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Anyway. I was thinking how to handle bad boy energy.

You don't have to leave for that. Sometimes you could take a short break for your interpretations.

This reminds me of how a dreamy guy used to talk to me. Haha, telling me to not give a damn. Pleasantly surprised.

What your brain perceives as attractive is all social conditioning. It's bullshit.

I've realized that acceptance is a huge value to cultivate. Learn to accept that people hate you. Learn to accept that people disagree Learn to accept that selfishness exists. Learn to accept that there is a lack of empathy. Learn to accept that if people dislike you they will keep having their biases forever It's not your job to address and correct these biases. Acceptance

Don't be simplistic. Whenever you have a situation, always consider the solution to the situation in terms of context. Context makes huge difference.

The problem of white collar crimes and the blue collar crimes. The problem of lesser evil and greater evil Using psychological resources in law enforcement. Using the example of the fishing rod versus the fishing net.

Different strategies need to be used in different cultural environments.

@GreenLight they want to kill animals because they think they were brought illegally? So the animal has to die in their eyes for no fault of its own? How is that humanitarian?

@integral there's a difference. If someone ghosted you and there was no discernible reason, its hurtful. However when someone is mistreating you, and especially when they are not ready for a conversation for resolve, then it's best to ghost them, they anyways won't be impacted by it because they are aware why it happened. The word context is important. When someone ghosts you for nothing, it's you who owes the explanation. When you get mistreated, it's again you who owes an explanation. In both cases, no explanation is given by the other party. Such a party needs to be cancelled or ghosted or blocked. Focus on who needs to do the ghosting or blocking, not who is actually doing it. In most cases the person who is actually doing it is the guilty party or culprit. Whereas the person who needs to be doing it, doesn't do it out of a false assumption of causing offense, but is more deserving of such an action to protect. Killing is killing in any case. But is not criminal in every case. Context is important. Use the words offense and defense to understand this better. A person who kills for gain is a criminal. A person who kills in self defense is not a criminal. Because offense is harmful but defense is protective. Learn the difference of context

I'll call this the integrative model. The symbol for this model. 4 systems . Purple clover leaf system . Consolidative System . Positive survival system . Concept mapping /mind mapping system

.. 4 systems . Purple clover leaf system . Consolidative System . Positive survival system . Concept mapping /mind mapping system

4th system. Mind mapping /concept mapping From my understanding this stuff is just a complex problem from many angles. I'm kinda playing around with a concept map to come up with ideas that are at the root of the problem. https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/5fe332d1f21045aca2aefa79e99af3e3 I'd say a big part of it has to do with shame/acceptance, social solidarity, and power dynamics in our society. People have a need to be respected, loved, and valued. If we had better ways to connect communities and bring people together. This would help people co-regulate in a healthy way

This is great for some romantic time.

A view on desperate men Look. I need to be honest as a woman. I never get attracted to desperate men. I will never fall in love with a desperate man, that's a guarantee. Imagine if a guy approached me covered up in blood, will I have sex with him? Absolutely no way. That's how desperate men appear. They make themselves look horrible, creepy and all sorts of weird signs. Women feel like running away from such men. Women hate such men. It's never gonna work. A woman who likes a desperate man is either extremely out of sync with her femininity, or is trying to use him in some manner, sensing his desperation or is simply not feminine enough and never received the attention of real men, or is too manly herself. A real female runs far far away from a desperate man. She gets repulsed by his behavior. Imagine a desperate guy in the female version. It's like a woman covered up in mud walking towards a man. He would get repulsed. He would never want her. It's the same way. Desperate men are extremely unattractive. You can look handsome and nice body or voice or whatever, but desperate behavior will destroy any attractiveness you got.

@Origins what's a metronome? Will miss you..