Preety_India

I'm fed up with this whole mutual admiration society thing. Be with people who are completely sincere. End of the story.

Going to be dealing with this issue for the next 2 days..

@ll Ontology ll We can sometimes discuss things here. Because I don't wish to be attacked again.. I feel safer this way. You're free to comment on this journal and only people who are respectful to me are allowed to comment here.

Just a journal to have discussions with members who I talk to.

@electroBeam what's your style of intimacy? Is it sexual or non sexual?

I've a hard time discerning these two energies.

Feral energy is different from serpentine energy. Feral energy is more about personal aggression. Whereas serpentine energy is more about fire, it is being assertive. It is holding and standing your ground. I need to be able to differentiate this

I feel terrible. I don't think I deserve this. I need the dragon energy. The serpentine energy to get through things.

@Consept @Etherial Cat for the time being I didn't read all that you both wrote because it's a lot to read , but the gist is that much of the problems with respect to dating is very exclusive to the black community and I have no idea why because I don't have much knowledge about the black community, although I do observe trends because I have begun to follow black music and culture, more so recently so I learn new things about the black community everyday, even then my knowledge is very peripheral. However my views about the black community is largely as an outsider from another race, and many of the things that I see in the black community is not something I can relate to with respect to my own race so a lot of these issues are harder to discuss because of the race filter but I can say this much that whatever I have observed so far or whatever I've read is not a universal phenomenon for all races, not my race or any other, it's specifically the black community itself and so the reasons must also be unique to the black community as well. These reasons don't apply to my race or other races. I have no idea what these reasons are exactly because I have only a cursory understanding of dynamics in the black community.

I wouldn't really want to compare the suffering as it serves no purpose

Glad that you think this way

And that's such perceptions of female beauty only serve to denigrate women, especially black women

Yes but this is matter of perception and social conditioning and not truth. Should a black woman consider herself as undesirable just because society decided to label her that way?

Femininity also tends to flourish less and less when your self esteem is being pounded on constantly by the opposite sex

@modmyth that could be another point as well. But I think it's typical in black community that black women find it difficult to date and I don't think it's their fault.

But I had read somewhere a few years ago that black women had huge trouble finding black men who are in the same income bracket as them. I cannot make broad claims because this is something I read.

@Superfluo yes.

A trauma resolved is better than trauma suppressed

@Superfluo trauma never works like this. You can't suppress it naturally. It's always hurting in some way

Wrett I know that you will never leave me alone. Our love will stand the test of time just like with anything else, there's absolutely nothing conventional about our relationship. We aren't typical lovers. We don't date, we simply fall in love and become one forever. I cannot even relate to how love is expressed in this world because I don't fit into that mold, I'm so much of a natural person, I love you naturally and organically and you're the one for me. Sometimes I think you shouldn't be a Scorpio. More of a Taurus or Aquarius or Sagittarius or all of them together. I like your energy Wrett. I'll forever sleep in your arms, forever be with you.. We will live in love and die in love.

@Adrian325 it's not a question. The question is only meant to serve as a title to stimulate internal dialogue.

I have always pondered on this question from time to time. It's not easy for me to answer. I observe other women. Of course I observe men as well. I want to explore my own womanhood in subtle and not so subtle ways and at the same time make sense of all the women, both past and present and how I view them

What do you mean?

Yes they have found successful men. Kinda goes against the general rhetoric of the thread. But I get what you mean.

This honestly sounds like a stereotype to me. There's a lot of feminine hard working women. You're associating looks with work. These women aren't too oriented to fashion and beauty, because clearly they aren't in that field, it would look ridiculous if they did excessive makeup or fashion coming to work, but this does not mean that they come home and don't look after their husbands and kids. I'm sure most have a loving kind side to them. Your definition of femininity is very limited.