Preety_India

@Opo there was absolutely nothing racist about it. Some cultures are good at certain things. This whole forum speaks about 99% Indian spiritual concepts. So I'm not off the mark. Yoga, meditation, non duality, advaita, are all Indian concepts.. But saying this is not called racism. It's about pointing a good thing in a group of people. I can say black people are more muscular, athletic, and good at dance and music. In this process, I am praising black people, not putting them down. Similarly I can say white people are good at running a business or Japanese are good at technology.. Absolutely nothing racist about it. Racism is when you imply that a person is to be considered inferior because of their skin color and discriminating against them. In the context of the example above, The Royal family thought that the child Archie did not have the right skin color to be a prince. They also decided to abort his security and title because of his skin color. That's blatant racism.. First learn what racism means. Calling someone the N word is racist. Appreciating your own culture or another culture is not called racism. So if the family says Prince Harry is handsome then does not mean anyone who doesn't look like Harry is ugly. You take things out of context. So if tomorrow your country people are good at music and I say that you make good music or I get better coffee in your country, is that racist or is it appreciation? Appreciation can be for self or for others. I can say Americans are financially wealthier than Indians. There was nothing racist in this. But saying that someone's skin color is a problem is definitely racist because in reality skin colour has nothing to do with anything unless we are going to use it as a parameter to decide Superiority or inferiority. Remember that when you're racist to a non white or black person, you're specifically taking out aspects of their culture and deeming it to be inferior or derogatory. When do I become racist? If I had said something like white people are inferior or used derogatory language to define white people, sure in that case I'm easily being racist. But appreciating parts of my culture has nothing to do with my skin color . It's the achievements of our culture. Russians are good at gymnastics. That's their achievements. Africans are good at music. That's their achievement. Koreans are good at recipes. That's their cultural achievements. French are good at poetry and literature. Indians are good at spirituality. Absolutely nothing racist about appreciating things that stands out in a culture. If you want to misrepresent something as racism, that's because you want to prove that I'm racist in some manner to win the argument and that means you will pick anything I say and take it out of context and put a racist meaning to it because that's your agenda. There is nothing wrong if I said the royal family is racist because it's built on the very roots of Imperialism Colonialism and Racism. So hardly a misrepresentation. Plus this is not taking them out of context. Because if they weren't racist, they would have released a statement giving the title to Archie. Or declared that no rights will be taken away from Archie.. But they didn't do that.. They are doing exactly what racists usually do, they deny racism instead of accepting what they did is racist. Their actions don't match their words. Because they weren't racist, then why the discrimination against Archie'

@integral ok, I laid out all my points. I'll withdraw from the discussion now.

I swear people outside of this forum community are way more conscious. Someone said that to me in private messages.. The fuck. (I need to absorb my anger)

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes.. I wanna be like this.

What's on the menu? I need to ask this question more often... And the other question - What would a highly conscious(HC) person do in this situation? Yes pretty good questions..

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@integral both gets wired biologically eventually. People are born in different geographies. Most men in my place don't have a big dick. They have small or average dicks. So biologically I'm trained to like what is given to me. Adaptation is also a part of biology. Everything is biology. Some elephants have big ears and some elephants have small ears depending on geography. Can we decide which one is better? Biology is constantly changing to adapt to the environment. There is nothing wrong or right about it. It's all about survival with respect to the environment. So my biology dictates me to like small dicks because that's what my brain has been wired to like through evolution. This is not a question of high values or low values at all. It is about accepting the fact that everyone's biology is going to be different and has independently evolved and no biology is right or wrong because biology is in context with the Environment and not an absolute concept. So you can't tell me that liking small dicks is wrong because my biology has adapted to what is given to me evolution wise

The moral of the story is that attraction is not absolute or defined by fixed ways. Some people like this. Some people like that. It's similar to food. Because sex is a hunger So some people like Arabic coffee. Some people like espresso. You can't generalise it

Yea gonna focus on myself. I always get carried away.

@integral that's why I called it subjective. It can't be fixed by one type. The examples are around you.

Attraction is subjective. Finish. No need to create alternative theories around it. People's brains are all differently wired.

@Arcangelo go Mainstream with your views..then let's see if I'm the only one. Hahaha.

So are you telling me that she is losing her boyfriends because of her flat chest? Then why are they her boyfriends in the first place? There are a billion flat chested women who are married and have kids on this planet. And a billion men with small dicks who have girlfriends and wives. What attracts you doesn't always mean that other men are going to think like you. Just because Leo likes a big pair of tits (although the truth could be too far from it) it doesn't mean it becomes the truth for all the men in the world Just because some woman got turned on by a big dick, doesn't mean that every woman has to gush over big dicks. Every one likes different things and they are going to have sex for different reasons.. Stop generalizing attraction. It's not the same for everyone.

Work on your attitude toward racism. It's very unhealthy.

And why women like Jessica Alba have kids or women like Taylor Swift have boyfriends? Because they never got fucked? So who is fucking them? Aliens?

@diamondpenguin nobody says living is good or bad. Remember it's you who is putting connotations to it. Survival is selfish. But this selfishness is necessary to survive. That's what is being said.. Not that it is bad. It's your mind automatically judging it as bad. I cannot call this selfishness good either. I will only say that it is necessary form of selfishness for an individual. But if you can't accept such a thing then like Leo said - "if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen." When you are practicing spirituality and consciousness, you'll come across hard truths about the nature of reality. If you can't digest those truths then you should stick to traditional self help like" how to get rich " or 'how to communicate better" etc, that kind of regular self help stuff. But if you want to get into hard-core spirituality, then insights like "survival is selfish" is common in spiritual communities. You can keep debating forever, but your lack of understanding of the depth of this work is not anyone's problem. They will carry on with their work. Nobody is shaming you for surviving. It is you who chooses to get offended. And don't shame them for their insights.

@Hardkill it's not about getting off. Everyone is not trying to jerk off all the time. Some guys might enjoy porn but that doesn't mean they are going to marry a pornstar. Maybe you watch too much porn. I don't know. My guy wasn't so much into porn. He wasn't addicted to it. He knew when to do and when to let go Not everyone is looking at life from the perspective of porn. Remember some people are also trying to do nofap.. By your logic, every wife would look like a porn star in this world. People get attracted to different kinds of people. There is nothing specific about attraction. A guy who is sitting in his car would automatically want to kiss his girlfriend even if she is a flat chested. No? That's how the whole planet is alive, or every girl would get fake tits. I don't ever remember any of my exes ever asking me my tit size or even focusing on what turns them on. The idea of sex itself turned them on. It was so natural, there was no need for them to think about it. The constant idea of porn is only seen on this forum. In real life, guys are so chill and I dost n't ever remember them talking about porn, not at least the way it is on this forum. Here it's almost pathological So whenever I come here, it feels like I'm in a "porn addict" atmosphere. Sorry to burst your bubble, but normal every day guys who are not on the internet are way better and not too hard core on sexuality. I remember my boyfriend saying "the guys who constantly talk about sex are the guys who never had sex." And that is so true. Because he had been married before. He knows what sex is. He never made a big deal out of it.You talk about sex like it's a diamond. Talk to married men who have sex from time to time. They are not so obsessed. I've had enough sex in all of my relationships combined. I almost satisfied my hunger. So sex is not on my mind 24/7. In fact these days I don't even pay attention to much of it. My desire for sex is fading because it doesn't matter so much after doing sex past 6 years. Sex would have been a big deal if I were a virgin. Now I hardly masturbate or have sex with my boyfriend. He too got better things to do. Life will be too miserable if I only focused on sex. The fact of the matter is just have sex and move on, rather than talking so much about it. Most guys here didn't get laid or aren't having sex so they talk too much about these things. That's why I never see my male friends talk about sex so much. Because they are sleeping with their girlfriends lol. Why will a man need porn if he just slept with his girlfriend? And you talked about how you would approach a woman online and directly talk about porn. To tell you the truth, I only hear these stories on this forum. But in real life, I was never approached by a guy who wants to start discussing porn right away. Nor was I ever attracted to a big dick. Most guys I dated had regular average size dicks and that was enough for me. The point I'm trying to make is that the world outside this forum is not so addicted to sex talk. People don't make a big deal out of it. They simply have sex and move on. The cure to the problem is having a girlfriend/boyfriend. Once you're in a relationship and having sex with your partner, and enjoying it then you will not talk so much about it. You won't need to. Now you are so fixated on it is because you aren't having sex in your life currently.

I am not a racist. I don't like racism. You're missing the point. Why are you justifying racism? So you are racist to everyone on a daily basis? And when someone is being racist to another, do you simply watch and defend and stand on the side of the racist?

I just wanna apply to your universe feeding program? Where is it happening right now?

Haha. That made me chuckle. When it happens, I'll be the first to register a trip back to earth. Right now I'm a legal alien.

And I get turned off by big dicks. Attraction is highly subjective.

I remember how my ex bf used to say that he would be turned off by a big pair of tits.

Justifications like these is why cancel culture exists in the first place and for good reason

By saying "everyone is racist" not only are you making a false strawman but really allowing to perpetuate racism. We cannot normalize murder because many people do it. There are punishments for it. Racism is also a form of social evil that shouldnt have any excuses. You could have easily used the same logic in colonial times by saying "everyone is owning a slave, what could go wrong?" This justification is extremely dangerous and doesn't stop racism but perpetuates it. Being racist is not an intrinsic part of being human. This justification is totally wrong and unhealthy and disparages people. You could have defended homophobia in the same breath. Take ownership of your fucked up conservative values once in a while.

Please be nuanced. You could be defending some really horrible acts with that statement very much like an enabler. Beware of the self deception where you begin to normalize hurting someone else. Here it's about radical acceptance of one's own devilry and owning it and changing it rather than telling others to accept something harmful. You can't preach self love by beating someone with a stick.