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Rory is so comical. I could enjoy Netflix with him.

@Hardkill don't put zeroguy and me together. keep some distance.

If my boyfriend didn't have sex with me, I would be done.

Leave him.

@Jodistrict there is a serious emotion section for it

@Leo Gura will the journal section be kept in the future on this website because the journaling helps a lot. Or are you planning to axe it as well along with forum comments?

@Leo Gura I have deep respect for who you are as a person. So please don't think of me as attacking you. Not my goal I only wanted to offer a fair critique of your dismissive attitude towards mental and emotional health in the light of what you represent at Actualized Org Also this whole big organization that you built called Actualized Org is not solely your property after you made people a part of it.. Actualized Org is not meant only for Leo Gura and his aspirations. It is also meant for people who became a part of this journey with you. Are you going to simply cut them off ? We shared this journey with you. We became a part of you along with you doing this work. Yes we are physically and mentally separate from you But what you are doing at Actualized Org is not simply your own work but also group work. We are also a part of who we made you. Your videos are about helping us. So this is a two way street. You cannot be trying to help us and also separate us at the same time. So hopefully you'll pay us due consideration to our input in all your future decisions.

I would be glad to do that. I already help people a lot here especially with their emotional issues given my own experience with it.

I get your point and I understand that you shouldn't play the role of a personal therapist here to anyone. But it's incredibly arrogant to brush this issue under the carpet by saying "you deal with your own stuff, I'm not your therapist" and at the same time trying to market compassion in your videos. Contradictory. If you care about people in a metaphysical way, your care wouldn't reach them if you haven't explored other ways of healing them. Are you doing this work for your own ego? Do you not want to know what can help a person? Do you only want to speak about compassion but not act on it ? If someone needs healing, maybe a few words from you might help them. If they're excessively pining for your attention then you can always tell them to seek therapy without sounding condescending to them . However you absolutely not wanting to talk to people with Emotional issues and daftly putting it away as "I'm not your therapist" is a casual way of shirking deep responsibility for any normal person (normie in your lingo) let alone for a spiritual teacher like you ! If you call yourself a teacher also practice what you preach. Hell even normal people on the street would offer a piece of kind word if a suicidal person approached them. With you the standard of expectation is a bit higher. You can't be like Eckhart Tolle simply sitting there and chatting up the audience in a joking spirit and when someone emotional in the audience asks a question, completely evading it and asking them to go to a therapist This seems like hypocrisy. Nobody expects you to babysit someone for hours but a few kind words from your mouth are not going to waste hours of your lifetime

I find it ironic that you talk about helping people on their spiritual path meanwhile completely ignoring mental and emotional issues that can exist not only independent of this path but are also a part of this path. Now don't take this as a personal attack. I'm not trying to attack you. You do realize that people on this path are going to experience intense experiences while doing this work You yourself have cried many times in your video and so you must be aware what I'm talking about. You saying that someone is mentally unstable for entertaining suicidal thoughts is like a doctor saying that they only deal with patients who have a positive response to their medication and treatment program and those who report side effects of the medication are conveniently deleted and packed and sent home by branding them as weirdos. I'm not trying to say that you're demonizing people with mental issues but it seems like you're excessively absolving yourself of any responsibility for people experiencing weird emotions when such experiences are extremely common in any spiritual community. How do you create space for all the good things by simply cutting off all the bad aspects as inconvenient to your agenda? Isn't the definition of doing good supposed to be creating refuge for the bad stuff and a healing space for the bad stuff to recover and turn to Good ? Or do you want a more stage Orange success mentality on here combined with spiritual ego aka spiritual Messiah kind of thing?

Shadow work is basically exploring uncomfortable parts of the self that are locked away because of a strong coping or defense mechanism.

But keep in mind that not everyone does it for attention This is the kind of thinking that prevents people who are genuinely suicidal from seeking help Often times I felt like people would think I'm attention seeking if I told them that I was suicidal. Meh!

@Spiritzz I think where he exactly went wrong was his personal communication he had on May 2, one day before jumping off

It should rather be how to go from alpha to beta?

I think one of the reasons I didn't commit suicide is because I had pledged o my dad that I would do my absolute best to live a good life. His last words were that I should look after myself He was always worried about me because he thought I was too naive to be to survive in this world.

Are we supposed to prove to the whole world our legitimacy and keep defending ourselves to death against their projections and cognitive biases? What happened to understanding someone?

Like I wanted to do something but I always kept putting it off.

I will add a list of characters here that can serve as friends and guides not necessarily soulmates or lovers.

And there is the other problem where people dismiss you being suicidal and think it's drama and attention seeking tactic. Should it take someone to die for you to realize that they weren't attention seeking? Like how stupid and insensitive can some people be?

I would feel absolute pleasure in the company of someone like Rory He is not just funny but quite smart and tactful

Rory in my opinion is such a fun guy He is the type who just knows how to make you laugh.I'm imagining him as a witty character . I cannot think of a movie character to associate him with. If someone tried to get on his nerves, he would come up with cool response He has an infectious energy

Yes I was in a dark mood earlier. Was listening to some cool music an hour ago to get it off my chest

One should not expect to remove all the content out there because someone took their own life. Your life is precious and what you do with it is up to you. Your life is worth more than any spiritual truth in the world. The truth is for us, we aren't for the truth.

Showing compassion and understanding to the deceased is not glorification of suicide. Glorification would be if people did not feel sorry or if they cheered such an act and encouraged others to do the same. However I didn't see that on the thread. Most people expressed regret that it happened. I don't see this as glorification but condemnation and disappointment expressed in a compassionate way.

Yes there is a certain hidden power and grace in vulnerability and neediness. But when neediness goes out of control, it becomes an addiction and sometimes an obsession that becomes very unhealthy and difficult to contain. Others can't thrive around such a person. Imagine someone calling you 30 times a day. You can't function normally around such a person. It shows a level of self absorption that becomes very selfish and destructive. Non neediness can create detachment and sometimes lack of affection that can easily turn into borderline negligence. I would say use balance. Don't be so needy that it becomes an inconvenience to the other person. Don't be so non needy that they feel deprived or neglected. A careful balance creates the right chemistry necessary to sustain the flame in the relationship. I can give the analogy of plants and water. If you water the plant excessively it will get uprooted or the soil will be leeched of nutrients. If you water very little, then the plant stays dry. Water the plant in moderation as and when necessary. Give love and affection in moderation and also ask love and affection in moderation. This way both parties will happy and the chemistry is maintained.