Preety_India

This journal is about relaxation

. I think men should be given space to open up about their wounds. Do you think it's justifiable for men to go through challenges and tragic situations in life ? Or does it cause more harm than good to men ?

He is so emotionally invested in me and that's the best part.. He talks about me whenever we talk. I feel so much safer with him He complements me really well. He makes fun of me when we talk, but in a way where we both laugh at the joke. He knows how to tickle my bone haha. I can listen to his voice for hours. Literally.. He is that lovely. His voice melts me.

I wish I was sleeping in his arms right now. That would be the loveliest feeling in the world. Just feeling his touch on my cheeks. His fingers.. His fingers in my hair. He was a great friend in school. And I'm glad he found me again . My life with him is beautiful Beautiful is the only word that comes to my mind when I think about him. Him placing his hand on my shoulders. I can imagine him smiling. I can see him in the depth of my eyes. He is so in love with me He talked to my mom yesterday. So cute My mom spoke nicely to him.

Whenever I'm down, he makes my day. He is a true friend and a little more. I feel like we're soulmates. When I want to look at him, I want to look straight into his eyes. His eyes are beautiful. I'm very happy and all I want is him.

Thanks.

You're asking for benefit of the doubt from people for whom"giving benefit of the doubt to strangers" is what landed them in a bad situation in the first place.

Well obviously they will jump to conclusions based on past experiences if the new experience is not opening the chance to trust. Human memory relies on past situations and experiences to ensure survival.. That's how decisions are made for survival. If you haven't proved that you are different from others and you're trustworthy then human mind will rely on past experiences to come to a conclusion. If every stranger who I allowed in my house turned out to be a thief, then I will be less likely to allow the next stranger into my house unless he proves my memory wrong by acting in manner that is trustworthy. The onus of creating trust lies on him, not the experiencer.

Problem is that you don't know that if you haven't tried creating trust in the first place.

You're only saying words. You didn't mention even action that suggests that you tried to establish trust. How can a person see if you didn't do anything? Why will they try to earn your trust if you didn't do anything to win their trust in the first place ? A person will try to win your favor only if you present yourself as trustworthy to them. It's almost like saying "why didn't the boss hire me even if I didn't attend the interview ?" You can only claim their fault if you did everything in your capacity. But you never mention how you made yourself look trustworthy or how you made the other party feel safe. If I went to an employer and never showed my skills,why will the employer hire me ? I'm approaching with a proposition or offer, it's my job to prove that my offer is valid. You're approaching women. So it's your job to prove that your offer is safe..if you failed at proving trust and safety, not their fault.

Creating and establishing trust is not mind control. It's an important facet of building human relationships. This even applies to a job. If you're hired and if you fail to create trust,the employer will fire you Almost every human contract needs trust. Even keeping an animal as a pet needs you to create trust in that animal. That's the most basic human requirement without which no human being/animal would want a relationship with you. Will you blindly trust people yourself? I don't think so

But what effort have you put in to make them think positive about you ? If you didn't put any effort, how and why will they trust you ? It seems that you've already made your decision to not want to put effort in establishing any trust and then you take their reaction as a means to justify your inaction.

How do you know this for sure when you never committed to them ? Also how do you commit to their well-being if their concerns are not your problem?

Do you think that their personal experiences might have something to do with their generalized perceptions ?

What did you do that could have been construed as inappropriate? What's the context?

What bullshit ? Explain ?

A backstabber is like a frenemy.

These are the 2 kinds of people I need to avoid in my personal life.

One is to know who is a real friend and who is a backstabber ? A hypocrite. And the second is to stay away from narcissists who are so sweet only to be deceptive.

He has always been encouraging and respectful. Yesterday I talked to him and I cried. Because after a long time I found someone who could truly understand me. His protective side always brings out the best in me. I felt like I wanted to hold his hand but we were so far away from each other He kinda understands my delicate feelings. I cried so much yesterday All my deepest pain and feelings were pouring out

If you keep your mind and heart open to what you want, you automatically attract what you really need. The above statement is probably the most important insight I had. I think that's what led me to SKB in all of my soul searching effort. Maybe my heart always WANTED someone like him.. I can imagine him sitting with me, holding my hand and talking to me. The sweetest things in the world. He is like a sweetheart. He makes me laugh. Haha I never thought about it. All these unfiltered emotions about him I was very nervous during our first conversation But he handled it like a gentleman. He put me to ease instantly. He made me laugh so hard that I forgot all my nervousness He brought such a big bright smile on my face. I remember that. He has such a maternal way of approaching things and I need that. His maternal love. I sometimes feel like he is the best thing that happened. He can talk to me about literally anything. And I won't be tired.. We both laugh at the same time. That's the cutest part.

I have such deep emotions for him. I'm so proud of him. He resonates with me Emotionally. It's almost like he understands my soul. I don't know. There is this whole tsunami of emotions I feel whenever I talk to him He is an Aries, he told me. Not that it matters whatever zodiac sign he is , Aries actually doesn't fall in the compatibility chart But that's ok My first boyfriend was Aries. We didn't get along although we called each other our soulmates. He wouldn't talk much to me but deep down he did understand me. But his extraversion was being a bit heavy on my introverted soul... I didn't or couldn't be as social as he was and I suffered social anxiety so it was hard for me to keep up. But he had a gentle heart. I think Aries is a gentle giant, I don't know.

One day I'll be so far away from things that I never deserved. I always think of SKB during such Times. He is such a brave guy and he is always there. He is a fantastic person.

Anyway just carry on. Nothing to do Focus on the list.

The forum almost felt like it was dead for a minute.