Preety_India

I also admire Guts in a man.. I like gutsy men.

I like dominant men but I also want him to be caring.

https://youtu.be/7nUb8gjyrVk https://youtu.be/2YvHtGqAws0

I have to graduate through levels in this.

Pagal mat ban

I (you) have to be with someone who is faithful and who accepts you for who you are.

Going to add some notes.

I love this song. Makes me happy

I'm extremely inquisitive

So so so true. Absolutely.

Asking to see what others think about it.

Who?

@Vzdoh like I want to have sex with a guy who is truly in love with me and I'm in love with him. Not like a casual fling. Solid love worthy of long term relationship. Only that kind of sex sounds exciting to me.

My sex with my past long term bfs was really good because I was always sufficiently emotionally stimulated. I love foreplay and ex boyfriends used to do that. I think with casual sex I won't have the same emotional stimulation I experience with long term relationships. And so the sex would rather be dry or almost dead. Like I won't even want it. You're right that I'm a bit Blue when it comes to sex but sometimes I wonder if wanting a deep emotional connection in sexual context is rather Stage Green. Haha I mean Spiral Dynamics doesn't matter to me much at least when it comes to sex. My views on sex are pretty stubborn and haven't changed for years. I have always been like this when it comes to the subject of sex Even when I was 15, I found the idea of casual sex meaningless and tasteless. And today also it remains the same

Yea. I see them as two separate things. There can be sex which is inclusive of long term relationship or there can be sex which is devoid of such a relationship or connection. I consider sex to be a holy act that should only happen between two lovers who are meant to be for each other. When it's outside such a sacred love, I see it as pleasure seeking and hedonistic When sex is between two honest lovers/soulmates I see it as pure and sacred and beautiful and meaningful. Without the context of a beautiful romantic relationship, I find it cheap, dirty shallow, characterless and ugly. I see romance as spiritual and not pleasure seeking And sex should only happen when there is romance, that means falling in love because in my mind falling in love is the most innocent pure divine act. So sex that happens without romance /falling in love is cheap and animalistic and I don't see anything sacred in it because it didn't happen between two genuine lovers

@bejapuskas how to detect manipulative traits?

OK I changed the title. I don't know what to call it exactly. I thought it was called shit tests. So I changed it to screening tests. I don't know if it's called screening tests. But I thought the responses would have probably helped you understand what I had been trying to say. Anyway too much confusion and misunderstanding over terms and I apologize.

That would be douchey. I didn't mean it like that

I don't think these are silly tests. Like the above user stated a point ". If they act overly dominant or assertive- Can be a problem. Confidence yes, overly domininant no." Yes he got a point. If the date is acting overly dominant then that should be a red flag. No? I'm simply asking people to give me pointers on what I should be watching out for when I'm on a date. Certain things I already know and I wanted more clues that people are helping me with on here I absolutely see nothing sneaky about getting to know a date better with potential help from people about clues and pointers. Maybe their experience and examples can help me look out for red flags that I might not be aware of?

Where did I mention that the tests were sneaky? Where? Just show me? I asked for clear examples. Clear examples can be direct questions or simply observing someone's behavior during a date or seeing how they answer a question and what can be implied about it? You think that that is sociopathy then maybe check the definition of sociopath?

Some great suggestions. Definitely noting.