Preety_India

This is a good exercise.

Certain elements that I can see in the posts above are - Seeking to be more opportunistic Seeking self preservation Seeking self protection Building of the fortress.... protection in general. Seeking masculine qualities

Another question that I can add to the list is How to raise vibration to a more balanced level. Not just vibrating to attract good people. But vibrating to repel bad people by establishing boundaries. (Unfuckwithable) Vibrating to develop psychic resonance as well as vibrating to master spirituality. These are 2 different things.

Things I need to learn How to be more selfish How to be unfuckwithable...not allowing oneself to be fucked over. How to be more Machiavellian How to motivate myself better How to balance selfishness and charity / empathy How to master stage Orange and self preservation How to balance selfishness and spirituality These are some key questions Also a lot of these components discussed are very paradoxical and contradictory to each other. This explains the paradoxical nature of life.

I need to start gathering practical exercises to help myself become more selfish and then track my progress It's almost like having a manual on how to be selfish. With being selfish I also wanted to learn how to become unfuckwithable. So there are a couple of things here.

These men are acting like they are seeing female sexuality for the first time. Haven't you asked your girlfriend ever? I remember my ex boyfriend asking me if I masturbate ? And I said yes. And he looked at me surprised. What's the surprise ? Why are you having sex with your girlfriend then if she isn't enjoying it ? So you really assume that females don't masturbate and don't watch porn ? Like what ? But I have to confess it's not on the same level as men like that guy Lucas said. Men have thousand times more. I mean I can't compare my drive with my ex boyfriend. He wins there.

Yes getting there somehow. I feel so nervous.

@Spiral could be specific to that girl. But for me it's an enjoyable fetish.

The stigma/shame surrounding rape Fantasy is so unnecessary and is a way of shaming women's sexual desires. Not all women have rape fantasies but those who do are routinely uncomfortable opening up about it because a lot of men simply interpret this desire as RAPE. No it's not rape. It shouldn't be used as an excuse for justifying non consensual forceful sexual activity or rape. It's not an invite for rape. That's an awful interpretation and suppression of rape Fantasy. These women break down the whole concept of rape Fantasy so beautifully in this video. It needs a very open minded outlook. A lot of stage Blue mentality is going to be opposed to it. However it's simply sexual desire that's far too common than you think. It's just that women don't talk about it too openly because of the stigma and taboo associated with it. Rape Fantasy is a way of pleasuring the woman the way she wants it, not non consensually raping her !! I like this specific comment that sums it up.

I don't need lecture uncle Sam. I know what selflessness is. I'm working on selfishness. There is nothing wrong with trying to be more selfish.

I rarely watch porn. I don't remember watching porn in last 6 months to a year. So it's not an addiction. However there are ways other than porn. I like that stuff more than porn.

I'm so relieved that at least part of the puzzle might get solved. So one big chunk in the picture has been detected and resolved or at least on the path to resolution. This looks a jigsaw puzzle with big chunks.

Whether it's before or after, that's not the matter. You don't understand what female intimacy means. And no I didn't receive it even after sleeping.

Absolutely disagree. If you think female intimacy is related to sex, think again.

Oh wow. So you can complain 24/7 365 about your version of sex even without giving a woman her version of sex. And she shouldn't even complain?

I'll get the same treatment even if I'm nice to him. So what difference does it make. I tried being nice. If your whole agenda is only being a male and satisfying your needs as a male, without ever putting even 2 cents into understanding a woman, then don't ever expect a woman to understand your needs, she is not even obligated to especially if you're going to be selfish about being a male, haha the joke is on you. You want a woman's love without loving her in return, then you sit and sulk and wonder why women reject you and why women don't give you their time. Because you just can't love a woman but you want all the goodies from her. Sorry a woman doesn't need to keep your dick rent free in her brain. Surprise surprise!

Oh God stop pushing your male agenda onto me. I need to survive as a female. I got no time to think what you feel as a male. Oh so poor man living it up in Las Vegas. Telling me how bad it is to be a man. Go. Go tell some hapless poor woman. Enough of you.

Finally God is showing me the way.

This thread is the root cause of all my problems.

There's such a huge anti-Green bias on this forum, my goodness.

Lot of helpful pointers. Thanks for the response.

This is really helpful especially those book references.

This can be very helpful exercise.

@dflores321 please I told you that your answers aren't helping me. You're not the only one on the forum. There are other users too. Maybe their answers are helping me. If you don't like my questions, then go answer other people's questions that might gain some benefit from your answer. My question night not resonate with you. And your answer definitely doesn't resonate with me.

True. I'm facing similar things. I wish there was a manual.