Preety_India

My objective was to show a balanced side. I think it's unfair to put all the blame solely on men for not being able to understand consent related issues. Sometimes it's also how women behave that can be terribly misleading and confusing. She can make it look like she wants him to kiss her and then act offended if he tried and blame him or even accuse him of molestation and make it all his fault. A man's confusion is not always a man's fault if a woman has her hand in it. A woman giving clear signs and the man still misreading it is totally the guy being aggressive. But it's not all one sided. When we're trying to hear out women, let's not sabotage a man's opinion on how he feels confused and tricked by women Maybe women can improve their behaviors as well? Are we going to pretend like women can never go wrong?

With Shiva there is a true soul connection even if there is no seduction. With the vampire there is seduction but no soul connection.

@mivafofa the women I'm talking about will never give any clear sign and even have sex with the guy just to have pleasure and then dump and act like they were never interested. Or later Blame the guy and call it rape or non consensual sex. In western circles, there is a term for it, It's called - regret sex.

Yep. He can be an angel. He can be a snake. And I'm thinking of Shiva, the true lover of all. The true human in God form. Should I fall in love with God or should I fall in love with a vampire? Who is true and who is false?

@Harlen Kelly lol. Cute. You're less Harlen Kelly and more Harley Quinn of the dating forum.

@mivafofa some women just want a guy to simp her and make the guy feel like he is being loved, I have had guy friends tell me that, it's incredibly frustrating because in the end she rejects him when she finds another boy toy and he realizes he was being played for a fool Trust me, let's not make it look like all women are saints and angels and only men are wrong each time. Sometimes women do things that can annoy men and frustrate them. But such women rarely take responsibility for their own actions and instead blame the guy because her ego can't handle that she was wrong.

@Shin you have to realize that some women are not really interested in a guy but still play along and lead him on. That kind of behavior can confuse men. Tbh that is unfair behavior coming from some types of women

@Peter Miklis thanks for the input. That's a new perspective I appreciate.

I guess understanding consent shouldn't be too hard. I'd say that a woman who is giving very confusing signs is probably not worth chasing anyway, because who knows she might charge you with nonsensical claims and frame you. Most honest women are not going to play that kind of game. It's easy to tell if she wants a kiss or not. If she doesn't want, she will politely refuse. If she is toying too much, then she is being gross and indirect. Guys acting like they don't understand consent lack in emotional intelligence and social intelligence. No decent woman will create a fuss out of it.

@Hulia hehe

I never drink so I never have to worry about this. Hehe.

Women tell men that they want nice men but women are attracted to assholes but don't admit it thus confusing men. Women are talking about 20% men. Women don't understand how few women guys sleep with. Men have to work hard to get laid Contradiction between old style fairy tale romance and modern feminism. Women think men already know their fantasies. Women don't understand how easy it's to go out and get sex although they don't act on this privilege. However women are trained to fear being considered a slut. So they don't approach men. Sex negativity Women don't understand the emotional labor that men do in relationships.

@Karmadhi they want to see fear in the eyes of victims. Sociopathic behavior. Need for power and control and seeing fear is fun for such people I guess. They relive those experiences in their minds.

Tumse bichad ke hum kahin nahin jaa sakte. I wanted to say that to Shaukat. Shaukat is so funny. He keeps me quizzing.

I remember asking myself this question in this journal. Can a man be so powerful that a woman wants nothing except his dick? I don't know the answer.

Yea.

Agree. I have the fear of rape almost daily. It has become a habit now to always look over my shoulders if I'm alone in a place or around stranger men.

If I go on a few dates with Shaukat, I would want to visit his family later. I don't like guys who hide stuff about their families.

You mean fear of rape?

That Abdul guy, his actual name is Shaukat

I've been listening to this guy. Lol. Anti feminist apparel. Lolol.

Then there is Ravi. I didn't talk to him yesterday because I was busy with work. But he is sweet and caring. Although strict. I used to always tell myself that if I fell in love with a guy he should be like a reincarnation of Shiva.

Although he is a bit short, not shorter than me, just slightly taller than me. But he is kinda quirky and clever. Hehe.. He always makes me laugh in the middle of a conversation I almost feel giddy as a silly girl at the end of our conversations.

These days I'm a bit happier than usual I think the secret is this guy I came across recently who talks to me whenever I'm free. He is too cute and very flirty I like talking to him. He is very sharp. I don't have to explain him much and he can almost read my mind. Someday I want to meet him.

And I remember saying how he would look at me like an angel sometimes and sometimes like a vicious snake.