Preety_India

After some contemplation, I decided that... I won't be hanging around the forum much longer Today is probably the last day of running around the forum.

Keeping a track of my activities

Can you explain me how theorizing about rejection is helping you in practice?

This is some high grade Incel shit. You seem to be having some strong issues with rejection. Rejection is a part and parcel of life. Don't take it so hard You're kinda theorizing rejection

@Michael569 can guide you

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It's not like she doesn't want you. Maybe she isn't ready for it in the moment wants you take it slow.

So what are we getting at here? Whats the solution you suggest? Simply sit and watch all the mayhem in the Middle East?

@Leo Gura but your country needs to do better and can do better when it comes to helping other countries. Now don't say you aren't opening orphanages.

Yes a lot of men sadly don't understand this part They try to be aggressive instead of assertive.. Its one thing to be manly and assured about yourself and your needs in place and another to exert and pressure those needs on a woman, imposing your will as a man on her. The former is seen as confidence the latter is seen as aggression and lack of sensitivity.

To be honest, most suggestions on this thread are rapey. It's all about what men want and how fast they can close it. Not at all thinking about what the woman might want or what she might be thinking of you in her mind Most threads on this subforum guide men to take it quite aggressively. Out of the excessive insecurity of being friendzoned. Try it and see. If a woman turns away when you are trying to kiss, it may not be because she doesn't like you, but maybe because she finds you too sexually desperate, and desperation tells a woman that's its not the best idea to submit to that kiss Like I said try it. And in most cases a woman will pull away and you'll simply take it as rejection whereas she was only trying not to be too uncomfortable and probably turned off by sensing the desperation to hurry up things. You guys don't know how to be gentle and still be masculine without being a feminine friend to her. In your mind masculinity is taught as being aggressive and getting what you want. For a lot of women, "get what you want" kind of men register as a threat physically or sexually. You people just don't understand female psychology. You need to make her feel safe, not insecure. Making her feel insecure will backfire badly if she is a healthy self assertive self assured woman. She will move away from a kiss that wasn't a part of her plan. If a woman really wanted a kiss she will give you signals and leverage. There won't be a bag sitting in between. She wouldn't make you feel unsure about a kiss. In fact she will give clear signs and you'll have absolutely no problem with kissing her unless you got problems of your own to work out. If she is not giving clear signs, don't take big risks or she will reject you forever and never want to see you again, because in her mind you came off as more aggressive than she would have liked.

The irony is that I like masculine dominant men just not sexually aggressive. Being a Masculine dominant male shouldn't give him the right to act like an asshole

In a similar way you can also ask about kiss and other stuff. Try doing it next time. Don't be hesitant. If you are not sure, ask the girl that you would want to do something. Nothing wrong. She might get excited that you're ready and interested.

I see it as a matter of consent. It's a date not a relationship.

I don't see any harm in asking. In fact I would be outraged if a guy didn't ask and directly touched/kissed I'm like - what about consent? It would feel rapey especially if it's first date.

I thought the same.

If I were a guy, I would have directly asked - do you want kiss kiss? No?

Let's just say I'm a complicated girl. No harm intended

I've made the decision that I'll only be with men who are sweet to me all the time. Only love.. Never anger. I only want sweetness flowing through me If I get angry on a date or afterward, I will simply cut off that person. My anger is good. It's like an indicator button. And thumb rule to follow - Even if there little aggression from the guy making me annoyed, immediately reject. No need to put up with male aggression. He can find some other girl. My self esteem is not his play toy. Only true love or nothing. No half heartedness.

I guess being blinded by love is different from being blindsided by love I wish I was blinded and not blindsided.

I guess I'm difficult to love And I think I make it difficult for a guy to love me (the men who love bomb me are the same men who hurt me) Lets put it that way.... I guess somehow this is a liberation. Freedom. Freedom from wanting to be wanted. Freedom from "wanting love"

I don't want common love. I want advanced love.

A guy who never stops talking. A guy who doesn't reply when you're desperately waiting for him to reply. A guy who is basically an asshole in a lighthearted way. Still asshole.

@mivafofa haha. Cute. I dumped him and he moved on and married another woman. It took him two years to get over me before he finally married. And he told me that he was marrying to forget me. I quickly moved on to my next boyfriend after dumping him.

I realized I was a pig and a dumbass one.