Preety_India

A lot has to do with mental health. Improve general mental health and such incidents will reduce in number and frequency.

@Lyubov game B has always existed. I only threw a spotlight on it. I don't understand the resistance. There is no competition with game A

@Lyubov it's not about holism. It about alternative.

Will look into this later mindblowing-insight-i-had

I think people actually want A. They see excitement in it.

@Lyubov it's a minority game. It's a rare thing. But it is an alternative for those who don't want A.

People who want friendships are kinda better people. People who want relationships might secretly be selfish. Because in friendship there in no agenda Although relationships are advertised as the most selfless things in the world. That's propaganda. In relationships, there is always agenda and selfishness and that's why they don't work. Ya know. Friendship is like the lesser option but a better option.

I cannot imagine the amount of maturity that I have gained in the past 1 month. I say..... Tremendous growth in me. I want it all to come full circle

@Preety_India why can't you accept that the world is full of shit. Bad things happen This is life. And here we are. Stuck in this rut called life.

To be able to do good in this world, first you have to go through all the obstacles. Get used and abused and then at last find a path where you can put your Empathetic energies to good use.

What else is a part of positive survival? Focusing solely on survival Self empathy Self motivation Survival has an inherent spiritual component Self empowerment. Self awareness and self observation Ethical survival means giving space to everyone to survive. I consider this as positive survival. The concept of positive survival means you have to be very very self absorbed and self centered. You have to be kinda selfish. Go. Meta on survival. First go to the top and from that top secure position try to help other people. But first be secure. Don't invest in fake empathy. Or shallow empathy. Little empathy. Because little empathy makes you look great but you aren't doing great things

Yea he is good for stage orange progress. Kinda gives you a kick in the gut.

The other thing was this concept of positive and negative survival. Positive survival that is self soothing and never hurts anyone. Negative survival which is divisive and narcissistic in nature.. Positive survival. Symbolism. Also other things included. Like self empathy. Why always give the benefit of the doubt to other people, why not extend it to the self. The symbol of positive survival.

@ryank940 don't do much. There is no hurry to take positive actions. Let the tide pass. Sit there and feel it but take care to not get all wrapped up or overly emotional. Treat yourself gently and its completely okay to grieve so no pressure. Give yourself 2 weeks to grieve and you will continue fine after that.

Don't engage with positive stuff too soon. Give yourself time to get angry and upset about the breakup. The normalcy and recovery should come later. Look up the term toxic Positivity. Try to take things slow and give yourself the opportunity to feel the entire range of human emotions that erupt during this phase Repressing these emotions creates shadows that are much more difficult to deal with later.

This could be many things. You need to explore some psychological disorders to see if all symptoms match. The symptoms of following psychological disorders can be looked into Anxiety disorder Panic disorder Depression OCD Bipolar Hyper stress.

@jjer94 please do so. You absolutely need it as soon as possible. Contact your local help services. I pray things get better for you and for the unfortunate victim families

Your post was really good. Got to the bottom of my issue.

This is a recent experience I had where I felt terribly betrayed by a person who I assumed to be my friend. How to spot fake people? The friend came to me for help and support and I was very sweet and supportive of them. And the next day the same person dumped me. This is a female friend. I felt betrayed and used up. I decided to block that person out of my life. My current frame of mind is completely ruined by this incident. Trying to seek help around this situation.

@Lyubov Yea Yea definitely. I came out feeling stronger. I told myself that I'm better than what I was made to feel. Fault is not mine, then why should I take on the unnecessary baggage of guilt and unworthiness. If someone is closed off, their problem, not mine. The important lesson learned is to not be too invested initially. See how the person behaves over time. Let them earn my respect by proper behaviors.. I gave them the benefit of the doubt which I have decided to stop giving in the future. Observe and watch their behavior. Also a useful indicator is how they treated other people. Were they kind towards them? Are others complaining about them as well? Then there are clues to look for. For example ignoring texts, cold responses, acting hot and cold. I guess time and experience are the fundamental key here. When you give enough time and experience and talk to a ton of people, you get an expertise in figuring out people fairly quickly. You can easily tell which person is more likely to ghost or mistreat.

Style of journaling . Bullet style journaling... I did this for many years now because I had no time to write long posts so I Would simply leave short notes in bullet form. . Word salad style journaling. This is a very verbose method of journaling. I can try this some times. . Self reference style. Which I'm currently doing in this journal. Page breaker style. I'm doing this as well in other journals. This is my favorite method.

Case 2. Lets say we have two persons, person X and person Z. Person X is very decent and normal and nice individual with the purest intentions. Person Z is however a narcissist. Person X said something that wasn't meant to be racist. No slurs or insults used. They said something as a fact about a race but not in a degrading way. Person Z decided to launch an attack on person X. Called them racist. Asked them to be removed from the group. Constantly hounded person X. Made a public spectacle out of person X. Put full effort to block person X from any progress. I'll call this behavior narcissistic victim playing. Because person X hadn't said anything that was visibly racist. Person X had also apologized and expressed concern about racism. Person X also defended themselves by saying that they had no racist intentions. Person X also does not seem to have any past history of attacks and or racist verbal assaults or racist views/opinion and no record of attacking or hurting anyone. Rather than using a direct fork of offense, person Z is using the indirect method of playing victim to harass person X. The agenda is to somehow hurt person X by defamation. Person Z is not open to the idea of resolving conflicts. In fact they are just waiting to lynch person X. Person X is being apologetic and trying to explain their side of the situation yet person Z is not having it. This is not real victimhood. This is bullying and aggression in the name of victimhood. Who is the aggressor?.... Person Z. Who is the victim?.... Person X

@flowboy Yea I'm realizing that too. It's because I'm bad at setting boundaries. With some of my friends this is not a problem because the moment they smell such a person they begin to set boundaries. Maybe I should do the same.

@zeroISinfinity you don't understand sarcasm.