Preety_India

Stay away from negativity. Approach hard stuff beautifully.

You are not doing anything evil. You're simply being extremely Selfish to the point of hurting others and frustrated that your selfish goals aren't being fulfilled. Nothing wrong with being selfish in general. But it's wrong in your case because it's hurting others.

It's hilarious how you keep doing this. You didn't do anything big or extremely hurtful. But you like to boast. If you had really done something very big then you would have immediately told everyone out of guilt or anxiousness. The thing that you don't share it tells me that you didn't do anything very awful. However ... Whatever you did, even if it's minor and yet bad/hurtful then simply don't do it Understand that this whatever you're doing is not because of the girl's reaction to you or your gestures but the product of your own insecurities. I have contemplated a lot on your issues. The conclusion I'm coming at is this- You focus too much on others and how they react to you and what they do to you. You project an awful lot on what the other person is doing even when they're doing very minor.. But you make huge stories out of the little things they do and hurt yourself more than necessary, more than how much the situation will actually hurt, your own stories keep hurting you and keep adding more hurtful details to the story . These details are generated from excessive projecting on the girl or many girls that you interact with. However what you fundamentally lack is the ability to look inside. You keep pointing the finger to the girl and her reaction but keep avoiding pointing the finger inside yourself Point the finger to you and look at your own mountain of insecurities. You're so awfully insecure that even if a girl looked at you the wrong way you'll go into total meltdown. You won't show it to her. But you will show that rage and resentment here You have passive anger which is worse than active anger Your rage,resentment and anger for not being accepted by a girl is showing in all of your posts This doesn't mean that you're a bad person. No you're not. You're not a bad person. But you got to work an awful lot on your insecurities and grow out of it You'll keep hurting your own feelings as long as you don't target and work on these insecurities . Those girls are not rejecting only you. You're not the only male on planet Earth. Those girls are probably rejecting a lot of men However you're making it so so personal and getting hurt and also generating revenge out of this hurt for which nobody is really Responsible. Women don't owe you Sex. You're not understanding that those women are fully within their right to reject you. Yet you feel very entitled to their body and emotions. Target your own insecurities. Work on your cognitive dissonance. Stop hurting other people to justify your needs. Stop being entitled to other's will and action. They don't have any contract with you. They are strangers. They don't owe you anything simply because they give you their number Work on yourself. Inner work Stop doing stupid things. It won't help you. You only keep dragging your insecurities the more you keep screaming about how you don't get what you want Be secure with yourself and then you won't be stressed out about rejections.

Focus on the word action

Listen to motivating music like drums

Be patient and gentle with yourself. Sweeten the deal

Keep reminding myself this word Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action Action

Looking for negativity, laziness, fear, insecurity, obstruction, sabotaging, psychological blocks, Emotional blocks, physical blocks like tiredness, overwhelming, mental blocks, mind blocks, Also look for reasons like distraction, lack of vision, lack of trajectory, lack of purpose, lack of goals, emptiness, hollowness, blank-slateness, cloudedness, brain scattering, brain fog, lack of clarity, lack of focus, tunnel vision Look up and watch videos like - Why am I not productive? - why I don't feel motivated ? - how to feel motivated - how to be action oriented and productive ? - keep repeating the word action

This is what I need to focus on.

In order to attack Islam, first at least learn what Islam is. Read about Islam. Explore Islam. People start attacking Islam even before trying to explore and understand it Islam most fundamental concept is to pray with honest and good intention.. It focuses on prayer and seeking good for everyone. This Religion gets bad rep just because people decided to cherry pick certain aspects and focus on the actions of a few people to judge a huge population of peaceful Muslims. It's a shame that people are so quick to believe stereotypes and not wanting to look past these stereotypes Islam saved me from a dark phase in life. Islam has a beauty that only a true seeker will be able to see. Islam is a beautiful religion and practiced beautifully by those who seek good intentions. This religion should not be demonized. (Happy Eid-ul-adha to Muslims)

Islam is a good religion. It's radical Islam that is the real problem. Radical Islaam is a political Fascist ideology. Islam is a peaceful loving religion.

@Eph75 thank you for those suggestions. I'll look into the site and then get back to you later

Nobody says that a partner should not be satisfied sexually. Of course that's going to happen. If you do not satisfy your female partner emotionally she will leave you as well..I'm talking about a high quality woman. So maybe it's time for you to wake up in terms of female sexuality. We are not your sex objects that you just pump and dump. Nobody is waiting to be on your rotation

She wants a man who will wait for her. Because she is waiting for a man like that too. And why should a man wait for her that long? Guess why. Because she is worth it. Don't peg her low.

Hey this was helpful. I will definitely watch the videos. Thanks for responding to my thread.

It does not mean that she is not into sex .it means that she is not into "only sex" It means She is a fully developed female who wants a wholesome experience and not a half baked one. She wants the whole package of intimacy and intelligence and emotion and not just a Dick! Was this difficult for you to understand ?

I'll note down all this in my journal if you don't mind. Thanks so much for responding..it means a lot

@electroBeam How's your life in general?

I'm actually looking for both. To me Spiritual work is part of my Stage Green work like compassion meditation, becoming a better person everyday, making progress in the spiritual direction. The thing is I devote my time to meditation and contemplation. However this does cause an offset in my Stage Orange success. It lowers my drive to chase success. But I would like a balance where I'm excelling at Stage Orange success like greater productivity in my daily life like diet, exercise , scheduling work, time Management. And also excelling at my spiritual work where I can be more motivated to meditate, contemplate and not slack on that side Because I'm mostly lost in theory with little action. I struggle with action like getting stuff done I don't even feel motivated to go to the gym I procrastinate the work that I'm given by my manager. A lot of limping and slacking and laziness. I want to do amazing spiritual work as well as Actualization work I want to have a fit body, work on myself, get shit done, be a productivity machine which is generally stage Orange stuff that I suck at a lot I want to be fully developed person and make a lot of progress in my life. I don't want to be stuck in theory all the time . I also want to see great results in my work and personality. But my motivation is too low. My engine is simply polished everyday but it isn't running. It only looks good but doesn't get the work done.

I'm so so glad you said this This was so much needed because of the prevalent notion on the forum that a Chad who sleeps a lot is considered high value.

@fopylo @Nos7algiK @roopepa @Eph75 @DocWatts @FlyingLotus @Byun Sean @Thought Art @Stomatopod @LastThursday @Chris_Esoteric @BipolarGrowth @SamC Help would be appreciated.

No I haven't been there.

But I'm not attracted to stupidity. I like intelligence.

Planning to shoot videos for my youtube channel but I don't know how to add an image to my video I like to design and decorate my videos but I don't know how to go about with it. Any suggestions, thanks.

I have noticed that I have a shadow around selfishness. I constantly denigrate myself if I catch myself doing selfish.. This causes me to not engage in self love. Because I see survival as selfish. Obviously I'm not going to argue that survival is selfish, yet this causes me to sort of abandon and guilt myself. I judge myself harshly for surviving. I judge myself harshly for being selfish.. Often I tend to leave any form of self preservation behaviour because it routinely creates feelings of guilt. Is this because I'm on a spiritual path where you have to forget the Self. No self is one thing and love is another.. I'm more into embodying Love. But the more loving I try to become, the more selfless I become thus shrinking my survival. This feels like a paradox. Like I'm walking on a tight rope between two mountains Am I supposed to balance survival and selflessness ? I'm caught between the spiritual world and the material world and I'm at a crossroads. How to approach this paradox I'm experiencing in a more conscious manner?