Preety_India

Maybe I should not do that. Because I have self respect. I cant allow myself to be treated like a doormat. So i guess I need to put my foot down and outline by boundaries. Sorry but I'm not some doormat to allow someone to walk all over me. Ghosting is not a good feeling. It creates feelings of sudden rejection and I don't deserve it if I've been helpful and supportive.

@Origins but in general context, how far is attention seeking a bad thing? I really don't see a problem with it unless it's being done in unhealthy toxic ways. There's always a healthy dose of attention that everyone craves for just food, air and everything else. Seeking validation is also the same thing. I think these things are pretty trivial in a smaller context and only toxic or dangerous when they begin to cross a line. We are all subconsciously craving for validation and attention, we just don't admit to it.

Learn to always be decent and civil even while facing scathing attacks on morale and character. Don't bend over backwards for anyone. ————————page breaker————————

Use different approaches. Come up with empowered statements and stances and use them effectively to raise a barrier against toxic people. Refuse to budge to their incessant demands. Refuse to submit or play coy. Don't play coy. Be direct. Let them know that their behavior is unacceptable. Put people on ignore list when things get out of hand. Don't tolerate someone's BS. Know when someone is bullshitting. Take a crash course on how to have an empowered stance every time.

I've no time to waste in responding to your misplaced attacks. Invest your time in yourself rather than in attacking others.

How to take an empowered stance? Step 1 Set your boundaries clear and beforehand. Let the other person know that you are vulnerable yet you have self power and you can't be taken for granted.

1. Gossipers 2. Jealous Haters 3. Time-Wasters 4. Money Grabbers 5. Over-Sensitive 6. Excuse-Makers 7. Miseducated

Experiences have taught me a lot of things, both the good and the bad, mostly the bad So much is needed to get out of the gunk that you get stuck into

Note to self - Life is a continuous learning journey. There will always be something more to learn than to gain. ————————page breaker————————

I'll be collecting resources first.

Video uploaded about friendship and being a fair friend.

————————page breaker———————— Hour 2 I need to focus on 3 things Time stamp and tracking Emotional and psychological space Motivation and inspiration every hour Sequence of actions Creating a flow Tracking of progress - daily and weekly ————————page breaker———————— Just be gentle with yourself. And also be a bit opportunistic And try to relax a bit. ————————page breaker———————— What inspires me? Beauty inspires me Growth inspires me. Politeness and respect inspires me Solitude inspires me Emotional safety and well being motivates me Feeling better emotionally motivates and stimulates me Comfort, space and privacy helps me Emotional comfort encourages me Beautiful aesthetics motivate and inspire me Encouragement and support helps me The need for progress motivates me Feeling focused motivates me A constant flow strengthens my momentum A habit helps me to stick through Positivity motivates me A sense of security motivates me A sense of freedom motivates me All these motivating factors will be a part of a ball or lump or heart. A heart full of these different factors or more. I'll call this the blue heart motivation or blue ball of motivation. Blue heart motivation system Blue ball motivation. After motivation the next step is a string or sequence or a flow. I use hearts on a string to symbolize this process. And the next is two more processes One is focusing and tracking the outcome and the last is reward system or mechanism. Symbols. Tracking the outcome or the impact process represented by a circle and the level of progress/impact by percentage points. Reward Mechanism symbolically represented by a jar of toffees So it's four things in the Purple Clover Model. ————————page breaker———————— So we have the purple clover leaf model ready. 2. String of hearts. 3. Progress rate /rate of impact 4. Reward tracking - Jar of hearts. ————————page breaker———————— ————————page breaker———————— Edited 7 minutes ago by Preety_India

I need to have a format. Day 1, few hours in: Hour 1 Do I feel motivated now? Yes. Is there something blocking me? Right now. No. Use page breakers to update ————————page breaker———————— The people who love you are also the people who set you free. Do not feel caged or cocooned around someone. If you feel cocooned around someone, time to put your foot down and break out of it. Because everyone needs communication and connection. So there is nothing wrong in wanting and needing it But do it the right way.

I don't think attention should be demonized the way its done in modern culture.

@Origins isn't fulfilling needs an important part of connection. Isn't attention also a need or else it's called neglect?

@universe @modmyth The thing that happened is I offered them support and they ghosted me immediately the next day. It felt awful because no explanation was given. I think a good friend would care to have proper communication even if they felt bad about something. Like it was said above, they were not willing to expand or value the relationship. I don't think a good friend questions your intentions on a minute to minute basis. That's an insecure suspicious friend and the best way was to let them go. But it felt exploitative, like being used and then ghosted/dumped.

@Raphael I looked through all your journals and still did not find that entry. Bad luck

@Raphael is there any journal where you are referring to yourself.

The thing is that I had found some entries that went like Raphael you need to get good sleep Raphael you are doing good. Can't find those entries now.

Whether the man is high value or not, intimacy is needed during sex. Women feel dry without intimacy and stimulation This takes time and that's why women get turned on slower than men. The subject is not about the willingness for sex but about getting turned on. She might be willing for sex but she is waiting for the guy to pack on the intimacy. If the guy doesn't do that, she might get upset or not enjoy sex or simply not want the same guy again.