Preety_India

Men find every flaw and fault as a way to deny a woman's Perspective. They simply can't admit that they play chimp games, somehow it's always the woman's fault. There is a reason why the phrase Prince Charming exists. But there is no female equivalent of that phrase. We never say Princess Charming.

Easier said than done. Most men think of a woman with a past and label her as a "whore" in their mind.

@Harlen Kelly then you haven't explored dating from a woman's perspective. You only think from the man's side. Think about groupies and how they get rejected

You aren't in the position of a woman to see how they feel when they want a man and he simply doesn't care. Because he thinks too highly of himself. You haven't felt that emotion. Try being around high ego men.

So so so so cruel, just can't win with men, even in approaching them, they have to see something bad, y'all got trust issues. When a woman says she doesn't need a man, you get pissed off, when a woman says she needs a man, you look at her with suspicion. Just can't win with men.. you don't see your own cruelty. You need to be open and loving to women rather than suspicious.

Men have an egoic social approach to life. Everything is all about showing off, a form of chimpery that makes them feel vital. They can't be blamed because Evolution trained them that way. I shouldn't deny that women are also responsible for this, but it's majorly driven by men competing with men. So when a woman, no matter how attractive, approaches a man, in his eyes she is unworthy, loose character, "easy girl," "not a prize," these are all the terms running through his head and he doesn't see her as valuable because she does not puff his ego, he didn't get anything from her, she already surrendered to him, without him having to chase. (In this regard, men are fucked seriously and eternally and royally, only if men learned to say yes and if evolution wasn't driving them nuts ) men are so eternally damned that they might even want to stalk a woman they like to no end yet when an equally attractive woman makes a move, they develop cold feet, in essence men dig their own graves and create their own misery. Men can be very cruel in this regard. Men act like women reject so much and are so hurt, but the same men will reject a lot of women if these men were approached by women. Men think of such women as "bimbos" and downgrade them and even if she is hot, she is still a "hot bimbo" in their eyes so for them "a bimbo is still a bimbo" in short men denigrate and shame women who approach them. When I approached a few guys, a few responses I got were along the lines of "you're attractive......but, I don't like being approached." Men like to chase, this chase is fueled by testosterone. They want a woman who is seen as a prize, who doesn't give a fuck about men, who is being chased by several men, because conquering her is like winning a prize. Whereas an approaching woman is basically zero conquest. That's why women play hard to get, because that way they're valued more by men. The only man who ever says "yes" to a woman approaching him is a man with zero options. Or a very submissive man or too horny.

Men don't like being approached. They reject. No matter how hot the woman.

Look for these Secure ....no insecurities Stable ...stable behaviour...no flipflopping High EQ...is visible in communication Responsible No Narcissism No primitive behaviours Stable, friendly , mature, humble, respectful, high EQ. Also authentic.

Reassurances Next look for small signals like change in hairstyles, how do they pose in pictures Look at the level of detachment Look at how strong the friendship is They shouldn't talk about another person Eagerness to put effort in trying to build the relationship Have they spoken to society or parents Are they investing financially? What is their level of investment ? What have they done to establish commitment ? Have they not invested even a dime in you ? Are they Emotionally supportive ? He should never complain but instead of complaining he should compromise because that's what you are doing as well . biggest green flag

One question to ask is What is making me do this ?

Reassurances Next look for small signals like change in hairstyles, how do they pose in pictures Look at the level of detachment Look at how strong the friendship is They shouldn't talk about another person Eagerness to put effort in trying to build the relationship Have they spoken to society or parents Are they investing financially? What is their level of investment ? What have they done to establish commitment ? Have they not invested even a dime in you ? Are they Emotionally supportive ? He should never complain but instead of complaining he should compromise because that's what you are doing as well . biggest green flag

This is so gross.

@Leo Gura I might get vaccinated in few weeks but still needle fear

Yep..although they pretend to be highly developed like social gatekeeper or something. I still find all sorts of competition between men as a form of chimpery. Although it can be backed by evolutionary theory of mating. Still, chimpery is chimpery. Yep testosterone is definitely a big culprit. Yea. They actually don't do the real thing.i mean they will back off like hyenas when a real situation arises. Haha. Hahahaha.. My ex boyfriend was into boxing , a boxing champion in school and he used to do that in pubs. Just giving that look that he is going to kill someone. I used to chill him down.. Yep.. it's all about narcissism and insecurities. Yep. So true.. I personally don't like it. If two men were fighting for my attention, I would drop them both, because they're both immature and insecure in my eyes.. plus I find it cheap and shallow when a woman enjoys that.

Whatever you do, you do it for God.. That's how it works in God's House. Leaning into Bhakti. Bhakti is such a beautiful word.

Be love yourself. Yet ladies need to be "bewared."

Don't focus on receiving love. Don't focus on giving love. Focus on cultivating love. Be love yourself.

In this house it's all about cultivating love. Cultivating love is distinctly different from giving and receiving love.

That's why I invented the God's house journal. In that journal I'll focus on keeping love thst i

Today I did not masturbate. Success for today. . tomorrow let's see Good control.

I need some rest. This forum has been making me too horny. Lately many posts. It's not the women here because they are few. No las generated by ko But some of the threads which are in the dating section. The way it's writte I think o djoylf hey getb rest

Make it like a process Starting point-this is where you enter the house. Make goals. Motivate. Prepare yourself mentally. Increase focus. Process point - this is where you start doing the work and getting done. Exit point - now you can choose to have fun or deep rest or use this time for self reflection as to "what went wrong this whole time?" Or ",what I can do to improve current situation/current progress?"

One thing that is lacking in me is the holding of love or the keeping of Love.

Winderbeetle One problem that I constantly suffer is that my mind goes blank for long periods of time. Some of the solutions to this problem my-mind-goes-blank Cut down drama Don't engage in drama Increase self focus Have something that reminds of what you need to do. Maintain a sequence or continuum. Focus on action Self reflect a lot Go inward instead of going external Cut down distractions Develop laser focus Be very clear about what you want Develop motivation Constantly think about what you should be doing for the next moment Value yourself and value your time Have a vision board- smaller and bigger goals Work on "self abandonment" issues. Develop healthy stage Orange mentality Ignore superficial emotions Ignore hurt/pain because it stops you from getting job done Note down obstacles (challenges) and obstructions( sabotaging factors, distraction etc ) I liked this response from the thread "For mindfulness iit helps to have something that catches your interest and get the wheels turning in the brain. A poetry book for example, or listening to an audio of your poems etc. like this.. " I have to direct my awareness and attention to something that will get "my wheels" turning .

Winderbeetle's work needs to start right away. At every moment he dictates me my psychology. How cool would that be ? Right now.... Right now.... Right now... Winderbeetle - you have to focus on being in an emotionally good State. Winderbeetle not only tells you what psychological process you're going through but also what psychological changes will fix the current state. So Winderbeetle operates in a dualistic mode