Please respect women
Love to all.
I want this forum to be a loving fruitful place and not a dumping ground for redpillers
Red pill threads are against forum guidelines.
I'm a very old member on this forum, been here for years. I'm a very happy woman in a happy relationship. I don't hate men at all. In fact there are a lot of respectful men I love to have interactions with in real life. I happily enjoy the support of men(and women).
I have seen tons and tons, day after day, some new guy everyday opens a thread on a red pill topic and spews all hate against women calling them all kinds of manipulative cuss words and what not, almost like a hate brigade. The moderators on the forum had to constantly remind them and even after being told kindly to change their attitude, they would go after the female moderator here, to the point they drove her mad, she didn't want to be in this section anymore, they would harass and bully her, I stood up for her many times, yet this trend continued and this section turned into a cesspit of raging hate against women. Those days she would quickly come to this section to correct these dudes. Not anymore.
I understand that men who were traumatized by women want their grievances to be heard and need some venting, but this can be done in a conscious manner without stereotyping all women or calling all women evil and adding more fodder to the already existent misogynistic mindset in the world.
Just like men who get traumatized by women, women also have to deal with their own fair share of abuse from abusive boyfriends, exploitative bosses or abusive husbands and even random stranger men who stalk, abuse, bully, rape and murder women. Consider a woman's POV as well.
Today you see a tremendous escalation in sexual violence perpetrated against women, crimes against women go on, yet women respect men, have relationships with them, marry them and bear children. If all women hated men then humanity wouldn't exist.
We as women respect you men, we still trust men despite having subjected to oppression for centuries under patriarchal regimes.
Pregnancy is not an easy thing. It takes a toll on a woman's body and mind. Yet we take on motherhood and give birth and raise kids with love. So it feels like a slap in the face when men come around in large numbers and make everything look like a woman's fault.
Often times these men relate their side of their stories but the women is defenseless because we don't know the other side of the story so we tend to side with the man's version of the story.
Yes I understand that the divorce laws can look like they are in the favor of women, but are all divorces the fault of a woman? How many of these divorced men are ready to accept their own role in causing the divorce?
Addressing a man's issues in relationships, marriage/divorce should not come at the cost of berating and hating all women. There are a lot of wonderful women, girlfriends, wives and mothers out there and lots of happy men who are happy with women, let's not poison that dynamic.
I had opened a thread very long ago on here and I was simply asking for advice regarding an abusive ex boyfriend and they turned my whole thread into a discussion of why women like me want such men, when it had nothing to do with it, constantly Gaslighting me, to the point I was no longer interested in getting any advice, any woman who entered this section would have a bunch of words thrown at her.
This thing continued till Leo had to step in and he made a common thread, a featured thread telling the men here to stop blaming women and work on themselves to be better at being with women.
I have seen all of this go down and there's a limit to how much you can take. These same guys would make different accounts and harass the female moderator. I don't see her much in the dating section anymore. So much for giving space to all the red pillers and hearing them out? Or is it that they are simply seeking validation for toxic thoughts and are never open to the idea that they work on themselves to attract better women?
My goal is to create a balance. Women on this forum are extremely few, like a rarity almost. You don't see women coming here in large numbers bashing men or bashing men and calling them evil.
On many threads the word manipulative b**'h has already been used several times.
It gets to a point that all the toxicity gets very traumatizing everyday and good members are not heard, driven out by name calling or are bullied..
I'm the only remaining female who had the courage to take a stand against this in the dating section. Most females would not even enter such a conversation out of fear of being bullied.
At what cost are we supposed to hear these men or their toxic ideology?
This should be a safe place for women who are here to get advice and to connect with others.
I have given plenty and plenty of good advice to men here over the years. Many men have even approached me personally for advice. Many have thanked me..
The thing is if a guy comes in here with a respectful tone, (not a trollish tone), and is asking for genuine advice on his relationship I try to tell him the best course of action in his situation. And they respectfully understand and respond.
But the red pill type guys do not come here respectfully, they start threads to outrage women, to do mudslinging and they want me to agree to their hateful ideology.
It's similar if I opened a thread and called all men rapists just because one man sexually assaulted me. Would that be fair? And if I intensely disagreed with all the men trying to explain me that it's not true. How many men on the forum will put up with that? That would be wrong for me to do. Similarly it's wrong for men to stereotype women on here.
I'm taking a brave stance here. I can easily say that it's none of my business. But I care about that female moderator and how most women feel but don't say it.
Then they start with a kernel of truth argument. There is also some truth to nazism, so should we now allow nazism to fly on here, or give them a platform?
Do you wanna know the real truth? These men will never be able to say things, the most toxic, sexist, hateful things in public because they would be quickly called out, so like Anonymous keyboard edgelords, they come in here on the internet and find places where they can dump their toxic thoughts and use it like a dump ground every day. It's so easy to do that without repercussions and keep trolling the good members and get their daily dose of "High"...
This is a vulnerable site and there are a few vulnerable women on here. I have been to plenty of sites and I have faced tremendous amount of cyberbullying for months from toxic men on the internet, to the point I began to suffer health issues coming from that trauma of bullying
I don't want this place to turn into something like that. I feel safe here thanks to the moderators.
I don't want this place similar to other places on the internet where red pill men seek out their rage and bully vulnerable women like me.
I feel protected here because Leo takes a firm stand against such behavior that a lot of website founders don't care to on the internet.
There is already enough space on the internet for red pillers, look at Reddit
But there is an extremely small space for women like me and others and this place is one of the rare ones. I don't want this to be corrupted and become like other Red Pill Communities.
That's why I stand against it. To protect the sanity here. Before you think about giving space to them, please think about giving space to all the women. Anyway they are very few.
Over the years I have seen plenty of good women leave this forum out of extreme frustration after being bullied by the Red Pill guys. They stay while the women leave.
So my outrage is legit.
To all those who support Red Pill this is your thread
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