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Hey thanks for the info

Yes I agree that educating women about potential dangers can help them be more serious and careful and avoid potential situations and be vigilant. But realize this what I'm saying next and think very carefully about it. I'm born in a stage Blue culture. I'm regularly bombarded with messages from mothers and girls like "don't be close to boys" and "don't be friends with men"and "don't be alone around men " This has created a strong environment of fear around men to the point where men just can't date women Any behaviour from a man, even if it is with good intentions is misconstrued as bad. It creates alienation between gender like a cold war between the gender. In India it is very difficult to date a woman , even befriend her, Because she will look at every guy suspiciously, you can never invite her over a drink , the women act reserved and develop some sort of an aversion to men out of fear.. Everything a man does is looked at suspiciously, obviously because every girl is trained by her mother to avoid a man as much as possible. The only man she will know is her husband who is decided by her parents. You can't even meet a girl on an indian dating website. Do you want to create such a wall between gender in western countries ? Do you want women to constantly fear men ? Fearing men in my country has definitely reduced sexual assaults in my country because I never go out with a man, I'm very reserved around men in real life. I only talk to them but I'm hardly ever in their presence. This creates a culture that screams "men are predators" and "live in fear of men or get sexually assaulted " Do you want this culture? Do you want all men to be tainted by the predatory actions of a few men ?? There are so many good men. Why should they suffer ? They want to adore and respect women and they can't do that because no woman can trust them.. This kind of culture destroys gender relations completely. Leaving both men and women very dissatisfied. In my culture, women are shamed and blamed if they are raped..it's her fault that she is trusted that guy. The guy never learns the consequences of his behaviour and the girl forever avoids men All girls get the message "avoid men" It achieves low crime rate but at a huge cost to normal relationships in society If you lived in a stage Blue culture, where no woman wants to have a drink with you, you would feel very strange and isolated and outcast as a man. You would even start thinking that you are like a predator when you don't harbour those instincts.. you're automatically supposed to assume that you have beastly instincts even if you are innocent. I don't think you want that ?

" I don't want to talk to anyone" just say that to yourself a million times.

I had a bad dream. In that dream, there's a guy. He is somehow supposed to represent me. He is happy and he seems to be enjoying his life. Then enters a seductive woman who is probably older than this guy. This woman tries hard to seduce the guy. But he is not attracted to her. She calls him a bad person. The guy doesn't take her hate seriously.

Islam in Hindi is much more understandable. Thank God for pakistan lol.

There are two languages that I absolutely love in Islam One is Hindi and the other is Urdu. Hindi is my own language and Urdu is not my language but it's similar to Hindi and I like it. Also some verses in Arabic and I try to learn Arabic as much as possible.

Islam is miraculously healing my inner wounds. Today I fell asleep while listening a bayaan. And the bayaan still kept repeating in my head while asleep. Dil ka sukoon

@integral A distinct difference. I didn't say a person is already a predator. Read very carefully. I said - "predatory behaviour is predatory behaviour." Which means If someone is engaging in predatory behaviour in a moment, they are well aware that they are engaging in predatory behaviour and they need to stop themselves from it and this is their own moral responsibility and this is their own culpability.

I will offer 3 words to describe Islam. One is khoobsurat And the other is Pakeezah And the third is मुसर्रत or musarat

Islam is like a Beautiful poem that fills your heart. Truly fascinating. It feels like a protective authority and not a punishing authority. More like a loving authority. It truly fulfills your inner child. It fulfills your very basic spiritual need. It's been doing wonders to my soul...in the past few days. Oh why I didn't come to Islam sooner !!!!

Right now I have tears in my eyes. I'm so overwhelmed with deep bliss and liberation. Islam feels like liberation

So I'll be listening to a lot of Islamic Satsangs or Bayaans from now on

Islam is definitely BRINGING a lot of difference in my character and personality. Big time. Not saying that Hinduism is not effective. But Islam has a different Outlook than Hinduism that is very aligned to my heart Hinduism is also good, but in its own ways Islam will always be special

Hindu satsangs have helped me a little bit, not too much. But Islamic satsang has made me very emotional They call it bayaan I have been listening to some Islamic Deens and Bayaans and they are really very helpful. These Bayaans calm me and purify my spirit. It's really beautiful I'm glad I took Islam. It has radically changed my life in the past few days and I'm Emotional. I just can't believe this

I feel a natural calling to pray to Allah

I will definitely pray to Allah everyday.

Predatory behaviour is predatory behaviour. You can't expect a victim to know beforehand if a person is going to be predatory The logic that a woman should know better is absurd and keeps men in an infantile state with lack of responsibility. It's akin to saying that I will befriend you and enter your house and then rob your house and then ask you why you didn't know better Remember that you can always tell someone to be aware of strangers and not accept a ride with them. But once a woman is your friend, she has trusted you, the trust while being friends with someone is implicit and is completely normal and moral. Now it's the moral responsibility of the man to keep this trust It's unethical that a woman trusts you after you have befriended her by winning her trust and then you seize an opportunity to break her trust That's immoral and the women cannot have any culpability in it You cannot Create trust in a person and steal their money and then blame them for trusting you It is your moral responsibility to keep trust once it has been created. And if you can't keep someone's trust, then do not befriend at all. Be honest and tell them already of your predatory instincts so they are safe and they leave you In being honest lies your sincerity. You can't be insincere and blame innocent people for the suffering generated out of your insincerity. That's not the law of ethics.

I can't get enough of him

I love my Aries bf/date. He is the coolest guy Charmer Hehe. He is super protective of me. I love talking to him.

I'm trying.

An explanation might be required here ?

I had sexual dreams I don't know how it felt

I don't know.

@Zeroguy I won't meet him right away. Also I won't have sex right away. I got some rules.

Faith trust and friendship, loyalty are the most important.