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Ok I have made my final decision that I'll be interacting a little more with the following people I'll talk to others but occasionally. These are the ones I generally get along with. Leo of course. Emerald. Forestluv Raphael Tim R DocWatts Roy Ananta Etherial Cat Bojan V Rest of the forum will be on ignore except a few regulars and respectful members. This will reduce a lot of the trolling, fighting, harassment and people who unnecessarily pick fights. I will be able to avoid them quite easily. I don't like very spiritual or philosophical type of people as they have a grandiose ego. I like simple objective people.

You mean your own head right.

If I ignore everyone else on the forum and only stick to the people mentioned above and communicate with them, a lot of my problem with trolls would be solved. Rest of the people are either drama queens or they simply hang around the forum as entertainment, but they don't create any journal for work. I don't see them doing growth work. Just loitering around the forum for fun. Flirting or talking to such people will drain my mental energy and that's not a good idea. Also I avoid some people in the journal section because they get together and become very gossipy. I'm not the type who will sit in a group of people and gossip about some person. I have always evacuated myself from such groups in both school and college, I'm a bit of a nerd, and such tabloid type of snarky people don't suit me.. I also don't like to be a part of disputes. It's not good for collective harmony. People always try to get a rise out of me, even when I don't like to respond to their sarcasm.. I'm just a plain simple person. It's difficult to exist like this when people are constantly trying to get on your nerves and all you're doing is being silent and chill. I'm an extremely chill person if you get to know me in real life.. I'm also caring.. If you have me as a friend, you will be too glad to have me around. I like to keep things happy and chill.. Unfortunately most people who met me in the past were fucking narcissists who would exploit my sweet energy and use me for their gain. But I'm past it. I have realized that such people ☛ are drama queens and are best to be avoided.

The only people I truly trust on this forum are the following. Leo of course. Emerald. Forestluv Raphael Tim R DocWatts Roy Ananta Etherial Cat These people kinda keep to themselves, a quality that I highly appreciate in people. They don't create any drama

The technical solutions and hacks in this video are really extremely helpful. This is what I needed. Not some bullshit spiritual advice. I needed hacks.

@Julian gabriel your response was like a healing balm. His response was like a disciplining stick. Both are good. I appreciate.

@Julian gabriel ok, that was sweet.

Even Hitler gets more love than me. What a cruel world!

@Leo Gura I can't love Hitler. Am I wrong or unloving? Am I without compassion?

Looking at your visitor list helps a lot with knowing if you have potential troll problem.. If You happen to see some abnormal activity there like if someone is constantly checking your content, constantly spying on your profile and excessively showing interest in your personal stuff in a disparaging way, then you know that there is a problem.

Integrating Versus Being Yourself I'll talk about this later.

If you do a bit of research you will find that females are often trolled much more than males.. They are harassed far far worse.. 1000 times worse than men. So it's no surprise that a female complains to a moderator about harassment that she is facing. Much of this harassment or trolling comes from desperate males trying to seek her attention when she isn't interested in giving it.. The more aloof a female is, the more is the probability of her getting trolled.

Often times you might want to engage with a troll just to clarify your side.

One way of tackling trolls is to have great self confidence. Ironically trolls make you into a stronger more empowered person Not always though. Sometimes excessive trolling can take a huge dig at your self esteem especially when they target something vulnerable in your life. For example if you have had vulnerable spot in regard to having turbulent relationships with the opposite sex, the troll can feed on this detail A very common example of this is Let's say you're a man who has difficulty in attracting women A troll can say something like "you must be an incel. " This can really go deep or sting badly and the troll will tell you to accept it as truth. However the objective was to simply make you feel bad about yourself..

Will watch this later to gain some insight.

I'm not talking about romantic attraction Just in a general sense in terms of self actualization. Ive often made this observation that when you are rude and strict and a bit dickish with people (read Narcissist ) they tend to respect you and value you much more. Whereas if you were being humble, nice and pleasant, they give you zero value and treat you like shit. It's almost as if you want to earn the respect of maximum people, you have to be this egotistical egomaniac narcissist and only then you're taken seriously. Why can't people see that such behaviors are deeply rooted in ego and ego stroking and there is no humility there? Why does humility sell so cheap?

Please no more comments on this journal. Thanks for respecting.

@ll Ontology ll ok all these comments are kinda distracting me from focusing on what I should write here. I have very little time to fill journals and I need to hurry up to do my other stuff. If you want a casual chat or give feedback please pm me and I'm always glad to have great conversations whenever I find time. Thank you. ☚

@ll Ontology ll haha. I don't mean to do all that violent stuff. I am a gentle soul. Enough of your violent fantasies lol, you could freak me out right now.. I generally just tend to close up a lot when someone is deliberately going out of their way to disturb my peace or bother me excessively. At some point they invite me into the boxing ring by constantly pushing my buttons, that's when I finally decide to deal with them through and through. I am generally not a confrontational person. I keep too much to myself, way more than people think.

@ll Ontology ll lol..

@ll Ontology ll it is always a difficult process in the beginning and then it smoothens out.

@Lyubov please let me work in silence. I don't want too much attention to my journals. It becomes counter productive I appreciate the feedback but it's better to do it in personal messenger or not do it at all. I'm only trying to deal with a temporary problem in whatever ways I can. Please don't take offense. Can you please delete your comment.

Zodiac study is just a general idea. There will always be exceptions. These studies are created from general observations. Nobody has said that this is a perfect study. It applies to some and doesn't apply to others. For example I have a few cancer friends and they always laugh about whenever I mention the zodiac traits. Because they find it relatable. Personally a lot of my own traits match with my zodiac description. But then again I have met Pieces whose traits don't match. These studies are however based on overall surveys so it would apply to most people, yet not to some. For example in the video above, you can see in the comment section, how many cancer people agree with a lot of the general traits.

@ll Ontology ll so true. I'm sharpening my skills in developing healthy boundaries. Everyday is a new lesson in this journey. I have sufficiently packed my Arsenal but there is always something more to build on. Growing healthy boundaries is a must and is an arduous process in the beginning until you get a hang of it. Remember your boundaries very well. Always keep mental notes. Enforce your boundaries when the moment is right. Be ferocious and self protective. Dragon energy. If you want to survive the ruthlessness and don't wish to be fucked over by people over and over, then build your Arsenal.

You can't change your parents. The harsh truth is that you must not allow parents to impact you. Lessen your interactions with them. Move out or distract yourself away from them. ☚