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I like this old song. Watching it for the first time. It's really old. I kinda laugh watching it but it's done brilliant. https://youtu.be/Qp6u5eDxI1c

If I had to start an artist production of actors I would name it United Artists where all kinds of artists would be under one roof On one hand it's nice to be a nerd who learns math, science, literature, medicine and important fields that contribute to humanity but on the other hand it's nice to have an entertainment drama/romance studio around town to add some glamor and spice to life. Life is so dull and boring without movies. For me it's increasingly unbearable watching New Indian movies that just don't attract me at all. The fight scenes, the overt animation, the lack of acting talent, the dull plot , low budget, absolutely pathetic scripts, zero art kinda makes me hate hate hate New Bollywood. I don't like the new crop of actors because they lack so much in acting. And whenever I pull out my mom's old stock of movies, I'm more excited to watch what my parents and perhaps grandparents used to watch and enjoy . I love the glamour of vintage Bollywood, the opulent style and art because I'm such a big fan of art and fantasy and the films being made now are simply no match to the grandeur of vintage Bollywood. .today stuff sucks . I wish they could revive and bring old studios back. There was such beautiful romantic imagery in vintage movies.

Beautiful interview of an old actress. https://youtu.be/2-iQPpeX7nA

Some songs when I imagine a studio

@captainamerica yeah. True

So I found this to be the best statement to use when it comes to rejecting men politely. "Sorry, I just have very specific criteria for what I want in a partner, which is probably why I'm still single, but you just don't fit those criteria, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, it just means you're not my type, and I would really appreciate if you could respect that and just keep being friends".

I have problems with rejecting men, so this statement is really a great choice without feeling like I'm offending men Thanks for sharing

Not sure what you mean

Lucas-fgm Member 173 posts Posted 12 minutes ago · 19 minutes ago, Gianna said: What's wrong with you guys?! There's so much to be learned from women.. as friends. You'll get the inside scoop. I rather learn from some girlfriend. Being friends with an attractive woman will only bring me headaches. And have so much stuff to do in life. I really don't have time to pretend to be friends with a girl while what I really want is fuck her.

Iksander Member 91 posts Posted 8 minutes ago (edited) · @Gianna No we won't get the inside scoop. At least not the one we want (haha) What we will get is a load of crap like 'just tell her how you feel' or words that make us 'feel good' Girls are nice. Simply from reading this thread I can see you are a nice girl. BUT you would give me awful advice on how to attract women. Partly because so many women don't even know what they want, they just know when something FEELS good, they like it. The best phrase is 'If you want to catch a fish, don't ask a fish how to catch it. Ask a fisherman' Edited 7 minutes ago by Iksander

Lucas-fgm Lucas-fgm Member 172 posts Posted 2 minutes ago · 9 minutes ago, Gianna said: What's wrong with you guys?! There's so much to be learned from women.. as friends. You'll get the inside scoop. I rather learn from some girlfriend. Being friends with an attractive woman will only bring me headaches. And have so much stuff to do in life. I really don't have time to pretend to be friends with a girl while what I really want is fuck her.

Lot of interesting responses here from the guys. I think I'm getting pen and paper. Lot to learn here.

This is a good description of how men are with other men. It says a lot about male psychology. minutes ago, Iksander said: @Gianna We have to be transactional with other men at first. We need to understand what each of us brings to the table. For example If I choose to go to the club with a guy that's creepy around girls, It will fuck up my night. If I choose to be friends with a guy that let's other people push him around it will put me in awkward situations where I have to keep defending him like he's my girlfriend. No thankyou. If he can't defend himself if we get into a dangerous situation then I am at a disadvantage. If he has emotionally issues I may get dragged into drama that I don't want to be part of. The list goes on

This is some good reasoning Helps me understand men a bit better.

I liked this answer. No, we are. We size each other up all the time, and to a greater degree than we do with women. How fun is he to be around Can he physically defend himself Is he cool around women Does he have good social skill Does he present himself well Is he smart ect. I could go on all day.

Learning a few bits here and there.

Yes agreed. I was just trying to tease because you compiled like a nice list of questions

Do you think an attractive guy would be okay watching his attractive girl "friend" hugging her boyfriend ? I don't think so. I'm sure some part of him is going to be jealous thinking the boyfriend is lucky Am I wrong?

Let's see how much I really understand men and how much I pretend to.

Yea yea. Are you guys a little generous with women or you walk around women with checklists ? Just trying to understand male brain ya know .....

Men are not very transactional with other men. For some unknown ungodly reason, men are very transactional with women. So they have a deal going in their mind when they see a woman So a man who is kinda flirty and friends with you will ask himself ,"wait a minute, she is my friend, I'm also giving her my masculine energy, but what am I getting in return, NO SEX ?? Hmm, this doesn't look like a good deal. I'm not going to be a donkey. What am I gaining here by giving this woman what she wants. " They kinda feel they are being stupid and "fooled" if they are not getting sex in this transaction. It's a loss and a waste of time for them and also they feel they are being fooled.. they might even think that the woman is being selfish by asking masculine energy but not giving sex in return. They can't say yes to this deal. Also men feel a bit cucked if they are being a nice friend to a good looking woman. Because it means facing the prospect that she will date another guy in the future. This hurts their pride and self esteem. Because they have to watch you describe your boyfriend to them and you'll be praising your boyfriend, it will make them jealous, they are being friends with a girl who they will not have yet they will know she is sleeping with her boyfriend so they feel a bit defeated or cucked, because it means the boyfriend is a better man. A woman will also act in similar fashion. She will not be friends with a very hot man because she wants him as a boyfriend. Now if he is asking her to be a friend, it's like an insult, and on top of that she will see him hugging his girlfriend and she might feel insecure, jealous or feel like she has been out competed by the man's girlfriend..this can hurt her ego as she had set her eyes on this guy. So she won't want to be friends with him. With the opposite sex there is a problem of rivalry or competition. They don't want to feel like someone got the pie out of their hands. They don't want to see their friend with the friend's lover because it gives a feeling of "cucked.".

@Gianna A guy(generally flirty guy ) will never be your friend because since you look good, he will always want to fuck you But sometimes some girly Kind of men who are a bit feminine and usually hang out with girls in groups, those type of guys can easily become your friend. Because they are sexually safe, you know what I mean, they will not harass you for sex. You have to focus on the type of guy you are talking to. Most guys who approach with a flirty liner like "you look amazing" or " I like so and so about you." That's already an indication that the guy is trying to get near you sexually/romantically. So you'll need to kinda straight up reject by not being afraid to be rude. He will get it and he will walk away. Now the guys who are friend material, they will not walk away and if you show them that you want to be friends then they will keep that friendship and not pressure you anymore. Now coming to the question of masculine energy I also wanted tons and tons of masculine energy. But I got it from ex boyfriends and current dates aka romantic guys Because you won't find masculine energy in a guy who is your friend because he will give you feminine energy.. .since only feminine guys want to be truly friends with a girl. A masculine guy who is being a nice friend to you either already has a girlfriend/married or is hiding the fact that he got feelings for you and kinda fooling you. Most guys who hang out with girls are feminine guys and they will not give masculine energy. It's extremely rare to get a guy who doesn't feel sexual but is also loading you with masculine energy. A man's masculine energy is ignited when he develops passion for a woman, that's when he is ready to give it to her, otherwise his energy remains stagnant and passive. For masculine energy you'll need a boyfriend or a date or a casual guy that you hang out with and sometimes have sex/intimacy with. It's hard for men to sit with a pretty girl, be a nice friend to her and also keep controlling themselves all the time, it's like a punishment for them to keep holding their feelings and instincts inside and keep acting like they aren't sexual, that would be unnecessary pretense and that's why guys don't invest their time in that kind of a thing For most men a woman is either a stranger or a "interest girl."

Oops I had been thinking you had ghosted (oof I mean ignored) me. My bad

Most guys don't want to be friends because they want pussy You can't expect them to want to be friends because they don't operate on the same frequency. Plus they have their own bunch of guy friends who they hang out with. So they don't feel they need a woman to fulfill the friend side. However they are lusting for sex because that's a part they don't get easily so if they are interested in a girl then their first thought is not friendship but romance They want their romantic side fulfilled and they need a nearby chick to do that job for them. Else they don't have much to get out of her that they won't get in other ways with their guy friends