Preety_India

And what does that mean in your worldview?

Exactly. Also I think that high quality tend to focus on what makes a woman truly happy rather than make a bunch of assumptions because it fits their worldview.

This post reminds me of the words - tears are better with some cash in the bank.

This city is going to be constructed around ancient concepts and structures as well as social systems.

@Gianna I think symptoms of trauma are quite specific where you feel anxiety, nightmares and memory loss. Ego backlash on the other hand is an innate resistance to any changes in consciousness which surface as bad habits like perfectionism or obsessive behaviors. A decrease in your trauma symptoms might indicate that you're coping well with your trauma..

If you asked me that question, I would be completely content being single and successful (successful doesn't even matter as long as I can do what I'm passionate about, I don't think it's counted as success by conventional society, regardless ) for the rest of my life without a family. I don't think a woman's greatest fear is not getting a man, as many men would like to believe, I think its being stuck in a bad marriage or being a single mother without a job or income and having the responsibility of feeding children.

I was walking alone through the hallways of nothingness.. Maybe I was walking towards ultimate silence, a place of peace, a place I could call home. Through every door I could hear echoes of my alter egos talking to me, where was my authentic self lost in those egos that society built?

So many characters now. Full list Porco Derek Wes Xyme Filip Zaiden Wrett.... Mr. Moonwolf Mr. Blackrose

Porco - typical rough guy . Derek - tamer energy guy Derek inspires me to achieve more. Wes - like the character in the song. Mischievous, player, flirty, possessive. Protective in a sneaky weird way. Xyme - true lover, robotic, understanding, accommodating, non judgemental and dearly in love. Brave. Generous Macho. Ultimate lover. Caring. My true soul mate and healer. Not very emotional or bitchy. Perfect for me. So I got 6 masculine energies now Porco Derek Wes Xyme Filip Zaiden

Wrett You would always pull me out of my slumber..

But success is not just defined by income. I might find someone successful if they are a good nurse or a good professor and I have absolutely no problem dating a guy who earns less than me. In fact I mostly dated men who earned less than me. Although one of them did have a problem with my earning, even though my earning is that of a factory worker in America and still he had a problem even though I was paying his bills. The thing is why do I even need such a man who is so insecure about me making more than him. If I'm happy with a man and our finances are good then how much he earns in relative to my earnings is not my concern at all. I wasn't ever hunting for highly successful men in terms of Money, because that isn't a priority as long as we both make enough to pay bills and add to savings. However I would want him to be successful in terms of shared interests, life goals, passion, purpose, something that he is doing that makes me feel like he is on the same plane as me when it comes sharing life goals. It would be utterly disappointing that I have high ambitions and he doesn't.. However such men who are passionate about what they do and earn a decent income are plenty. I dont see the shortage

This was never my position. I don't know how this was being implied. I'm only saying that if a woman wants her financial independence, it's her ideal and goal and given historical context it will be more so, it's kinda difficult to understand why a man would have a problem with a woman wanting her own space in life.

There are so many successful men, there is absolutely no shortage. In fact there is a huge shortage of successful women because most women don't feel empowered enough due to family and socio economic situations to keep pursuing their life goals so there is a need to have more balance on the female front and that's why we have women empowerment programs.

Exactly. You eventually find the people where you are at. If you are successful you find other successful people as well. Telling women that they won't find men if they get successful is like there is no men who value success but successful people find each other if they want to.

The context you're ascribing is not a woman's fault. How we or modern society reacts to men is a reaction to how we as women have been in the past in terms of historical context.. If I have to give you an example in terms of historical context, I will describe a situation where if black men use the N word among themselves however it is not considered offensive, however if a white man uses the same word, it's considered offensive and for good reason, because there is a historical context of racism, slavery and oppression associated with it. In a similar way, when men say that they don't want to be with a successful woman, there is a historical context where women for centuries were discouraged from financial independence and success so it feels like he is reinforcing the old patriarchal stereotypes even if he means well however when a woman says that she doesn't find his prospect or offer appealing, its perfectly understandable why she wants to value her financial independence over a relationship with such a man.

That's very discriminatory. Both men and women are human beings. Why is a man's potential and contribution to society valuable and not a woman's? So if you read a wonderful book on self improvement and would you consider inferior or less valuable if you learn later that it was written by a woman? That would be bizarre and would make no sense. Why would her potential be less valuable? How does her being a woman change the quality or quantity of her contributions?

This forum cannot be used as a guarantor for success in relationships. That would be laughable.

I did not mean powerful in the sense someone domineering. Domineering or submissive is a matter of choice. What I meant by powerful is two people who share similar values and interests and have similar accomplishments so they are on the same level and are thus are well informed to make better mutual decisions.

@Raptorsin7 but a marriage needs two powerful people and not an asymmetric situation.

talking to Wrett you know how I wrote that day that silence is golden. Yes it is. Sometimes when I fight with you, I keep mum because there's not much I can say to you.. You know me well and a part of our understanding is that you need to be reading my mind rather than waiting for me to speak. You've always been around when I've wanted you. It's the friction between us that sometimes drives me mad. Silence can sometimes be funny when you suddenly try to break it by making jokes in my direction.. We had so many differences but then you began to grow on me..

That's the point I was trying to make. It's impossible to have a society where women are discouraged from progressing on the grounds that they won't find partners or have slim chances. It probably serves the agenda of low quality men.

Yea nobody brought up this point. Thanks for bringing this up.

@Heart of Space thank you

It's not about having a person. I'm too introverted to ever open up. I feel like I am incapable of it. That's why I write in my journals so much. Because I can't talk to anyone about my problems. But it's easier for me to write about my problems, it's like I'm talking to myself, and that's what I usually do. So writing is like talking to myself.