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@Michael569 thanks.

@Michael569 I never pretended that I'm not. Please. Read the title..it says I want to be more selfish. That means I'm already selfish but I still have problems. If I don't resonate with your perspective, fine please leave me alone. There are other people helping me. I already stated clearly that I want practical suggestions and not some spiritual lecture I don't want to engage Answers that don't help me at all. I'm here to ask for help on my issue, not listening to some unhelpful lecture

Zero that is so cute.

Yes definitely.

@dflores321 like I told you that your answer is doing me no favor.

@dflores321 i don't know. Don't be wishy washy now. You didn't offer any suggestions or tips. Just some garbled answer. I like something that will benefit You better be grateful that I'm selfishly asking what i want because I rarely ever do. So please spare me your finger.

It will take me time to explore and slowly comb through your answer and then come up with additional questions to you. By the way it's very kind of you to take so much time in answering my question in detail. I appreciate

This. Really this. This is what I'm looking for. Further demonizing of selfishness will do me no favor because I have already demonized selfishness within me. @dflores321 Yea I understand that asking any question at the end of the day will be considered selfish. But can you please look at this from another helpful perspective rather than a dogmatic one ? Maybe I'm not asking out of selfishness. Maybe I feel trapped. Maybe I'm asking out of the need for liberation. It is just survival. Yes. Survival is selfish But making it look like something wrong is further creating more shadows within me where shadows against selfishness already exist Because of these shadows I'm giving into self abandonment to the point of suicide. Do you realize how dangerous this can be ? So finger pointing at me is no favor. I want to be liberated from my chains of a trapped root chakra like the above user said. Yes there is a huge blockage in the root chakra. I'm largely focused heavily on Spirituality and the crown chakra. This has pushed me away from lower chakras and thrown me off balance. Now I'm looking back at creating this balance so I don't turn into some kind of a suicide poet. Your answer is totally useless. Sorry if that offends you but you do me no favor. Just telling you straight.

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True love is eternal.

@LastThursday actually the whole me me me is just a whole lot of need to excessively self express because of some represssion. But it gets mistaken for self centredness Self centredness is however too low. Don't know how to get greedy

More concerned with my own needs. Being opportunistic. Not abandoning myself. Being self centred and using every resource to my advantage. For example if someone asked me to play tennis with them, I want to be ruthless with my time and use that time for something that would benefit me like reading something important or health care. I want to be like Leo. He uses all his time skilfully and selfishly for himself. I somehow become too complacent. I am not too self oriented. In every situation I want to ruthlessly become opportunistic and selfish so that I can derive maximum benefit to self. I want to be able to master survival and lower needs on Maslow's hierarchy. Somehow it's not happening. I easily turn into a self abandoning hippie. I wish I was a bit more self centred so I wouldn't be acting so stupid all the time. I mean selfish self centred smart folks are doing great in their lives around me. I always tend to never pay much attention to self interests. It's like I knowingly throw away from my own interests. I don't get greedy I want to feel greedy but it just never happens..

What is man milk lol ?

Hey, can you please help me with this thread

Maybe try telling her that you would divorce her if she doesn't change her behaviour.

But aren't you German Hulia ? How is Hulia pronounced in Germany?