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What is your method /technique? Can you please elaborate?

This is movie magic. Reality is very different from perception. What you perceive as submissive is not submissive. What you perceive as dominant is not dominant. What you see is a facade. Emotional and sexual dynamics only exist to fool the senses. Falling into those archetypes and fantasies is the perfect road to downspiralling in life. Wise people open their eyes, awaken inner wisdom and use intellect than emotion.

Tzherdhuandhizha Pronounced as Zeryuandheezaah Based on Teotihuacan

A collection of what I need to keep a track of..

@Raptorsin7 in fact I would also go as far as to say this. That using the heart for attraction is not the correct strategy in relationships. In fact it backfires very badly like it did for me. I experienced intense heart attraction and sexual emotional attraction towards the men I dated because they were able to emotionally stimulate me, but I ended up attracting wrong guys. I did not use my head. I used my heart. And I experienced terrible failure. Because it's easy to fool the heart. When we use heart attraction we easily fall for emotional manipulators. I would recommend using the head while attracting someone. Using intellect. Putting your brain into it even if the heart is not exactly attracted to that person. Use the head/brain to correctly judge their intentions and actions. What happens when we use the heart is that we tend to gloss over someone's actions and intentions because we are so in love with them and unable to believe that they don't have the best intentions. They appear the best to us because we look at them with Rose tinted glasses However when we use the intellect while judging someone, we can easily catch their facades and false pretenses and manipulations and not get played and end up finding a partner who at first might not be very attractive, like I might attract a guy who is not very successful, charming, masculine or good looking, not sexually arousing, yet he might be a guy with a golden heart. To attract such a person, we should stop using the heart which will cloud our judgement and rather use the head.

@Raptorsin7 what I have realized is that vibe or appearance is just a facade most of the time. Guys who consider themselves losers aren't exactly that. Guys who boost their profile and call themselves winners are actually not what they show. We get fooled by social culture that encourages us to live a certain vibe. But in reality or actuality, it's the content of what a person speaks that needs to be paid attention to. I have understood that it is not what people act like which makes them masculine or feminine, (however this is how it is absorbed by the world ) it is their actions that prove if they are masculine or feminine. It's their thoughts. Their intent. Their ideas and not their vibe. The vibe is only used to fool people and attract people. So a man look very feeble and short and timid and actually be more masculine in his thoughts and ideals than the guy who boasts about being the most masculine The world is made of many pretenses

@Raptorsin7 another observation that I would like to bring up to you is what I call a false positive and almost every time I became a victim of this. What I saw is the phenomenon where in each one of my relationships the men were pretty dominant in the beginning however behind closed doors they didn't want any control in the relationship, they weren't as masculine as I first thought they were. They weren't the type who would take on things or nurture and care for me and let me be the feminine self, in fact it was the opposite, I realized that their masculinity was a facade. Usually masculinity is associated with taking the lead, dominating etc. The thing with these men that I dated was that they were masculine only for appearance, as in physical appearance and body language, they were masculine only to attract females, they had learned how to be masculine in language and body language, in words and appear attractive. But it's a false positive. Because they did not possess actual masculine traits. Same goes for women, you'll spot a woman at a party that appears very feminine and talks softly and appears submissive, but thats a false positive, because in reality behind closed doors, she is calling all the shots. But she knows that appearing more feminine will attract her more potential partners. The same way with these men. They are masculine only for show, so meanwhile they nicely fit the stereotype of the masculine guy, in reality or behind closed doors they want a woman to have full control, which was quite surprising to me. In fact in my second last relationship where the guy talked about how masculine he is, how other men were scared of him, he used to put on a bold show, but when it came to finances, he told me to work harder and make double the money I was making at the time meanwhile he was unemployed and wasn't keen on getting a job but complained about how I didn't make enough money and how his life will be better if I made more.. I was honestly surprised because he compared me to his ex wife who was making more than me and was more successful, she was also more powerful and dominating. So I was kinda surprised when he said how much he liked her being in control because this was the same guy always bossing me and telling me how bold and masculine he is, the thing is such men put on a show of masculinity and he enjoyed dominating me but that is only enough to satisfy their male fantasies, they aren't like that from inside. It's only a show. In reality the relationship they want is where the woman is in power whereas a woman like me is just to satisfy their male fantasies. So when he started whining about how I wasn't making enough money or not successful enough for him, I felt very bad and I would have honestly been happier with a more masculine guy who takes control and wouldn't pressure me to become the provider in the relationship. There are plenty men who appear sweet, docile, submissive but in reality they take on everything, and carry out manly responsibilities but do not possess the outward masculine traits or the body language. What I realized in my dating experience is that appearances fool us. People who excessively try to show themselves as masculine or feminine, in terms of appearance, expression, body language, words, aren't exactly what they show, they are different on the inside and the showing off is only to fulfill social conventions. Only to attract someone. For example, the man I first dated was very attractive to most girls and girls would be gaga over him, he would talk about weight training and fighting with other guys, act masculine, act like he is the leader, but now he is unemployed and lives with a very dominant woman who takes control of everything. Because a book not what the cover shows..

You need to understand that strong independent or successful woman does not always mean a dependent man and woman in control. For example in all of my relationships, I always gave the control to the man. I was the submissive one. Yet, I wasn't sitting around passively. Some men don't like a woman not doing anything with her life. I have drive and ambition and goals and I have an education and I work. Having all of that does not mean I'm dominant. There are plenty of women like me who are success oriented and ambition oriented and yet are submissive in relationships I would be more than glad if a man takes over and handles everything. I would never be in a relationship where I have full control because it doesn't suit me. Also remember that as much as you might dislike that dynamic, it could be specific to your family, there are plenty of relationships where the women are driven and successful but the man wears the pants in the relationship. And there are plenty of men who would want to be with the type of women in your family. For example I've seen many men who did not like me even though I was submissive because they are gravitated more towards women who are in control rather than women like me. I found it surprising because I always thought that men wanted the manly role in a relationship however that's not the case. Much of the stereotypes like soft woman with a dominating guy is perpetuated by movies and romantic novels and I always thought the same way. But in reality plenty of relationships involve a woman who dictates and a man who likes getting dictated. In fact such men don't want the hassle of making all decisions so they appreciate a woman in control, in fact most of the modern marriages I see around me, I see this dynamic. In fact, these same men look down on women like me, they don't appreciate the softness in a woman, they consider it as weakness and a hassle for a relationship. Such examples exist in my distant family where men are married to the women in control. But during family interactions such men have insulted me telling me that my relationships will be difficult since the man will need to hold power. Do you see my point? They did not want me to be submissive or feminine because they don't believe in that. They don't compliment that. They are attracted to power wielding women. I found that to be very opposite to the idea shown in movies but that's reality. Submissive women will become a rarity as time goes on. Because men are fastly replacing them with powerful dominating women. This is not 1600s. This is 21st century. Most masculine men are looked at with contempt and women reject them because women want someone they can dominate, with feminism, women have been empowered which is a good thing but the by product of giving women more freedom has resulted in relationship dynamics where the woman holds more power. This won't go away and it's on the rise and I'm not happy about it My own mother had this dynamic where she was always in control but I never appreciated it. However lot of men seem to want it.

Feel like I'm being hung on a cross.

Yes true for both.

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@Raptorsin7 she is a bad example. I never thought like her. I don't think a lot of women either.

When a woman seeks a partner versus her success are two separate things. She might seek a partner early on in her life and still work on her career, I don't see how a love relationship interferes with career. I had a friend who got married very young and then pursued her career in business. The timing that you use to pursue a partner should have nothing to do with career, both can be pursued at the same time, I pursuing relationships since college itself, those who keep relationships on the back burner in order to pursue a career are just doing a disservice to themselves because youth is the time when attraction is at peak and love is enjoyable, although there is nothing that says that pursuing a relationship on the side means giving up career those who do it are simply too nerdy and aren't too romantic I guess to begin with

What I meant is that how does it matter anyway if she is not attractive to men generally, she better invest in a career or a purpose because it will fulfill her, whereas what's the point of her focusing on men if she doesn't have what it takes to attract them. And her success to men should be irrelevant, because she is anyway not attractive to them. She is better off being successful and enjoy wealth because her love life is not going to be great either way.

Success has nothing to do with it. If she doesn't match up in the areas that are important to him, why would her success even matter?

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@intotheblack @Parththakkar12 the discussion between both of you reminds me of a dog chasing its tail.