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@StarStruck you do you.

@StarStruck you're conflating assertiveness with Devilry. Women don't reward(first of all its not reward, it's simply what women find better to deal with it, their natural preference) Devilry, they simply prefer a more open, confident and assertive guy Do you have a shadow against assertiveness and confidence ? How do you describe a nice guy ? Why do you Jump from one extreme of nice guy to the opposite extreme of a ruthless devil? Why is it so hard to find a grey area where a man is a healthy balance of being polite as well assertive ? You might also want to look into raising boundaries. If you think you're being "nice" it could even be (I'm saying probably) a lack of boundaries that reflects as being nice. A lack of boundaries is always going to be a problem. It can easily get masked as being "nice."

Finasiska... So yesterday I was contemplating about the latest bunch of female characters I had created. Kelenjer Zozha Finasiska Kelenjer was the free spirited woman. Independent. Chill. Finasiska is a woman with great confidence, ambition and never settles for anything less. I also have a third character in mind. I call her Zozha. And she is all about beauty and nature and somewhat new agey Spirituality. I'll try to imagine how each of these women look.

@Michael569 all of this is actually tied in with empathy.

One thing every morning you really can't afford to ignore anymore is a vision board! Set up a slate or a chalkboard. Then start with small goals and proceed to big goals In between all of your interruptions ask yourself - What do really care about ? What do I deserved ? Type out answers to this everyday.

@ll Ontology ll I was talking about your gain in the post dunning Krueger with respect to your own meta awareness ? Have you contemplated that aside from people you could yourself choose to think outside your own box? Isn't that meta awareness?

Felt a bit better this morning after having tea. Can I now write something useful ? I think I'll need a notepad to go along with my journals. I'll keep a private notepad. Collect my ideas there. Then separate those ideas, classify them and then write them in my journals. I have to choose a notepad for this Also use the system, that's a good idea too. One journal won't contain any address. The other journal will. This way a system can be established, a network generated and then created. It will be all fixed. No changes in this system. Everything totally fixed.

@ll Ontology ll and what is exactly your gain ?

I won't date an Aries. It's not working for me. The signature has gone stale. I need to change that. I usually get attracted to Taurus a lot. I'm keeping my options open for Aquarius,Leo and Cancer. So far I dated Pisces, Aries and Taurus. Somehow I'm always rotating between these signs. One thing is sure I will never date a Pisces again. Since I'm a Pisces , there is zero polarity and too much fighting. My strongest polarity was with Taurus so far. Others I didn't date.

I'm on a dating site right now. And last week I got 40 matches on my profile. But the thing is that I tend to slut shame myself and then I don't even talk to them. I get this feeling that if I talk to one guy and then if I talk to another guy then it feels like I'm disrespecting the first guy. I felt confused and the guys are still waiting to talk to me. Now in the morning a few of them called me and I just felt like how can talk to so many. Also this one-itis like you talk about, where if I talk to one guy then that guy is in my head. It's difficult to put another guy in my head. I'm not trying to get emotionally attached. So what should I tell a guy if he asks me -"are you talking to other guys beside me ? " I mean you are right. I should talk to many guys and I only talk to one guy at a time. It reduces my volume significantly because I cut out all guys for one guy

@Blackhawk it's ok.

My last thread on the forum. I constantly feel self pity. I feel ashamed of myself. Ashamed that I was born. I ask myself "why was I born in this world?" I don't like myself. I feel unworthy. My mom told me since the age of 12 that she had undergone an abortion before me and that she didn't want anymore kids. During my teenage years she would frequently argue with me and tell me that I was unwanted and undesirable child. I'm in my 20s now. She used to constantly tell me how she wished I wasn't born. She used to keep repeating this almost regularly. It started to make feel empty and unwanted. I feel like I'm sick of myself. I constantly feel like my birth was a huge mistake I don't know how to get over it.. These feelings are pretty intense and cause me mental breakdowns.

Yes sir !! Self esteem lessons I need to pick from you. (Although I'm not a man but similar applies to women)

How can a person be in a relationship and not be hurt by a cheating partner? It's not an open relationship after all. Pickup is whole nother ball game..

Until the day I die, I should always keep giving.

Just thoughts.

One of my mission statements (there can be multiple mission statements) is to create valuable contributions.

you can recreate yourself. You need trust in yourself.

My mission statement - I always thought the solution to what I wanted was to work harder, or be more focused to force the external situation into place.

Speaking to the collective You have to stay in the healing. Just let it go. Are you still stuck in anxiety ? Are you totally aware in this moment ?

@lisindel I was watching this video today.

Sometimes I think life is an instrument.

This thread is useful as well. can-i-attract-a-man-on-the-same-vibration-as-i?

This thread is a good start. high-quality-woman