Preety_India

If you put it in a way that comes across as healthy, you won't be shamed and those who shame you would do it simply out of misunderstanding. However you need to understand that sometimes abusers and controllers also have similar demands because they want a dependent partner. It's hard to make a difference and draw between genuine intent or a controlling need..

Wrett I'm running through a hallway of windows, sprinting recklessly, like a little girl, catching glimpses of you through the doors. Did you find me? I will always be sad without you, hot tears rolling down my cheeks, if we don't meet at the end of time. How long do you plan on making me wait? You should know by now, that all I ever wanted was you. When you don't find me, I'm upset, you argued with me that I'm needy, but would you have me in any other way?

Wrett I felt like this should begin between us at some point, this point where we both need to come together to decide how we really feel about each other.. I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. You bring the part of me that is hidden deep within me, a passion that was never realized, a feeling that was never felt, you turn me into something that I sometimes dream of being, this fierceness that you show, pushes me forward to be the best me. We loved with a love that was more than love, don't you remember that? To be with you is only a luxury that I can dream of, if at all, when you allow me so. Don't you know this Wrett? I'd choose you in a hundred lifetimes, in a hundred worlds, I'd choose you, yes, I'd find you. No matter what. In any version of reality, you'd still be the one for me, when have you ever doubted me?

Wrett You are like an obsessive psycho freak but I still like you. You have what it takes to drive me nuts.

Then I will break my celibacy code and have a relationship but with utmost carefulness, like a cat treading slowly through puddle.

You mean you want a hippo?

Wrett I sincerely love you. I imagine you by my side. There is so much that needs to happen between us.. There is so much that I need with you.. We love each other deeply. You're my soul. You're my heart. Once again I hear your voice even after my death..

If that's the case, then good for you. Why would you face any difficulty in getting the woman that matches your criteria?

@Raptorsin7 if you're living in America or Canada and still assuming that you won't be in a society that is elitist then good luck lol. You're living in the part of the planet which has some of the most elitist mentality, there's tougher competition there than in a stage purple society

And why do you think this is the case? If everyone thought like you and me, society would be at a much better place. You have a stage Green thinking where you place value on mutual joy love and happiness. That's why you say such things, kinda idealistic, just like me. However society works on Stage Orange largely. To break it to you in simple terms - society never worked on wisdom. It works on social dynamics and trends, set by people who don't have wisdom.

Hmm. No its about plain survival. Not about social standards. In my country even highly educated people are working at McDonalds because the competition has gotten so tough. With increasing population, stress and increasing competition, not to mention inflation and housing rates, survival has become progressively tougher. I'd say that my father earned more than me despite having low education in a clerical job back in his day, simply because there was no competition, very few people were available for the job and the pay scale was significantly higher in comparison to inflation only because the population was quite small in the city where he worked

If this happens it's golden. In my family, the father was a professor and he pressured his both daughters to become doctors and they are both doctors.. Married to doctors as well. So I don't see that. That has to be very forgiving and nice parents who think so much about their kids. Most parents especially from my own culture put extreme pressure on kids, the richer the parents, more is the pressure. I went to college where all of my colleagues had parents who were either a PhD Or doctors. There was intense pressure on the kids to become doctors, both guys and girls and many of them are successful now, not necessarily happy, but successful, they did what their parents wanted them to. Also a high income career is never low demand. The whole career job money market is based on Stage Orange Dynamics where market dynamics are very important, demand and supply is constantly deciding the amount of income earned, in fact most people get laid off simply due to decrease in demand. So I can't think of such a rare career. You're probably looking for a particular exact niche which is hard to find.

@Raptorsin7 your criteria is antithetical to social norms because these days there's pressure on both men and women to have a career, and not just a career, but a good high paying career, after going through all the hoops you get a fair chance of having a partner. So you can surely get a girl who is working at McDonalds but she might be looking for climbing up the ladder as well. Its fine if you're rebelling against social norms, nothing wrong with it, but social norms are here to stay. You gotta find a way around it rather than the other way around.

This is where you go wrong. If you want a wealthy partner, how can she be wealthy without having a career. If she is wealthy by inheritance, her parents are most likely going to pressure her to find a successful career because they want to extend their wealth, plus they are living in wealthy circles where its important to have a great career for social status.

@Parththakkar12 well if someone came with a huge inheritance, they don't need to struggle so hard for a living.kinda easy to say airy fairy things. The world population is rising, job opportunities are constantly getting lower, with automation even harder, talent pool is huge, unless you with a forever meal ticket from your parents and a house, you aren't going to beat the market without being career driven especially if you come from poverty. The luxury of following your dream passion without a wage slavery job that doesn't focus much on stage orange ideals is right now only afforded by the rich, how do you account for the millions of people struggling to make a living, when even getting a low end minimum wage job means you have to be extremely career driven and hard working. In a situation where the guy doesn't make much, both the girl and the guy can only have a family if both work.. So you can easily say that career is a distraction, but if a husband is superbusy earning to help the whole family, it's not for distraction It's a need for survival, in fact the poorer the couple, the more hard work both have to put in. You act like socioeconomic factors just don't exist..

Wrett Scorpios are extremely emotional, and crave intimacy. They have a powerful presence and demanding personalities, and they have a penchant for mystery They run into danger without a second thought. I want Wrett to be like that.

@Lyubov that's a good point. Noted.

Girls generally don't chase men even if the man is the hottest. Usually not high self esteem girls. Low self esteem girls do chase men. But these women can easily drop the hot man for another hotter guy. That's how they do it, like groupies. If a guy allowed a woman to chase him, he can easily end up with a manipulative woman.

@Consept I get your point but I think truth is not one thing, it's sort of mixed and subjective.

Lol flirt with her otherwise Friendzone.

I don't think there is a problem if you tell her that but follow it with some witty remark like "My doc said that I can never have arrhythmia. But your presence is sure proving him wrong. "

I haven't mentioned such a thing. So it's obviously taken out of context. I'm not triggered at all. Often when a woman is trying to counter a man's argument, she is usually labeled as "triggered "... Not a good way of having a fair argument.

You tend to take things out of context or derive a different implied meaning out if it. There is nothing implicit that you're looking for. Men are physically stronger than women, it's just a basic statement based on facts not biases, I have never implied or mentioned that a man's physical strength is proportional to his success so no idea how that came out of nowhere Also if I said that women generally seek high status or wealthier guys, and low value (status wise ) guys find themselves behind high income guys in the dating arena, would that be an incel mentality, absolutely not, it's just a fact based statement, a general observation. Incel mentality is when you think you assume that you can never get something especially when you didn't even try, but stating an obvious observation based on social trends is called keen observation and awareness. Similarly when I stated that looks really help women with a lot in life, that's not incel mentality, that's stage orange mentality where looks and superficial factors are given more value and precedence over strength of character or ability.

What does that mean?

I call this the egg therapy. Looking at these eggs really reduces my anxiety.