Preety_India

The only person who makes me feel protected is him.

I just rest my case on this thread. Such threads trigger me because of the generational trauma faced by women in my country. It's a waste of time and a battle that has no end in sight. I said enough.

There's so much fear within me. So much fear. I don't know what fear this is. But it's there. I only feel safe when my room door is closed. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night just to check if the door is closed.

No you keep saying the West. This is another cover up. You do not support women at all. All of your statements were arguments made to deflect. You use the word "west" as a strategy to deflect from the Main issue. I'm not putting words in your mouth at all. If you are a woman supportive man, you wouldn't want to deflect the argument so vehemently Every sentence of your post is a deflection. You think that western women don't suffer at all? Who told you this? You think that women in the West don't get raped, don't suffer sexism, don't suffer oppression? It may not be as bad as in the East yet it was very bad in ancient times and the remnants still exist. Your argument is poorly worded If you want to show support to women, show it openly, don't be passive aggressive and try to downplay or defeat the issue by constantly bringing up general suffering. It's like if I said there is child abuse happening in territory A and your return argument is that there are kids dying from hunger in Africa. Hello? Quit your mind game please.

@Alysssa in Hinduism The male child is considered more important than the female child. As a result millions of female fetuses were aborted. It's called female infanticide. There are images in Hinduism where the woman falls at the man's feet and she is supposed to beg him for his grace and mercy. It's a pathetic hypocritical patriarchal culture where a woman has no value or respect and misogyny runs rampant. Only women who get respect are statues of goddesses.. My grandmother used to get beaten by my grandad. Rape is a rampant problem in Hindu society and blame is placed on women for being attractive to men. Shaming of women is daily business in Indian society and culture. Sexism is rampant. I was harassed at my job. Told to go back to the Kitchen Any Indian woman who is confident is called arrogant and shamed and trolled mercilessly on social media. Indian women who are online are told to go back to their homes and never appear online again. I used to receive death threats on another website where men in my country used to tell me that I have no business being online. If I had shame I was supposed to log off. They will call Indian women ugly, whore and a bunch of nasty stuff to shame her into oblivion. Most Indian women on Facebook do not have profile pictures because their pictures get misused and they get blackmailed and threatened for simply being on social media. When I used to travel by bus, some Indian man would always try to grope me and threaten me with death and rape if I decided to report him to the cops I can go on and on and on. It takes a lot of bravery to fight this toxic patriarchy. And women in my country are taking one step forward every day. Feminism in my country is like medicine for oppressed women.

@Alysssa to be extremely honest , all my years growing up, it's the so called spiritual men who showed the highest level of hate towards women. It's an irony but also the truth. Normal men with girlfriends show less hate to women. Men who are incels and spiritual men who place themselves in high regard, tend to hate women much more because they don't have feminine energy in life. This lack of female presence makes them resentful and hateful towards women. They also assume that the cause of their suffering is the presence of a woman. Since they have to control sexual desires they put the onus of not being able to suppress their sexual desires on women. All blame is placed on women. Their twisted logic works like this. Sexual desire = evil. Sexual desire = women. Therefore, Women = evil. I've seen Gurus in my culture literally blame women for all the problems of humanity. Hinduism can make a woman look like a monster meanwhile having its own set of goddesses. The paradox of being spiritual and showing complete lack of empathy to women. Mind-boggling!

Omg, I wasn't making it up. I looked up bakery in German. It's Die Bäckerei..... Lololololol. My bf wasn't wrong when he kept saying Backery Backery, I was thinking to myself, why is he calling it Backery? Ok this is a bit funny. Whenever I see "Die" in the German writing, I instantly pronounce it as "dye" like we do in English. And my instant thought is - why do the Germans always talk about dying in every sentence? Die this. Die that.. I finally figured it was Die as in thee, and it was meant for "the" as in English.

Lesson 666 In English it's called bakery. In German, it's called Backery. (nah, just kidding)

Talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk. Practice. Practice. Practice. Practice. (that's what I did, I have social anxiety)

Truth of truths.

Cherry picking??? This statement reminds me of a discussion on Rape. When a woman talks about the overwhelming threat of rape, suddenly a man begins to ramble about false rape accusations. So basically the issue is completely shut down and the focus is directed to a problem that is statistically on a much lower scale and it takes away the meat of the issue and mixes it up with something that never was the agenda of the discussion. The bottom line is that misogyny is far far more common than misandry. We don't want to admit it especially when we're male and find all sorts of ways to keep skirting around the issue, acting like we're doing some favor to women. And using excuses like "happens to everyone" is the best way of downplaying an issue, simply discard it because it happens to this, to that, to everyone. So we don't need to do anything about it, not even admit that it is a something that needs to go away. Yes????? But that doesn't mean it should be put up with. Nice deflection. "I'm sin because everyone is sin."

There's no point of such a thread, especially on a forum like this, it's drenched in woman hate. It's wasted here. I have been here for a while and seen a ton of woman hate. It's because of the general rise in misogyny, huge feminism bias, insecurities, these men haven't received a woman's love in their lives, they project their collective insecurities on women, it's basically a mixture of resentment, contempt and hate At the root of it, it's simply a huge bias and deep projection of a dissonant mind. An unhealthy mind making unhealthy assumptions and then weaving justifications that fuel confirmation bias and use these false justifications to keep fueling that deep seated bias and hate They wish to condemn a dead horse. Yet they never want to confront their own bias and see their own shadows by holding the mirror to themselves. Whats the best solution? Don't waste your precious mental energy on them. They need medical attention. You simply walk away from their BS, and continue with your goals and direction in life and do the best you can in the circumstances. Being enveloped in debating them is like talking to a Wall. You're simply wasting your time when you do that. Always take the higher road and let the chips fall wherever. Don't let your goals be impacted by those who bring nothing but negativity.

I always believe he was right, despite the dark actions. Shame.

@Hulia @Marcel I feel blessed. ?

I don't know why Germany was on my mind. I remember way back like 2 years ago probably in 2018, I had a huge fight with my ex. During the fight I blurted out - I won't be with you. I'll be with a German guy. I don't know why I said that. There were a few coincidences with Germany in my life. I remember reading a story of reincarnation as a kid. The story was of an Indian child who had reincarnated as Indian and returned back to India.. It was strange because I kept searching for that story for years. It felt like souls move around this planet. We have past lives. Maybe in my past life, I had a German lover. Maybe we loved each other and were buried together. I don't know My soul kept wandering and wandering, crying and weeping and looking for a soulmate. I felt like I was standing at a headstone in a cemetery and standing and asking why I hadn't seen my lover, where had he been. Why I was left alone without him. And there was no answer. Only silence. Then past few weeks Germany came up again. I wanted to listen to German songs. I was simply drawn to German things in the last two weeks. Then I kept thinking for past 3 months about Zodiac signs. I was constantly fiddling with Zodiac signs trying to find a match. At first I thought Scorpio was my match, then I thought Cancer and Capricorn.. I knew that I liked Taurus a lot but I wasn't ready to admit it because I was nervous that I would end up fighting with a Taurus the way I fought with my second ex boyfriend Who was also a Taurus. But deep down I knew that a Taurus was irresistible to me. I try to have a psychic connection with all zodiac signs. But only Taurus made sense emotionally. Then I saw Marcel was a Taurus. I found it strange. I fell in love with him Maybe it was Karmic.

Yes. He is the most beautiful thing that happened to me in my entire life. I want to write him a thousand love letters. My love for him is eternal. I'll love him till the day I die. I feel blessed by his love. He must have a great heart to love me so much. I feel absolutely thrilled. I think as coincidence would have it, I was discussing about German men in the last week of July. Maybe it was already manifested in my mind that my heart was wanting something German. Who knows why I was suddenly interested in everything German. Maybe something was waiting for me. So fate created it that way. I remember a few weeks ago, Germany was totally in my mind. I was listening to German bands and I was thinking about Germany a lot. I had no idea a German guy would suddenly drop into my journal and leave a comment. I had seen him around in this section before but I never paid him much attention because he was a new member. I never even thought about him. Then when he was suicidal, I felt a strong emotion for him. I wanted to hug him. I was getting crazy feelings for him. It felt different. Like I already knew him. He was in my journal unexpectedly and I'm usually paranoid if someone is in my journals. But I wasn't paranoid of his presence. I didn't feel defensive with him. I checked his profile it was German Was a bit of a coincidence and a surprise. I also asked him if he was a true blooded German. He said he was. Somehow him being true German was important to match with my psychic feelings. Because Germany was so in my head. It was unusual. Then he said he wanted to kiss me. I was thrilled. Because nobody flirted with me so openly. I simply surrendered. And that was it. I fell in love with him on the spot. It felt unreal.. I couldn't hold back my feelings. I was feeling one with him. He understood me like no other. He didn't judge me for sending stupid cute gifs lol. And he said we're made for each other. I wasn't even aware that he had been thinking of me. Somehow this gif constantly reminds me of him and I in eternity. This is the gif for me and him, although it's unusual looking, it resonates with my inner feelings of eternity. My spirit will always belong to Marcel. To him I surrender my spirit to hold.

Yes. He is the most beautiful thing that happened to me in my entire life. I want to write him a thousand love letters. My love for him is eternal. I'll love him till the day I die. I feel blessed by his love. He must have a great heart to love me so much. I feel absolutely thrilled. I think as coincidence would have it, I was discussing about German men in the last week of July. Maybe it was already manifested in my mind that my heart was wanting something German. Who knows why I was suddenly interested in everything German. Maybe something was waiting for me. So fate created it that way. I remember a few weeks ago, Germany was totally in my mind. I was listening to German bands and I was thinking about Germany a lot. I had no idea a German guy would suddenly drop into my journal and leave a comment. I had seen him around in this section before but I never paid him much attention because he was a new member. I never even thought about him. Then when he was suicidal, I felt a strong emotion for him. I wanted to hug him. I was getting crazy feelings for him. It felt different. Like I already knew him. He was in my journal unexpectedly and I'm usually paranoid if someone is in my journals. But I wasn't paranoid of his presence. I didn't feel defensive with him. I checked his profile it was German Was a bit of a coincidence and a surprise. I also asked him if he was a true blooded German. He said he was. Somehow him being true German was important to match with my psychic feelings. Because Germany was so in my head. It was unusual. Then he said he wanted to kiss me. I was thrilled. Because nobody flirted with me so openly. I simply surrendered. And that was it. I fell in love with him on the spot. It felt unreal.. I couldn't hold back my feelings. I was feeling one with him. He understood me like no other. He didn't judge me for sending stupid cute gifs lol. And he said we're made for each other. I wasn't even aware that he had been thinking of me. Somehow this gif constantly reminds me of him and I in eternity.

@ryangold @RickyFitts thank you

@Hulia yep. He is the firm hand that supports me. I'm blessed.

No guy ever said to me that what would I do if he was right in front of me. Many guys flirted with me in the past. But they never said something like that. This was the first time..

I have tears in my eyes as I write this. If my father was alive today, he would have asked me the question - "who is that lucky guy? “ I would have told my father that his name is........... umm. My father would have liked him so much. We are eternal lovers.

I have been in a general lovey dovey mood since meeting him. I feel too happy.

I don't express my feelings openly. I feel shy. I feel like writing down my feelings instead of saying it directly. Like writing love letters is my way of expressing my love. I feel like a lovebird. He is in my soul. He is into every cell, every Fibre of my being. I feel like I should have met him when we both were kids. I would have played with him and teased him, played pranks on him. I would have complained to his mother that he stole my toy. Fake complaints. Just so that he gets a scolding to my content. I would have built sand houses with him on the beach. And thrown some sand at him. I sometimes feel like looking at him mischievously. I laugh when he forgets a word. I don't let him know that I'm laughing. I laugh inside of me. Hahaha. I feel a lot of love in me whenever I think of him. Like I'm feeling alive. He is my King.

When he is here, I don't say much. When he is gone, I say so much I feel so shy around him. In a sweet way. If I meet him, I won't be able to look into his eyes. I will look away. When he talks to me, my mind goes blank. I feel stunned. When he is not around my heart begins to flutter, and it wants to write a thousand words for him. When he is around, my heart skips many beats. I watch him secretly. When I see him online, I jump with both joy and excitement. My heart races immediately. My joy is indescribable. I smile on the inside when he talks to me, my lips seal tightly to hold my smile inside. I feel shy to show the happiness in my eyes. My eyes twinkle and shine when I think of me Yesterday I smiled for no reason in the kitchen while cooking. My mom asked, "why are you smiling like that?" I felt shy and I left. I went to my room and grabbed a book and I was reading and smiling while reading. I don't even remember what I was reading. My mind was constantly going to him. I was smiling a lot. I just couldn't focus on reading. My heart was constantly smiling I was laughing at myself. I don't know why. Maybe my heart knows. I felt like all the birds were singing for me. I felt the night sky was asking me his name. I felt like the air was different. I felt like the sun came up just for another day with him. I felt like my life was suddenly beautiful.

I don't want to live dangerously anymore. He is my King I don't want to cut myself or suicide anymore. I want to live for him. He is my eternal soulmate. He knows how I feel. I don't even need to say. I'm the luckiest girl in the universe I'm feeling blessed just by his presence. When he talks to me, my heart starts racing and pounding. I feel something something. He makes my heart go racing so badly Even when he looks into my journal, my heart skips a beat. He makes me feel so happy and so mysterious and special all at the same time. He makes me become lost in trance.