Preety_India

Long time since I wanted to write about this. Dying to journal about this topic but just didn't find time.

@dflores321 that really didn't answer much. It's hard to tell if someone is genuine or just needy.. A list of signs would have been better however the list is not a guarantee for a great relationship. But it's good to know a thing or two about separating wheat from chaff.

@FlyingLotus @Byun Sean thank you for helping me out. @FlyingLotus deeply appreciate.

@FlyingLotus can you add something here ?

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This is the most important thing.

Hmmm. I disagree. I don't think they're rare. I think pointing out this is important for awareness. Some men can drop their beliefs after its pointed out to them. At least it gives them opportunity to reflect and listen to what women think about it. It's important to target this mentality. And please don't think that only incels who believe this. Men with wife and kids also think this way and sometimes force their wives. These guys could even be described as Chads (and Tyrones.) Women doing this is extremely rare. Look at rape statistics. Do I need to say more? I mean you don't need to stop being friends with someone just because of differences. However your friend is wrong and that mentality he has/had ends up hurting women. I hope he changes that.

Lol Leo..what's so wrong about wanting to move in with her boy. That's what a woman naturally wants. Smh. Facepalm. @Vzdoh I'm sorry you're facing all these unnecessary attacks from users here making bullshit assumptions about you. I know how you feel super excited to be with a guy who you love. There's absolutely nothing clingy about it.

@Preety_India @Harlen Kelly ok I sent you the screenshot.

Ok, wait a minute I'll send you the screenshot. But I'm not sure if I'm allowed to talk about it publically on the forum. But I'm sending you the screenshot.

You took it the wrong way. What I meant was I'm entitled to my choice in a what sort of man I want. It's my choice who I want to have a relationship with. That's what I'm entitled to. I didn't mean to say a man owes me affection.. I don't know how to word it

It was deleted. Also it is against forum guidelines to tag someone directly. I'll need permission from mods.

Yea yea. A woman is selfish just because she has a choice ? Our choices are not selfishness. Nice way of demonizing a woman's natural wishes and desires. Why am I supposed to compromise on my desires ? If I'm entitled to affection from a man of my choice, that's me being selfish ? Explain me please this twisted logic. Don't call it Selfish.

Have you ever come across incel-kind comments ? No ? You mean to tell me that men never act like women owe sex to them. A couple of days back a guy made a thread here telling how he is going to punish a girl for not accepting him. You don't read all that or do you simply turn a blind eye to such statements ?

You're loved. No matter whatever you're going through in your life and no matter how tough it might be, you will always find the inner power to overcome it and I hope you come out of your grief fully and heal and recover completely. I know what it means to deal with grief, had my own share of it many many times, but time is a great healer, no matter how cliche it sounds, you'll definitely heal with enough love, space and room, whenever you go through this kind of grief, remember how love can lift you out if it and make your life beautiful again. I hope you heal faster and quicker. Cheers.

In that sense stage Orange is a bit Sexy. It has a rough side to it which is sexy.

For some reason Stage Orange is the hardest for me I feel very comfy at Stage Green and I've easily assimilated a lot of Stage Green values into my life. I love embodying Stage Green. In fact Stage Green is my damn favourite. However Stage Orange is always sticking up like a thorn. I need to slowly soak in stage Orange little by little.

One thing I've understood is that stage Orange is a lot about self preservation which can be really important to a woman like me.

This is probably the most important thing to do.

Trailblazer motivation is what I'll call it.

Will add notes later.

I suffered Narcissistic Abuse for the following durations With my mom for 10 years of childhood, rigorous. With my second ex Bud for 1 full year With my ex boyfriend Joseph for a period of 3 years. The longer the duration of Narcissistic Abuse, the harder it gets to move through recovery.

3 ,ways from personal experience of dealing with these trouble makers Reject and abandon a narcissist Ignore the narcissist. Ignore them constantly and ignore them a lot....The moment you give them attention, that's their narcissistic supply. Act like you Never care about them. Don't give them a reaction. Be stone faced. They are always looking for a reaction to see how influence they still have on you. Show power Never show your weaknesses to a narcissist Defeat a narcissist. Never befriend them or seek their validation Give them a sense of rejection Do not accept what they say

So I went through separate Narcissistic Abuse patterns in my life. First pattern was overt Narcissistic Abuse with my mother when I was a kid Second pattern was covert Narcissistic Abuse with my second ex Mr Bud Third pattern was Overt Narcissistic Abuse with my ex boyfriend Joseph that mirrored my mom's behaviour.