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Vxs - you should never trust anyone. Me- but that's how we live. How can I live without trusting? Vxs - you take it slow.

Why did you ask me who I'm in love with when you already know it's you.

@BipolarGrowth the same way his idol Trump does!

To me the worst part wasn't the video or the question "are you a real man." It was- "president Trump is what a real man is." I could throw up a 100 times over that statement! That man is off his rocker.

This kind of thinking doesn't allow men to be loving

@BipolarGrowth thank you Brandon. That video is very helpful.

Please clarify. You mean to say - A) understanding that survival is a need B) being detached from survival at the same time (still recognizing it as a need but not placing too much value on it) C) Focusing on things higher than survival. D) all of the above.

@Leo Gura I thought survival was important.

@Ethan1 just sent you the map. You can check.

@Ethan1 I'll be there in an hour. Creating a map right now.

Survival Protection Growing Thriving Flourishing Expanding

Determine phases like 1,2,3..

How should CCC people cope with their struggle. First thing is to create a chart that tracks growth and damage. Find a balance where damage is minimized by whatever way possible and use every opportunity for growth. Use law of attraction. Work hard to reach the point of sustenance and start your growth from there.

CCC people live in the red zone of the diagram NNN people live in the green zone. NNN thrive and flourish. CCC rot in the struggle and eventually fail. If CCC are able to overcome the struggle and not get damaged by the struggle or if they manage to remain relatively unharmed then they can reach the point of sustenance from where their growth can begin

Drew this rough diagram to understand the concept of point of sustenance.

I used to love reading about Epictetus. A Guide to the Good Life by William B Irvine. This is a good one.

Shadow work

We need two types of people who can deal with P and Q. I'll label them as CCC and NNN . CCC is a personality profile that has to be very stubborn, unbeatable, doesn't get impacted by bad circumstances, is very tough, survives in very bad conditions, high endurance, good at problem solving, tough skin. Very protective. Opportunistic. Strong. Hard and Unemotional. Like a rock that doesn't get impacted. With glimpses of softness where growth can occur. CCC is a solid character with lots of manoeuvring and self control..it's like plane flying through rocky mountains and flying bombs. Full control trying to focus on the goal and well aware and prepared for obstacles. Suitable for stage red environment survival. NNN is very growth oriented and highly creative and passionate. Suitable for stage green environment survival.

There has to be a growth chart and I wanted to add something more. I think that we need to two different types of individuals to have linear growth in different circumstances. I'll label circumstances as P and Q. P being really unhealthy deprived toxic circumstances. And Q being circumstances that are really good and favorable.

I want to work on myself on a serious level. I think the growth style is different for each person. And to know your own growth style you need to know yourself really well. So In order to create a chart of growth, you need to incorporate your personality profile and your overall compatibility with regard to your environment and your personal compatibility with lifestyle and goals, knowing what you need versus what you want, and your suitable growth style.

I want to work on myself on a serious level. I think the growth style is different for each person. And to know your own growth style you need to know yourself really well. So In order to create a chart of growth, you need to incorporate your personality profile and your overall compatibility with regard to your environment and your personal compatibility with lifestyle and goals, knowing what you need versus what you want, and your suitable growth style.

Will add later.

So what does this mean? You begin to grow from a certain point. I'll call this the point of sustenance. The point from where growing, flourishing and thriving begins. It's the basic threshold for growth. The launchpad. Without this threshold, growth is going to be very chaotic and it won't be helpful. Below this point of sustenance, the person only keeps struggling to keep their head above water and desperately survive. You know at this stage it's like a cruel game. You are fighting for your survival, trying to get out of the misery pit you're born into, trying to get out of the crab Bucket. You put all your force and might into climbing the wall of the pit. It's like climbing several mountains. Yet when you are done climbing one mountain,another pops up and then you climb that and then another pops up, and all you do is keep climbing mountains and once you reach the last mountain, all your fuel is gone,your energy is drained and you have that one little mountain to climb, just a little bit to cover before you reach that finish line, and now you're so tired after climbing so many that you're feet are broken and you can't climb anymore. This is how life tests you when you aren't given a wholesome environment,if you are doomed to be born in such conditions, then your whole life is a picture of struggle which begins with the hope of getting out of that misery pit one day and ends with you giving up on your struggles and succumbing to the circumstances after a hard long fight. Is this growth? No I don't see it as growth. It's a slow process of destruction. Growth can only happen beyond this point of struggle,only at the point of sustenance. Below this threshold where you have limited opportunities and resources, bad conditions of living, your life is only spent fighting those conditions. Growth is not just growth. Guaranteed it's not linear, but growth is only growth if it involves flourishing and thriving or else it's an endless cycle of struggle disguised as growth.

We cannot simply grow through our circumstances. The environment needed for growth and thriving has to be a conducive environment.

@GreenWoods there are dangers to that kinda of devotion.