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@Eternity I think the pressure for marriage is making me nervous and anxious to the point it almost blocks my brain. It's a state of mind which I can't explain. I wish my family understood that this pressure is hurting my mental health.

The idea of soft spots. Soft spots are those that are cherishing, comforting, supporting, uplifting and helpful with the sequence of growth. An example of a soft spot is a moss stick that helps grow creepers upwards. This helps with growth in the upward direction. Another excellent analogy /example can be... A boat. A paper boat. What factors move the boat forward or what conditions? Both the ripples and the wind. In this case, ripples and wind act as soft spots. Putting barriers. One way to stop hard spots from gradually spreading like a mental cancer is to raise barriers whenever they come by.. What does this mean? Its like placing an alarm. Hold them in check.. One analogy I came up with. One way to imagine this would be... Let's say water flows in a stream. Slide a small piece of hardened block of wax and slightly push it through the stream. Divide the stream into two parts.. The blue zone and the red zone. You can mark the red zone wherever you want. The wax block represents the hard spots. When this block enters in your life, there's a beginning period marked by the blue zone where you want to process and know if this block is positive, neutral or harmful to your life. This is the blue zone, or evaluation zone. But before it fully impacts your life you have to yank it out so that it doesn't cause much damage. One way to stop it from further eroding your life space is to block it by placing the net. The net allows the water to flow but doesn't allow the block. It stops the block right in the middle and your life which is represented by the red zone remains safe and protected from this block aka hard spots

The 5 factor model for DSM. The DSM-5 Personality and Personality Disorders Work Group proposes to diagnose the disorders largely in terms of a 25 trait dimensional model organized within five broad domains (i.e., negative affectivity, detachment, antagonism, disinhibition, and psychoticism). Negative affectivity Detachment Antagonism Disinhibition Psychoticism

General subject discussion and understanding.

Egosyntonic and egodystonic. 5 factor model used in Dsm manual. In psychoanalysis, egosyntonic refers to the behaviors, values, and feelings that are in harmony with or acceptable to the needs and goals of the ego, or consistent with one's ideal self-image. Egodystonic (or ego alien is the opposite, referring to thoughts and behaviors (dreams, compulsions, desires, etc.) that are in conflict, or dissonant, with the needs and goals of the ego, or, further, in conflict with a person's ideal self-image. Abnormal psychology has studied egosyntonic and egodystonic concepts in some detail. Many personality disorders are egosyntonic, which makes their treatment difficult as the patients may not perceive anything wrong and view their perceptions and behavior as reasonable and appropriate.For example, a person with narcissistic personality disorder has an excessively positive self-regard and rejects suggestions that challenge this viewpoint. This corresponds to the general concept in psychiatry of poor insight. (I think I'll call it poor self understanding.) Anorexia nervosa, a difficult-to-treat (formerly considered an Axis I disorder before the release of the DSM 5) characterized by a distorted body image and fear of gaining weight, is also considered egosyntonic because many of its sufferers deny that they have a problem. (poor self understanding and denial basically). Problem gambling, however, is only sometimes seen as egosyntonic, depending partly on the reactions of the individual involved and whether they know that their gambling is problematic. An illustration of the differences between an egodystonic and egosyntonic mental disorder is in comparing obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. OCD is considered to be egodystonic as the thoughts and compulsions experienced or expressed are not consistent with the individual's self-perception, meaning the patient realizes the obsessions are unreasonable and are often distressed by their obsessions. In contrast, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder is egosyntonic, as the patient generally perceives their obsession with orderliness, perfectionism, and control, as reasonable and even desirable. ☕☕☕ For example an egosyntonic NPD victim will not realize that their symptoms are harmful to others around them. Whereas an egodystonic NPD patient will realize that their symptoms are not what they truly desire, they don't accept them, don't justify them, realize that others are being affected or harmed by their behaviors and want some degree of control and recovery technique to get out of it and be more normal.

Do you really like her? Also explore jealousy /insecurity issues. More self introspection needed.

3 steps 1st step. First detect hard spots. Be aware of them. Recognize them. Label them. Even classify them. But don't ignore or be oblivious to them. 2nd step. Get your mental scrub ready. Collect your thoughts and attention and energy into carefully analyzing and studying these hard spots. #ProblemSolving #Brainstorming. 3rd step Clean the system and scrub off these spots and wipe clean. All gone. Restore system to original state of sanity. Through which you can focus and carve out your next path. Hard spots gone. System cleaned.

Build your own house. The house and place of your dreams. Cut out shit that you don't need. Straight up. Detect, label and clean out hard spots. Treat your body and life like a house you wanna build File this under Home Sweet home

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You have to Break out of that system and break its back. But you need support. That is you need more people to be on board with you. One man phenomenon never works.

#therearebetterthingstodoinlife #forumfrustration

I won't even be in the meditation section anymore. Bad experience.. Bad reception. I was burned to the ground the moment I opened a thread there I felt scarred.. The same people who play victim are the same people who see no problem in attacking and gaslighting (ironic, yet understandable). I want to be like this woman, just young and free. The emotion I receive from her. Learn learn learn but don't be soaked in it.. Quickly gather yourself. Have that transparent slushy barrier where you can engage just to get a whiff yet disengage without much damage and stay alert and yet remain pretty much unscathed and simply surfing the waves of time. Keeping that inner sanctum as strongly guarded as you can, don't let anything get near it or it be snatched for any reason. Keep that quantum of peace well reserved and locked away.

Trees get more love than humans. Sad.

Because they play victim. I'm done with that crap. #wimpyhoes.

Seekers. Poets. Artists. Monks. Travelers. Learners.

It's that time of the month. When you feel moody, overwhelmed, bored and just like to have a perpetual resting bitch face. Fair enough. First label the hard spots and then toss them out or handle them.

So what I have decided is that I'll limit myself to a select few people who I'll talk to in pm. When I say few, it's barely there Kinda thing. How to be a mean bitchy kind of a woman because I always kinda have a hard time trying to be one! I think one can be a traditionally or conventionally good woman and yet try and have a healthy form of "mean bitchy" weapon or front just to keep emotional bllodsuckers out.

I'll only talk to few people in pm. Much better much freer. Why hadn't I thought of it earlier? Btw, pm is not exempt from its own set of woes. Some people are friendly in pm and turn into wolves later.

Won't be talking much to people around here, won't even give any advice anymore (not that there's any benefit to it anyway, when it comes to disappointment, people don't have to try too hard I guess), I will be closed off for the rest of this cruel frigid year.

Current mood.

At this point there's a bunch of people who have an unhealthy obsession with me. I can almost sense it in the air. I feel like I'm being scanned head to toe. Haha.. Cool it and knock it off. I'm not some Mata Hari, give me a break! Girl, learn to be salty please.

I'll be going on a sanyaas for the long haul. I'm kinda tired tbh about everything that latches on to my Empathetic energy. It's not good for me to remain entangled like this. I need to follow my two maps.. I need to sum up things, find closure from this place pretty much and then be on my way.. I have to say one thing though... I have grown up a lot emotionally in comparison to say who I was and how I was in the month of March here. Self Introspection helped me a great deal in getting clues to where I was going wrong.

I wrote a mouthful. There are more things I would want to write about which don't allow me to be myself and that would come later.