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@Raphael how did you manage those empty circle bullets? I only get filled circles.

⌾ ○ Follow this format Work Sessions: 08:20 AM - 09:29 AM ○ I did something for the payments, and some small fixes ○ Focus: 3.75/5 ○ Duration: 1 hour 19 minutes Deep Work Sessions: ○09:51 AM - 11:20 AM I finally managed to fix the issues with this header Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 29 minutes 11:36 AM - 12:48 PM I worked on a post template Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 12 minutes 02:02 PM - 03:38 PM I continued working on the website and encountered some unexpected issues Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 36 minutes 03:44 PM - 04:30 PM I fixed the issues and continued the work. This is taking much more time than I expected Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 46 minutes

Follow this format Work Sessions: 08:20 AM - 09:29 AM I did something for the payments, and some small fixes Focus: 3.75/5 Duration: 1 hour 19 minutes Deep Work Sessions: 09:51 AM - 11:20 AM I finally managed to fix the issues with this header Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 29 minutes 11:36 AM - 12:48 PM I worked on a post template Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 12 minutes 02:02 PM - 03:38 PM I continued working on the website and encountered some unexpected issues Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 36 minutes 03:44 PM - 04:30 PM I fixed the issues and continued the work. This is taking much more time than I expected Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 46 minutes

Came so far now. Never wish to go back to who I was in 2018.. ————————page breaker———————— Not that silly person I was. ————————page breaker————————

How am I going to filter people for future friendships I'll make a checklist to serve this purpose. Proforma checklist for future friendships and relationships in general (no more toxic people in my life) 1. Respectful language. Check 2. Is this person too gossipy. Check 3. Is this person a time waster. Check ☑️ 4. Does this person respect boundaries. Check✔️ 5. Does this person respect my feelings. Check 6. Is this person always bugging me at odd hours. Check 7. Has this person ghosted me before? Check 8. Is this person a liar? Check 9. Is this person manipulative . Check 10. Does this person mean well /good intentioned? Check 11. Does this person ever use/ever used offensive words or language? Check 12. Has this person been super combative, aggressive, argumentative or too fighty or self righteous with me? Check 13. Does this person listen when I speak or do they ignore and talk above me? Check 14. Does this person care about my emotional safety? Check 15. Is this person not in alignment with my thoughts or is this person not Vibing with me or thinking the opposite of what I think? Cognitive biases? Is this person cognitively in tune or in parallel with my thinking? Does this person make too many false assumptions about me or my actions? Check 16. Does this person accept my appearance, body, my culture, my race, my religion and identity or do they have a racial cognitive dissonance towards my racial/ethnic /cultural /religious identity? Check 17. Has this person shamed me or is shaming me in any way? Check✔️ 18. Has this person respected my sleep and wake up times? Check✔️ 19. Has this person respected and comforted me during my venting or expressing my issues in life or have they displayed implicit and explicit indifference? Have they shamed me for my problems? Have they blamed me for my problems? Have they showed a condescending indifference or wilful insensitivity to my issues and vulnerabilities or concerns? Check check check ✔️✔️ 20. Has this person or is this person being emotionally or psychologically abusive towards me? Check✔️ 21. Is this person making me feel unworthy or undeserving of affection, love, attachment, support, empathy, respect, their time or attention or achievements or praise/comfort/joy? Check✔️ 22. Has this person offered me space when I needed it? Check✔️ 23. Has this person tried to help me when I needed it or did they disappear when I needed them? Check✔️ 24. Is this person overly speculative about me? Check 25. Does this person ghost me from time to time? Check check check ✔️ 26. Did I give this person too many chances to improve their behavior with me or did I forgive them too many times? Check 27. Is this person constantly undermining, mocking or ridiculing me? Check✔️ 30. Does this person give others a preferential treatment and behave differently with me than with others?Check 31. Do I feel happy and secure and free around this person? Check✔️ 32. Does this person accommodate me into their lives on the same level like they accommodate others. This means if he or she is inviting someone, do they also invite me or leave me out whereas all others are invited? Does this person accommodate my issues. For Example if I have social anxiety in an ice cream shop and I want to leave that place immediately, do they agree to leave understanding my anxiety or panic attack issue or do they continue to neglect and not accommodate my concern and continue partying with others not caring for my safety. Do they exclude me when they don't feel like adjusting for me? For example if I say that I'm allergic to nuts in ice cream, did they still buy me a nutty flavored ice cream?? Or did they drop me out completely because of my special needs? Check✔️ 33. Has this person used or been using racial slurs, racial insults or insensitive words/comments /thoughts /jokes during their conversations with me? Check and Zero Tolerance Policy ✔️ 34. Has this person jeopardized my health in some way? For example one day with my second ex, I had a bad ankle sprain and he continued dragging me by my arm towards the nearby bus stop despite my frequent requests to stop, causing my sprain to get worse and requiring hospitalization. On another occasion I screamed and pleaded to my boyfriend to stop his arguments and let me rest but he continued despite my frequent pleas and finally I collapsed on the bathroom floor out of stress. Check✔️ Immediately cut off a friendship if you feel that they don't care about your health concerns and continue their behaviors despite seeing its impact on your health.. Check✔️ 35. Does this person make me spend money? My second ex constantly forced me to spend money by playing victim, even if he had the money to pay his own bills, he used my money to pay his bills. Check✔️ 36. Is this person using me in some way for their personal gain, entertainment or needs, specifically sexual gain, entertainment, using me as a punching bag, emotional tampon, dumping ground for their relationship or marital issues, dumping ground for their rage or anger against society or their personal issues baggage release. For example my ex often used me as a dumping ground for his problems with his divorced wife and custody battles. Check ✔️ 37. Does this person make me feel respected, regarded and valued enough for me to feel safe. Check

How am I going to filter people for future friendships I'll make a checklist to serve this purpose. Proforma checklist for future friendships and relationships in general (no more toxic people in my life) 1. Respectful language 2. Is this person too gossipy 3. Is this person a waste 4.

So I have the purple clover leaf model ready. 1. Blue Ball of Motivation. 2. String of hearts. For both focus and flow 3. Progress rate /rate of impact 4. Reward tracking - Jar of toffees ————————page breaker————————

I don't think this will work. Such a high degree of insecurity would cause problems sooner or later.. Try to fix it by not being so harsh on yourself, maybe look into building self esteem. Next is to have an "I don't give a fuck attitude", this in no way means you shouldn't care if she is offended, but it means you are not really looking to impress but just be yourself. You can always do little things to make the relationship without feeling like a slave to someone's emotions and still do your part as a partner /potential partner. You're entitled to as much happiness as a guy as she is. So make sure whatever you do does not come from a place of insecurity but from a place of stability, security, passion and acceptance and of course love, not from a place of fear of losing or offending. Do not give into cognitive dissonance in a relationship. Be open in your communication. If she is offended, rather than playing games, she could straight up let you know, you could do the same. Don't keep room for suspicions and doubts as they turn into shadows that haunt the relationship later

@Karmadhi I had a social media friend like that. She was cute and would get likes from 100 men everyday on her dating profile. She would have lots of men chasing her. In the end she got herself a rich businessman boyfriend who never paid her any attention and was basically an asshole. But she wanted him because many women liked him.

Don't chase people who won't chase you. Don't devalue yourself. This not only applies to girls who wouldn't return you any response but also to all people who have too many people to give them attention like celebrities and authority figures or popular people in a group. It usually ends up quite badly with your self esteem completely mutilated. Be with people who are in your league or slightly above or below your league, in the same range, who have time and attention to give you and who value your presence just the same way you value their presence. Going for someone above your league usually results in disappointment because they don't give a damn about who likes them since they are in hot demand and could easily replace someone with 100s of people to choose from. So it's kinda unwise to date beyond your league. It's like wanting to date Kim Kardashian or Brad Pitt. They would hardly care about your emotions unless you exist in their league. You get broken hearted or end up losing self esteem chasing such people. Even instagram models. Remember these people are popular because they do everything in their power to get maximum attention and employ agents so that they can get the leverage in terms of likes, attention, presence and social popularity. It's a huge industry that feeds them fame in return for money. You won't even want to date or have a relationship with them because they would look elsewhere, always busy in work, never caring about your needs, busy with their vanity lifestyle So it's kinda good to hold them for a while but you will feel deprived very quickly since they care more about themselves than others. In the end its a disappointment, not for them, but for you.

So @Raphael gave me the permission to use some of his ways of writing in my journal. And I like self referencing style.

@Raphael I hope you won't mind if I copy a bit of your format and style because I liked it. Just asking for your permission before use.

Follow this format. Refer to yourself directly.