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That was like the greatest point lol. How did I miss that?

This is a typical problem of black communities though, not true of other communities. If I've to be very honest without coming off as offensive, and apologies in advance if I did, whenever I think of success in the black community, it's usually the image of some black woman that pops up, like Oprah Winfrey or Beyonce or Michelle Obama. I think when I think of successful black men, it's usually some NBA player like Kobe, which is actually a physical activity Of course success can be anything but my estimate or speculation is that academically speaking, the women in the black community do far better than the men and then it elevates their financial status making it difficult for them to find black men on the same level. However this problem can be resolved if majority of black men worked hard and accomplished more and secured a better life financially then it would be much better and easier for black women, the solution would be to upgrade yourself rather than downgrade her progress.

I think that you're saying this out of a lot of bitterness because you can clearly see that she has a superior argument.. Personally @Emerald I'm an ardent fan of her channel, I really love her content and she presents it with such great depth that it gives me the impression that she has a profound knowledge and she knows what she is talking about and this can only happen if a person speaks from experience. I like her takes on animus integration, jungian psychology, shadow work, enlightenment, she also brings in many guests and she is a true seeker on the spiritual path, she has been a great addition to the forum and she has been so for so many years now and I like how she always speaks with conviction and doesn't compromise with truth just to pander to people, she doesnt like to sugarcoat which is a mark of a true seeker. I think @Raptorsin7 your critique of her channel is baseless and bitter and unfair given that so many benefit from her channel. She has come so far and she had some tremendous experiences last year that have sharpened her knowledge even more. Not only is she passionate and great at succinctly explaining her concepts, she is very knowledgeable and experienced in her field and she possesses great intuitive skill which is absolutely needed in this kind of work to understand complex truths about reality.

I second this. This is what I have been saying as well, that most men who haven't taken any interest in what I do are also the type of dudes who have primarily shown a lack of consideration or care for me to begin with, and isn't it the same vice versa, when has a man appreciated a woman showing zero interest in what he is passionate about, even though she might be attracted to his success initially, would he really cherish his attention if she wasn't particularly interested in sharing mutual interests, for example when my ex boyfriend liked cars, racing or fantasy football, I am least made some effort to show some interest in what he was passionate although I'm not the typical "Car" person, yet I made a bit effort in swaying in his direction to create mutual ground for interest when nothing existed there, isn't that something that a potential partner simply out of consideration.

What would you say to a person who puts all of their life into their life purpose?

@modmyth the word is "hardheaded" in terms of retaining humour. Haha.

@Emerald what I see is this. A typical stage Blue mentality pattern based on 2 things. The strong need to assert a traditional paradigm and the inability to see beyond it, having firmly believed that that's the only pattern that works The need to believe that this pattern is universal, a certain dogmatism in asserting so, wanting the pattern to be universal as the stage blue to maintain dominance and lack of room for openness,accommodation, new paradigms or any changes that are swaying the dominant position from its original form.

@Emerald exactly. I'm not saying that only people with relationship experience have the sole right to offer advice, but it's much more effective when the advice is backed up by relationship experience than otherwise

@Emerald I've total of 6–7 years worth of relationship experience of 4 relationships in total, out of which 1 relationship was long term LTR, and completely agree with you that these dudes speak in a way that is far removed from real life experiences and reality will hit, much of their theories won't apply in practical life, it isn't so cut and dry in real life where you walk around with a list in hand and reduce everything to a 2 dimensional reality..

Something that I don't particularly like but I try to get along. It's usually the same people that I run into most of the time. And unless they are into some serious journaling or self actualization, they seem to be stagnating here which gives out the energy of boredom and aggression that tends to get reflected in different interactions on the forum.

I could easily blow up a firestorm, yet most of the time I'm not looking from the point of view of my own desirability, but just being in my own world, most of the time, not that I don't care about if someone likes me or not (in a diffident defiant way ) but in my own introverted shy manner, I just tend to block out such thoughts and feelings, somehow it tends to escape my mind, and I'm floating in my own little world, weaving my own tapestries out of my own cloth, unaware of what's going on outside, and singing to my tune, if someone is listening, it makes me glad, but I'm not singing loud enough for everyone to hear. My own desirability does not come to me straight from the rulebook, it's something I've never really paid much attention to, it never occurred to me that I'm a woman, unless someone stated it emphatically to me, in which case I immediately recoil into my reservations.

Often times when I reflect on myself as a woman, I realize that much of what the world thinks of me is born out of their own assumptions and prejudices around me, a reflection of their own projections and and identity they base me off of, I'm helpless to change that not that I really want to, but what they think of me or my intentions is usually starkly different from what's running through my mind, a lot of the time someone thinks that I must have an agenda behind what I have said, when for me it's as simple as existing and just being me for the most part, doing what I like and saying what I feel

How do I see myself as a woman? I don't have much to say, I see myself as a very feminine woman. I haven't cultivated my masculine side enough. It's something I deeply lack. I try to be masculine in some ways but I really can't. Yet I think it's necessary to integrate the masculine as well because it makes you well rounded

I think sometimes we misunderstand women or A woman a lot. We tend to see them as a monolith, something that has to be a certain way with prepackaged values and traits versus as separate entities from each other who differ in traits, values, perspectives and not just facial features.

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Sometimes you need to put out some dragon energy I would not call it feral energy as I see feral energy as something that is not beneficial to me. I call it cat energy. Funny how animal energies work But Dragon Dragon energy is mean energy It's for survival and keeping detractors out But it's not about being evil

50 cent is so stage orange

Dating is such a thing that it's not necessarily all about social trends. There are niche areas as well. It's not a one way street. For example, I might not be interested in attracting all men, in that case I can easily stick with my own preferences and wait for someone who is interested in me for exactly who I am. For example I might be interested in space study, it could be that majority of men aren't interested in that, however there's always a niche group that has similar interests and since its too difficult to find many people to date within that niche group, they are more likely to adjust with my other preferences and choices because they are more interested in me so my preferences really do not matter to them. In that case, I don't have to worry about what majority of men perceive as attractive because I have found someone who is only interested in me based on shared interests. This point is never stressed enough that dating is neither too general nor too exclusive to box it into a tight framework where possibilities can never exist, dating is like a card game, where you can draw any card out of the several possibilities out there and still find a match. After all, you only need one match to find a fulfilling life. So what a majority wants or prefers is not the biggest worry all the time.

I think in really old days, like in times when civilization had just begun, sex was probably more easily available because social norms weren't so deeply entrenched, just my speculation

@LastThursday @Parima @5-D - L O V E nicely put

This was great advice

And then look at this

@Hardkill what do you exactly want to discuss about porn?

Then open this box