moral values are a part of a Blue framework Strong empathy and connection are a part of the Green framework Thats why I said in the original post that you will see a lot of these relationships in Muslim countries and Jewish communities or deeply religious structures. As well among groups that want to show high levels of empathy to each other. Examples are recovering addicts at drug rehabilitation centers who empathize with each other's situations.

No a woman cannot look beyond her agenda. Nor can a man. That's the most stupid thing to ask. I gave you the honest answer that women love confidence. If you don't want to accept it, then that's your denial of reality and not my problem. Ask any dating coach, if majority of women like confident men or weak men and you'll have your answer instantly And the unknown truths that you are talking about. I can only practice what I know. What I don't know will eventually never get my attention and it does not matter because I don't know it. It's stupid to even have this discussion. Because I'm trying to tell what I find attractive in a man and what I observe and you're simply denying it It's like saying I like cats and you telling me that I don't. I don't know what you're trying to accomplish here other than simply refuting.

There is no orange shadow in it. Remember Orange has unhealthy aspects as well where Green is trying to be more Empathetic and accommodating.

I gave the example in the video. No I don't know if the couple has sex or not or if their sex is enjoyable, but the girl can easily get a hot guy who gives her all the money and value in the world, but she wants to be with someone she has a heart attachment with. She wants her love to last forever. So that's example of deep emotional connection favored over general dating goals.

game B will not involve any kind of a fixed strategy like game A. It's basically looking for "heart" relationships. Such relationships have great love and intensity and dedication and hard work and usually last a long time. These are generally faithful monogamous relationships and do not involve chasing for attraction

@John Iverson game B will not involve any kind of a fixed strategy like game A. It's basically looking for "heart" relationships. Such relationships have great love and intensity and dedication and hard work and usually last a long time. These are generally faithful monogamous relationships and do not involve chasing for attraction

@zeroISinfinity Here is the example

You're wrong about it. Please don't say it is nobody. That's veru close minded to say. Yes there is little to no survival agenda involved in Game B. But that does not mean nobody does it. Have you heard about lovers dying for each other or commiting suicide together? Have you heard about true stories of a couple who hang around even when the other person got cancer or lost a leg in an accident or is completely disabled? Of course for the healthier partner it's a huge burden to carry but they find emotional satisfaction in doing so. It's not like a game but a relationship with great emotional intensity. A very good example of game B is this video

@integral no. There is no set definition for it. It is a loosely defined term that centers around spiritual and emotional connections in relationships given more weight over physical paradigms.

Stage Orange dating is never Game B, never was and never will be. For game B, you will need to drop the whole social achievement thing. Giving a hypothetical example. So I'm dating a less successful man or settling for a man who is financially lower than me(beneath me), it's kind of an example of Game B. Because it means that I'm not engaged in the regular stage Orange dating. If I were to do stage Orange dating, I would look for a highly successful man With game B, I face survival challenges because I can end up dead if he doesn't have the money to protect me or we run into big financial troubles, yet I've ditched my survival in favor of emotional satisfaction with him What I mean is that the main focus of game B is emotional Connection and emotional and spiritual satisfaction.. And less focus on Orange Dating Mentality which is geared towards survival value and success. Game B Dating will need to favor Stage Green values over Stage Orange and sacrifice Orange needs for Green needs. Since you care a bit less about survival, the kind of people who will engage in Game B will tend to be less practical and have dreamy goals in life. You'll see repeated patterns of idealistic dreamy behavior in stage Green people. Less pragmatism. That's a Hallmark sign of stage Green. It tries to change the system through a higher vision for the future although the vision does not look possible or practical in the current scenario. For example a stage Green person might say something like "I want equality for everyone. I want all environmental problems gone." In reality this hardly happens and you end up with people like Greta Thunberg. So a lot of Game B is going to sound impractical and is generally rarer for the same reason..

@JosephKnecht even a confident woman wants a confident man. Does an independent woman choose an unemployed guy? The answer is no. We have relationships to support our growth in life and not to compensate for something. You got it the other way around. In fact the more successful confident a woman, she wants a man ever better than her. Women don't tend to date down, only if they are looking for an misadventure, but if they are looking for a husband, they don't date down, they date up. That is someone who provides them even more. It works for her survival agenda to be with a confident man whether she is confident or not, because she sees him as another Feather in her cap, she sees him as another achievement and a good support system for her future kids How will a man lacking in confidence give support to her kids, even if she is independent herself, she needs the big alpha dad for her kids. Since kids need a strong father. In a situation where she is in trouble, the first thing she will do is run to her husband or boyfriend and every woman does this, so women dream about a knight in shining armor kind of guy A woman cannot hang around a weak guy for long. Because even if a woman is strong, she has a sense of vulnerability, and an insecurity regarding survival and she will look into the eyes of her boyfriend or husband to protect her in times of need. When she sees that the man is weak physically or mentally, her insecurity starts to rise even if she is confident, this insecurity will plague her, she will not see herself and him as a power couple, the unbalanced power dynamic will make her uncomfortable and she will lose interest in the man. I want to tell the truth as a woman. I could try and become the strongest woman in the world. But if i came home from my job and saw my boyfriend /husband sitting on the couch with no motivation in life, playing video games and acting like typical losers types, I will get frustrated looking at his weaknesses. Maybe I won't tell him straight away how I feel, but his laziness and weakness will make me feel that he is less manly. I won't be able to like him or admire him because I will see him as incapable or powerless. It's not because I need something from him, I don't need anything from him. But as my boyfriend, I should be able to be proud of him and look him in the eye. I should feel there's something about him that makes me feel like he is important. When a man is being weak and lazy or scared or incapable /lacking in confidence, he tends to lose importance in my eyes. So his confidence is necessary to maintain his status and importance as a man. This is true of men as well. Men look at each other and assess each other's importance. Men admire other men who are high achieving and distance themselves from weak lazy lacking guys. Men don't like to talk to a man who is below them, they also tend to bully a weaker man. Because they see it as fair play. Men want to derive their strength from other strong men. They see weak men as losers and might even insult weak men. Men envy a strong man because deep down they want to be like him. Because a strong man is a sign of progress in all cultures around the world. No culture is immune to this. This might hurt men a lot especially weaker men (so I'm not an advocate for all men to hide their vulnerability, in fact I want men to be more open about their weaknesses) because it's a form or toxic masculinity in our society that prevents weaker men from climbing the ladder. This means that I'm a hypocrite because on one hand I'm saying that I can't tolerate the sight of a weak man but on the other hand I also want men to express their vulnerability. The thing is that I might leave some room for a man's weakness and also admire him for showing his weaker side but at the same time my expectation that he should work on himself is not going to go away.. An emotionally mature woman will understand a man's lack of confidence, his fears, his fragility. But even if she does, she still wants the man to "man up." This is something that a woman can not avoid. I'm being brutally honest. If a woman told you otherwise, she is lying and being manipulative to win you, she is not being honest because she is trying to trap you by showing sympathy A real woman is honest about her feelings. She won't manipulate you. So if she doesn't like something about you, she is simply being honest and telling you the truth. I've seen a lot of women pander to men by telling men how much they care about men especially when the man is opening up, telling him that they will support him through his fears, and ultimately these same women use the guy for all he is worth, use him as a temporary boyfriend, dump him and marry a successful strong man. This is a form of female narcissism, which I absolutely hate. I wish women were more honest about what they want rather than worry about their image. The reason women are so dishonest is because they will appear bad if they said the truth. It will impact their image. Women want to be seen as angels and saints and superior beings, always loved in society. Women care too much about their image in society, even if they commit a crime, they want to justify it by saying "I was forced to do this" or "I did it because I had mental issues" but they never want to own pure responsibility for their crimes, you will never see a woman say "yes I'm a terrible woman and I did this crime because I'm a bad person" almost never. Because deep down she is still worried about her image.. Also women try to oppose another woman to come out looking better than the other woman. The agenda is "hey I want people to know I'm a better woman than you." she is subtly trying to attack the other woman so she looks better. This is why feminism doesn't work because no matter how much women talk "girl power nonsense", women are their own greatest enemies, you will see women fighting over little things and get territorial. I've seen this and noted it. I like honesty in women which is quite rare. But it's not rarest. So when a woman tells you that she likes a strong confident man, trust her word. I'm just telling you female nature. Even dating coaches will tell you the same thing. Because they know that from experience with thousands of women, that women are attracted to confident men. I'm not demonizing women for liking confident men but just stating my personal observations of several women. And my own womanly instincts. So if a woman said to you that she likes you for your weakness, she is just trying to look like a saint, she is playing the Saint tactic, she wants men to admire her, it's like a fake politician trying to pander people by agreeing with them and wanting their adulation. The most attention seeking women will try this tactic. They will try to manipulate you into believing that they love you for your weakness. It's similar to a male player telling a woman she is beautiful even when he is checking out other hot women. It's a way a woman tries to impress a man. There is no need to take her seriously. Because she doesn't mean it. So when a woman tells you to open up about your wounds, take it as a bad sign, because after opening up, she might leave you without notice and you will be left confused. Because what she shows is not who she really is. The more honest women are not going to look desirable to a man. Honest women are blunt, not manipulative, they won't tell you sweet lies. They will directly tell you what they like and what they don't like. So you will hate her for telling the truth and breaking your heart, but she is honest even if she is appearing bad or brutal. The woman who you hate is the right woman, I mean honest woman. Because she doesn't care about your validation or approval, she speaks her mind. The woman who cares about your validation or approval of her character is always trying to manipulate you secretly. Because she wants to look like a "better woman" or angel. Her actions will not go with her words, because she is not being authentic with her words. She is lying to make you feel better. Honest women are generally hated by men because these women don't know how to talk sweet. They talk blunt. But they won't break a man's heart like how the sweet talker does. A woman's survival agenda is very strong. She won't fuck any man if she doesn't find any value at all. If she ever does fuck a loser type guy, it's only because she fell in love and because she is being naive, that is generally younger or inexperienced women I always fell in love with losers, assholes, bad boys etc because I am young and learning, I had no knowledge of female agenda, I was naive and inexperienced in the matter of relationships and dating and my mother never taught me a word about men, I was an introvert, generally alone and not that socially smart, so I fell for all wrong dudes. Ruined my dating life. But not now. (not anymore) I see all my female friends, some of them are very smart and with really successful men because they apply the female agenda properly. Well, I just wanted to be brutally honest about what attracts me to men, what attracts me in a man and my personal observations of other women. I will have to say that there are some exceptions to the examples of manipulative women stated above. Some women genuinely believe that they can fix a weak fearful man or loser dude. Thats why they allow that guy into their life. They think that they can improve him and mend him and that things will change and they will live happily. These are truly Empathetic women. Although I fell in this trap myself and showed deep empathy to a man in the hopes of fixing his life and living with him, turned out that it didn't work and he betrayed me. So I learned my lesson to not go around fixing some broken man. Because it can backfire on me. Not that it is impossible to fix people but generally people rarely change if they don't show the willpower for it. I learned my lessons the harder way in life. Dating is brutal to both men and women. I'm sorry that men have to face the pressure of being confident, in some ways I have to agree that it is toxic masculinity. And women add to this burden that men face. I am working on my own emotional growth. So maybe I will be able to accept and accommodate a man's weakness in the future. Yet I cannot guarantee that, because I cannot stray away from my own femininity, I cannot become somebody that I'm not, I don't want to be a pretentious woman, so I like to be blunt, honest and rough around the edges. Although this behavior of mine often rubs men the wrong way. But I don't care what men think of me, good or bad. Because at the end of the day, the important thing for me is to be true to myself, not what others think of me. I get attracted to confident men so I can be proud of the man I'm with and I think a lot of women think the same way but don't admit it.

The other thing that I've understood about spirituality is alignment and resonance.

First focus on yourself

An important statement Markle made. That resonated with me. This is the most important statement in history. "When the perception and the reality are two very different things, and you're being judged on the perception but you're living the reality of it, there's a complete misalignment, and there is no way to explain that to people." Yes. This is so true.

Who is my current female role model? I think Meghan Markle.

Everyday is a struggle. A journey. Everyday I've to prove my worth as a woman. Everyday the bar is set higher and higher for me. Everyday is a fight to liberate the woman in me from the shackles of sexism and find hope. Everyday is a fight against a system that represses my womanhood. I've come so far. I never gave up. Will never give up. Will never stop being a woman.. I was insulted, humiliated, taken advantage of, put down, discouraged, told I was beneath everyone, told to obey men, threatened, assaulted while going to work, told I was not good enough.... But.. I defied everything.. I defied social norms. I defied what people thought about me I stood by me. I stood my ground. I kept working and working. I wanted to make my father proud. And proud I made him.

I'm proud of the woman. Proud of The woman who never gave up The woman who hugged her child The woman who gave birth The woman who saved another woman The woman who fought hard to stay alive The woman who was never defeated The woman who was herself The woman who never looked for validation The woman who stood her ground The woman who inspired another woman The woman who taught her daughter to fight The woman who fought sexism The woman who played cool The woman who created her own self The woman who never allowed herself to be dictated The woman who escaped slavery The woman who listened to her heart Because all those women made me.

Whenever I felt weak in my life, feminism gave me strength. Gave me the inspiration. Feminism created who I am today.

I came so far in life. So far. I've a million miles to go. A million miles.

I like this remix. Cosmic feel. I could listen to this for 20 hours Just love it. My ultimate song

@zeroISinfinity I don't wish to answer your questions. End.

@zeroISinfinity I've already that kind of relationship. Please be open minded. Goodluck.