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How to know if a guy truly loves you and wants you for the right reasons?

@Leo Gura how should I know that the guy is genuinely loving me and wants me and not playing me for sex ? I didn't feel like he was playing me. But how should I know that he truly and sincerely loves me ? What should he do apart from emotional containment ?

You mean his behaviour is a huge red flag? Isn't a guy supposed to give emotional containment ? I'm totally confused. He is very nice to me

He wasn't being a dick Stop acting like everyone has to be overly sensitive and politically correct and cannot say what they want to Just demonizing people for simply having opinions. He didn't say anything so harsh or awful There are people who say worse things passive aggressively.

Totally agree with you. Annoys the hell out of me.

Great advice.

@Michael569 your advice is always the best to me Thank you so much for the time you take out for me. You also explain me things lovingly without judgement.

You are right. I need to be mindful I shoudnt be too desperate for him although he is a really really good guy.

@Zeroguy I'm not your dear. Yes I meditate. Now ?

I swear he literally finds a fault in EVERYTHING . I have never seen someone being so awfully pessimistic about everything a woman says. I have never come across a person who vilifies another so vehemently. He keeps insulting me on every thread , literally every opportunity he finds , he uses it to attack me ruthlessly. I don't even think this guy is real. It's like whatever projections he has about me speaks more about him rather than me

By telling me things that are completely opposite of what I feel ? I don't think it's called helping. More like imposing

Thank you so much You understand me so well. These guys are hell bent on proving that I'm manipulative when all I'm doing is just wanting to make my guy happy

I like that guy a lot. I'm not sure what will happen. Till now, he has given me positive signs and he has shown tremendous interest in me. So I don't want to lose him. I felt extremely insecure that I might drive him away with my behavior. But he is a bit understanding . So I'm excited. He doesn't get offended by my childishness. He seems to take it jokingly. He acts very matured and he has been a high achiever his Life. He has his shit together and I'm kinda proud of him for that. I don't have my shit together so I feel a bit nervous and insecure while talking to him. So far he never offended me even once. I never met a guy this good So I don't want to blow up my chance of being with him. I got hyper excited and emotional with him. And I hope he doesn't take it the wrong way.

I didn't get you. I think bottling up my feelings about that guy would have hurt me more. It's like a time bomb sitting inside. I felt telling it the way I felt it was more healing and liberating rather than hurting. Although I admit it might have appeared childish. But then who cares really. Being my true self matters more to me than presenting myself in a socially suitable way. I just fear that the guy might have thought I'm being stupid. I don't wish to sound I'm stupid. I want him to know that I felt a deep trust and commitment to him and I hope he takes it that way. On the flipside I'm glad that he took it in a mocking way and did not cut me out But I probably need to be careful not to scare him away like Leo said.

No idea

I get it. But I didn't want to hide my feelings.

@Zeroguy I don't want to argue with you.

@Zeroguy zero please. @Hulia please tell him.

Stop derailing my thread both of you.

Ahh I see. That used to happen with my ex. He used to mock me but in a bullying kind of way. That's why he is an ex. I hate when guys do that passive aggressive shit I can relate to how you felt.

Maybe he is just being playful !

I don't even feel like posting on the forum because of the above user MatteO22 Always painting a negative picture of me. Dragging me down with destructive criticism.

This guy is always misrepresenting me on the forum. Always takes me out of context and puts a negative spin on whatever I do

Yes my emotions were intense,also because he was having an emotional moment. So I poured down on him. I didn't want to say things that intense but holding back how I felt would have been a disservice to myself.

Noted.