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Even though survival is selfish, it is a form of necessary evil. Without this necessary evil, we would die. There is no demonization. It's only a radical acceptance of the truth that survival by its inherent nature is selfish. Just like lying in its inherent nature is hurtful. However we sometimes have to lie to protect someone, the way we lie to children. Thus there are many things in the context of living that are by nature harmful but are needed for things to go on. They serve a purpose and only become really harmful to the extreme when practiced unconsciously. So as long as you're not cutting someone's throat for survival, it's not classified as a criminal act to simply survive. So you can be at peace. Survival is necessary but this form of necessary evil can be practiced in more conscious ways. There are ways to be selfish where we can use our selfish ways, be conscious of it and minimize its impact on others. For example I can work instead of stealing money. I can start a business without cheating customers by giving them a reasonable service or product. In stage red societies, survival is geared towards causing more harm to the other person for one's survival, the societies get super competitive, almost wanting to kill each other. Examples are tyrant regimes. stage Blue onwards, survival is more structured and creates space for other people to survive as well. The damage to others is minimized. As we go higher, cruel aspects of survival agenda are severely curtailed and more and more conscious options are chosen for the survival of all. For example stage Green fights for the survival of LGBTQ groups who would be eaten alive in a stage red society.

The other is Robinhood and other day trading platforms that actually make you lose in the hopes of making more money. And fake shamans. Right? And pastors that claim they can heal you. And MLMs which you guarantee you jobs and siphon your money in return for a fake job. And yes colleges that offer fake degrees without any accreditation. Like Trump University. Haha there's a whole list. And even Whole foods that sells me strawberries for $4 in the name of organic?

I never had such a feeling. Racism is a deep issue. I never remember being racist to anyone in my life. Not everyone thinks in racist ways.. In fact I was the victim of racist hate attacks several times in my life both online and offline. I faced a lot of racism for being Indian that I'm not comfortable talking about. That's why I understand how racism feels. It's a deep issue Btw, I'm not saying that you are racist but racists generally come up with this justification that "everyone is racist to some degree", it's a nice way of defeating the real issue. So should we stop talking about pedophilia and rape because everyone got molested at some point? How far do we wanna go in normalizing racism by saying that "everyone is to a degree?" Normalizing racism is a dangerous phenomenon and has been going on for Centuries. Thanks to cancel culture, people are suddenly aware of their language If racism exists, it should be acknowledged, accepted and then removed, the person needs to stop doing it in the future. This is not hard at all.. It's about working on one's attitude. There is no defense for racism. It hurts very deeply. If you are a white person, most likely you will not experience it, not the way non white people experience so don't try to invalidate the experiences of non white people. People are waking up to the horrors of racism thanks to the media. It is never okay to give a green signal to racism because the wounds are very deep that come from it. There is absolutely no victim mentality there. You feel that people blow it up because you haven't experienced it yourself. And even if you experienced racism, you already internalized it and normalized it which is a sign of weakness and a coping mechanism. And an absolutely horrible thing to tell other victims to internalize it. Racism leads to generational trauma. Remember that.

Alpha people give out strong vibes, could be the reason why most people look back at you. But this is not a serious thing. You could simply ignore people looking your way. Maybe subconsciously you're looking or staring at other people, so they are simply reacting to your stares. In any case, ignoring people is the best option

Of course I'm selfish. My selfishness will definitely help me take care of myself. My selfishness is my drive. In other words it's my survival instinct. Mind blown?

@Aquarius you're welcome You're already doing a ton of shadow work. Good.

Any example?

I don't believe in non duality. So to me, all survival is selfish.

Yes it is a case of the racism. It's obvious This means absolutely nothing. They did it for P Harry. She has been known for his classism. Best example is not lowering the Union Jack at half mast at Buckingham during Princess Diana's death. Birth time or Era is no excuse for racism. He should know better. How do we know that? Meghan made a Comment. Prince Harry supported it. Isn't the testimony of 2 people enough? The grandson of the monarchy himself confirmed it. What else is needed? P William is known to have cheated on Kate numerous times. P Charles cheated on P Diana. Not nice chaps in my opinion who have absolute disregard for their wive's mental health. P Harry is looking like the better person in the Monarchy and he decided to leave. Should be a clue. What is racist beyond a norm? I'm curious There is no justification for treating Meghan badly. P Harry can live his life on his terms. That's what P Diana wanted.

From my personal perspective. I can only speak from my POV. Confidence is the number one key to attraction and relationships. When you are confident as a guy (it applies to women as well), and you exude awesome confidence, girls will come begging for your attention. They will literally want you bad. It is something that most women find irresistible. Your confidence in approach will drive her crazy. She won't be able to resist you. Speak and walk confidently. And develop real confidence by talking to people, taking on adventures, take on responsibilities, do things you never did, take on challenges. Don't fake it though. Because that shows. Keep training your confidence. Don't be afraid. Women like bravery in a Man..they are scared to tell you that. But women get turned on and find a man's confidence the strongest aphrodisiac ever invented. You want a girl to spread her legs to you. Then show her your awesome confidence. Even if you didn't really say much to her, she will still leave you her number. She doesn't want to lose the chance of dating a confident man. Try my suggestion.

@integral irrelevant. Try staying on topic.

Yes it is selfish. You're consuming oxygen. (you is used as third person reference. Hope you're not offended)

Of course. There are all kinds of relationships Im talking about the nature of the relationship. You're talking about implications. However whether the relationship has agenda or not is immaterial. These are specific types of relationships that stray from normal ones. That was the whole point. Why those relationships exist or whether they are healthy or not is irrelevant. The only point was to find them and explore them

@aurum nice find. And nice fiend.

This is debatable. The absolute amount of resources on planet earth is still largely unknown to humanity. Who is hoarding how much is also unknown. Equitable distribution is a fair step in the direction. But right now equal distribution is a pipe dream as long as lobbying of leaders by wealthy groups exists. Elections are based on candidates that are largely bought by corporations. Removing money out of politics is a difficult step. As long as the rich stay in power, equality will always stay a pipe dream.

@Etherial Cat Reverse compatibility = polarity Lets create some sexual tension now.

Yep. Compatibility is numero uno. Haha I'll draw the Uno reverse card now. Reverse compatibility. Lmao.

I didn't talk about fixing the problem. Survival cannot be fixed because we have limited resources. It's about demand and supply. If the supply far exceeds the demand, there would be no competition, yet this is not practically possible. It is only possible if humanity figures out a way for abundant supply. Till then survival will always incorporate competition. What I was saying is that this is the nature of survival. Solutions are still not figured out/ implemented.

That was a nice way of describing it collectively. Good to know that people are adopting different ways. Someone changed the topic name lol (just noticed, most pr Leo, haha, it was game B, changed it to game B dating, haha funny)

@soos_mite_ah I think what you are talking about is kinda emotional survival which is fine. I wouldn't really call it survival though. It's just self development and emotional growth and maturation. Whereas when you use the word as survival the human brain computes it as food, water, house, education, medical treatment and job. All of which are always in a framework of competition. If a hospital has only 10 beds and all 9 beds are occupied and the last bed is occupied by you, then the next patient loses his chance. Survival is a strong word. Better not to confuse it with other things.

I know right. I can't believe that people don't believe mm.

Understood. That's good too.. Some like it. Some don't. Not sure how most women take that. I haven't had much of an experience with phase 2 so can't speak about it. I mostly tend to see a guy in phase 1 and then reject. I never let it go to phase 2 unless I want to be serious and I've given the green signal.

@Javfly33 I think genuinely nice guys are those who are genuine about their intentions. They won't lie. For example if a man tells a girl that he likes her, he genuinely likes her and not because he wants a quick lay. And the creepy nice guys tend to hide their intentions and say things that are not true. They don't necessarily want the girl, they only want her for gratification.

@integral be careful with that kind of confidence. Communication confidence and sexual confidence are two different things. If you get too sexually confident and hold her arm on the first date, she might call security. By confidence I mean general confidence personality wise

@soos_mite_ah depends how you define what self care means? You wanna apply powder to your face? You will need money to buy that powder? How do you exactly get that money unless you have an inheritance? By working? How do you work? By applying for a job? Who applies for a job? Many people. Who gets that job? You. Why? Because you competed with them. What happens to them? They lose because you won. Or you won because they lost. Congrats you got the job and the money. Now you can do enough self care. You get the idea?